Alice is a happily married woman in her late thirties with one son. Lately she has been experiencing an obsession which she felt that is affecting her and her marriage. So she decided to do psychotherapy with Susan and see what this might hide.
"My husband loves to eat me when I ride his face. But every time I do this I am imagining me peeing in his mouth."
"So why don't you tell him that you don't like this position if you find it awkward."
"I didn't say that I find it awkward. I love it! And he loves it!"
"Then, what seems to be the problem."
"Recently, I got really obsessed about me peeing in his mouth. I am craving this. That's disturbing, because I know it's sick."
"That's not sick! Why are you judging yourself so much! It's called golden shower, a lot of couples do it. Perhaps you should talk with your husband about it. Maybe he will love it. A lot of man love it. And I know this because I hear it many times while I am on this chair. Then, what else is to blame on your side?"
"I actually talked with him and he freaked out! The first time I tried, I was riding his face and I told him as a joke that I feel like I wanna pee. And he was like <
>! And he pushed me away and said that I ruined the moment, he didn't want to continue anymore. Then, after a while, I tried to talk about this and I confessed him that I feel attracted by the idea of peeing in his mouth. He said that there's no way that he could do that! He finds it disgusting!"
"I am sorry! First of all, you don't have to feel sick. You should never feel guilt for any feeling..."
Bob is a happily married midlife man with two beautiful children. He has been doing psychotherapy for some time already, but he felt that he was missing something. Not talking about his pee fetish seemed like a missing piece from the puzzle of his life. So he decided to confess to his therapist Susan about how much he was dreaming about a lady peeing in his mouth since childhood. He then confessed how he ended up drinking pee from a lot of women during his adult life. And how he couldn't do this with his wife that he loves so much.
"I use to pay a mistress to pee in my mouth before I got married! It was great back then, but now I am married with children. And my wife just can't pee in my mouth. She finds it gross! Perhaps she will indulge at some point, but lately I've been having a strong lust to drink the pee of some woman. I feel guilty because these thoughts about drinking the pee of another woman make me feel like I am cheating her!"
"Don't be, you didn't do anything!"
"Yesterday, I was imagining a scenario in which I would have my eyes covered and an anonymous person is peeing in my mouth. I can't hear her voice, I can't see her, I don't know who is she, I don't know if she's young or not, I don't know if she is fat or thin, nothing. It's like when you're masturbating and your imagination connects the dots and adds the missing pieces. My mind would probably drive me to imagine her beautiful and sexy, although I can't possibly know if she really is. Perhaps I imagine that she is my wife. And will all those senses suppressed (sight, hearing, hand touching) I can mindfully concentrate on the smell, taste and the warmth of her pee, passing through my mouth, throat and flowing in my stomach and a full bladder filling it."
"OK! So do you perceive this fantasy as cheating your wife? You said that you don't know who is peeing in your mouth and that your mind fills the gaps by imagining it's your wife. It seems to me that this is a coping mechanism. You are searching a way to eliminate the guilt."
"Strangely, I don't feel this as cheating."
"Cheating has multiple components. It's the ethics of it, the principle. This comes from the our religious beliefs that there is God seeing what we do. And you can't hide from that, God is everywhere. But there's another personal component. The cheaters get attached to their lovers and this is where things get complicated, you get confused because you love both your wife and your mistress in some way. The feelings towards your mistress affect how you behave with your wife. And you get attached to your mistress because we are humans and humans get attached with anything, with our parents, our friends, our colleagues, our neighbors, our neighborhood, our house, our car, our pet, you name it. The mistress then falls into the same trap and then things get complicated. And your wife could be mad at you both because of a principle and because of the vows, but also because she is afraid that this would affect your feelings for her, she will be jealous. That's why people try to get into <
>. But can they really do that? Ideally, if you really don't get attached and you ignore the first ethical component, then cheating would be benign. Nobody would care if you do it."