I - or rather, we - have a great marriage. For four years, we've had an excellent relationship, great sex, and we love each other now more than ever. There's lots of reasons for our success, but I like to think that one of them is my own little invention... something that Laurie dubbed "Relationship Money."
When we first got married, money was tight. We were both just out of school with loans and entry-level jobs. Then, as now, I did make a little bit more than Laurie. I figured that we needed to remember to take some time out for us. And time outs cost money. So what I did was that I gave Laurie $20 every week (like I said, money was tight).
The first time, Laurie went nuts. She's very proud of being independent and able to pull her own weight. That's one reason that I love her so much. But then I explained that the money wasn't for her. That money, I told her, was for us. She could use it to buy sexy lingerie to spice up the sex, or to go out to eat with me, or to get movie tickets. She still grumbled, but she accepted it on a trial basis. Needless to say, we both loved the way that it allowed us to go out and enjoy ourselves without feeling guilty. It was as if we were dating again. We went out every Friday night. We couldn't always do much, but the point was that we kept the romance going. Eventually, we got raises, loans were paid off, and we came up with new ideas for the "relationship money" as Laurie so aptly named it when she first heard my idea. She started using it to pay me for doing chores or helping her out or giving her massages - whatever. Then I would have to use the money to take us out. Not that she doesn't still use it to buy sexy clothes or to get a manicure. It helps that we're now up to $100 a week – we both chip in. It's become a game now - she finds inventive ways to get the money to me, and I find inventive ways to spend it on us.
But then, we got into a rut. It's easier and easier to just stay home and forget that it takes time and effort to keep up a great relationship. The last thing we did with the relationship money was to buy a DVD. Although we do spend a lot of time curled up together watching movies... it's not exactly what the money was meant to do. On the other hand, we're busier at work than ever and time seems to just rush by us. Even the household chores are getting backed up. When I got home tonight, the sink was overflowing with dirty dishes. I didn't even notice it as I got out of my work clothes and slid onto my easy chair to soak in some TV before I shuffled off to bed. Laurie came by, bags under her eyes from staying up late studying for her next certification exam after coming home from work. She kissed the top of my head (balding now - it must be stress from over-work) and asked me to do the dishes.
"There's twenty dollars in it for you," she said with a familiar twinkle in her tired eyes. Normally, I jump at these chances because the dishes are so fast and easy compared to the other chores. But this was not the night.
"Baby - I just can't tonight. That asshole McDonald just put me on the Farris project on top of everything else I have to do. That's why I came home so late. Can I take a rain check on it?"
"What happened to us?" Laurie asked. "We used to have so much energy... and the house was so clean. We haven't even cooked in over a week."
So we cuddled up together and bitched about work for a while. My hand, as usual when we cuddled, was resting on Laurie's breast. They're pretty small (A cup), but they've stayed nice and perky. Normally, feeling her up like that gives me a raging hard-on, but tonight, even my dick was tired. Laurie noticed the problem.
"Viagra time already, old man?" she joked. I managed a weak smile. She prodded at my crotch, grinding my hand into her breast with her free hand. The little guy jumped at her actions, but failed to get up to full mast.
"Normally, I can't manage to keep that thing down. What's wrong honey?" she asked.
"Darlin' - we both know that this has not been the easiest month for us. I barely have enough energy to get up and go to work in the morning. I can't even begin to find the energy to do you justice."
"But we haven't even made love in -" She stopped to think, silently counting on her fingers. She stopped and started again. "I can't even remember." I couldn't either.
Her eyes gazed into mine. "We have to do something about this, Thad. This isn't the way that we're supposed to be." I knew that she was right, but work is work, and there were bills to be paid. We wanted to buy a house soon and start a family.
We looked at each other for a while. Suddenly, Laurie's face broke into a smile - the mischievous smile that I had come to love and dread.
"Call in sick tomorrow."
"But-"
"No buts," she interrupted. "This is serious. I'm calling in sick too, and do you think I have any less to do at work than you do? We have to do something before we become like the Stevensons!"
The Stevensons lived downstairs from us. They shouted at each other all the time. If they had relationship money, they must have spent it all on new dishes each week, the way they seemed to break them each night. It was a private joke between Laurie and I that we would never end up like them, hating each other's guts, but not having the self-esteem to leave.
Anyway, I had lots of sick leave saved up and so did she. My projects would have to wait a day... there's no stopping Laurie when she sets her mind on something. She got up and rooted around her purse. She came back and fanned out five twenties on the coffee table.
"This is yours," she said. "I'm paying you the entire week's money for mind-blowing sex. I mean seriously mind-blowing, can't feel my knees, fall in love all over again sex."
I had a rule that I would never use the relationship money (or any money, for that matter) to pay Laurie for sex. I just didn't believe in it. It wasn't what our relationship or our sex life was all about. I hesitated for a moment, thinking about that. But, then again, I was really turned on at the prospect of being paid money for sex. Yet it still seemed a little seedy – almost immoral. So I got up and pulled some twenties out of my wallet. Luckily, I'd been to the ATM that day. I fanned out my five twenties next to hers.
"No, I won't take money for sex. But I will make you a bet. There's $200 there on the table. First, I give you mind-blowing sex - then you give me the same. Whoever's mind is blown the hardest gets to choose whether our savings becomes a house fund or a kid fund. And the $200 is the first deposit." We had an ongoing argument over our future... she really wanted a house, and I really wanted kids. We were saving up money, but neither of us would bend on which way to go first. I was proposing that the winner would decide whether we had a kid or bought a house.
"Deal!" We shook hands. She insisted that we get a good night's sleep. I think she was trying to get an edge on me - making me think about it all night, so that by morning, I'd shoot off fast and she'd win the bet. And if I wasn't so tired, she might have even been right. I did get a chance to think about what I wanted to do to her. I knew all her weak spots by now, but this would have to be special - something that would stand out in her mind.
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In the morning, we both called in sick after waking up late. Laurie was a smart-ass and told her work that she had to stay home to take care of me. I got her back in the shower, as I tickled her mercilessly. I also paid special attention to her crotch and her breasts. I told her that they needed to be especially clean for today's activities. She squirted liquid soap at me. We were kidding around just like old times, and I realized how much I missed it.
We had a quiet breakfast as the anticipation became palpable between us. Our gazes locked often, sometimes sizing each other up to see what was in store for us, sometimes just thinking about how long it had been and how much we lusted after each other. Laurie insisted that we clean up the kitchen first. She says the mess distracts her, but I always wondered how she could see the kitchen through the bedroom's closed door. After putting away the dishes, I led her by her hand to the couch.