"Do you sometimes wish you could see them again?" Kevin asked one night when we lying in bed having just had sex.
"What do you mean?"
"The guys you have sex with when we exchange?" he explained.
We'd been talking about some of our exchange adventures and were tacitly agreeing that it was helping our sex life which had gone off the boil a little but was now recovering. That, though, was not the only beneficial effect of our swinging adventure. We also got on a lot better, rowed less and had a joint interest that we could talk about and enjoy together; a bit like taking up golf together, I guess! We had now exchanged partners six or seven times and were, or so we thought, 'old hands' at it.
"Maybe, but more I would like to have seen them before we had sex."
"What like with Megs and Tom?"
"Yes just like that, but I know it's not really possible."
"So was that your best sex?" he asked.
"Best of what?" I queried worrying a little where this was going and might lead.
"Well you know of the partners you've had?"
"The exchange ones you mean?"
"Yes not me, leave me out of it."
"Was Megs yours?" I replied using a question to answer one.
"Yes she was."
"Do you think that was because you knew her better?"
"Yes and you with Tom?
"Exactly."
"And would you like to see him again?"
"If they weren't over 200 miles away yes I probably would," I grinned.
"Well there is a way really isn't there?"
"A way for what?"
"Seeing and getting to know more before sex."
"And what's that?"
"Well meeting people from day to day life."
"What do you mean?"
"Well there must be guys you meet who you fancy isn't there?"
"Well I suppose so, but I don't think too much about that."
"Maybe we should?"
"And have sex with them?"
"Yes if you want to."
The conversation drifted along as he slowly described and we agreed that we could have an open marriage.
"What have sex with who we like and not tell the other?" I asked, somewhat aghast at the idea but also excited by it as well.
"That would be up to us, I would get very turned on if you described it for me, wouldn't you?"
"Yes I suppose I would as I do when we talk about you and Megs although," I said pausing and smiling as I rubbed his cock. "You haven't really told me that much about her have you?"
"Now, now don't be jealous as we musn't be in future must we?"
"What do you mean?"
"Well an open marriage can I imagine and hope if we have one be fantastic but could also be dangerous."
"How?"
"Well we need some rules or guidelines to avoid the problems."
It dawned on me quite slowly what he meant and after quite a long time discussing it interspersed with some exciting and really loving sex, we agreed on a set of rules.
Firstly, any sex should be casual and recreational, it should not be with anyone who knew either of us and it should not become an affair.
"We mustn't get too close Jay to anyone, that's a danger."
I got what he meant and wholeheartedly agreed with the 'rules' as well as agreeing to talk about the dates we had and what had gone on at them but, as he had said, only if we want to and if we don't the other needn't know anything about it.
*
We had gone past the not saying anything stage, the nodding moments and the. "Hi, how are you instances." We hadn't reached the chatting or even asking any questions level but that was coming. We'd seen each other perhaps six or seven times at the gym and had been on exercise bikes next to each other a couple of times. This was probably over a period of a month or so as the timings of our visits didn't often coincide and I didn't see him there about as often as I did.
He was young, probably early twenties, good looking, tall, slim and blonde; what more could a middle-aged woman desire? He knew several of the trainers and other members and always seemed to be smiling which he now directed towards me when we saw each other.
Like any woman probably would be, particularly those like me fighting middle-age, I was flattered by his attention and I knew or, thought I did it was likely to be more than simply friendliness. Again like any, well most, women I picked upon the vibes he silently transmitted and knew that his interest in me was more than simply two members of a gym. And then it hit me and I thought. "Why not?"
Kevin and I had agreed on the open marriage thing well over a month ago and we had not exchanged during that period. Also, I had not taken advantage of the freedom to go with someone without his knowledge and agreement so the 'why not?' began to have meaning, lots of it.
So far, I had only seen him in the gym and had been aware of his gaze on my rear and legs in the tight yoga pants and my full chest in the singlet but then one afternoon when I walked into the steam room he was there. Just wearing shorts I saw his physique and as I was wearing a one piece, black swimsuit he saw mine. He smiled and said. "Hi," and I nodded and smiled back as he sat across the room as good as vanishing in the steam. There were five or six of us in there with me being the only female and as usual the turnover was quite quick as few of us stayed for much more than fifteen minutes. I got up to leave and as I did he did as well so we went through the door together and I stood beside the pool watching the swimmers.
"Enjoy the steam?" he asked standing beside me?
"Yes but I am never quite sure just how much, if any good it does," I replied.
We chatted away about the gym, which was our only common interest for ten minutes or so then he went for a swim and I left the pool and got changed.
I am still not sure or, I won't admit, that the next day I went there at the same time but as I was sitting in the steam room he walked in and sat fairly near to me. There were only two others in there.
"You ok?," he said using a London expression for hi as he nodded and smiled.
"Hi?" I replied seeing his gaze or, maybe imagining it, running up and down my body in the white bikini I was wearing, completely by chance, I am sure.
One of the guys left so there was just him, me and one other in there.
"Hot today in here isn't it?" he rather inanely asked.
"Yes it does vary," I replied as another guy came in and the one in there left.
"Been in the gym for long?" he asked.
"Yes, half hour or so,"
"I didn't see you today."
"No I didn't you," I replied as the only other person in there left so we were alone.
"You use this much?" he asked, eyeing me up and down in a rather obvious way.