After a nice breakfast, Ross and Rachel sat outdoors in the cafΓ©. He drank tea, she drank coffee. It was a pleasant and private environment. Rachel sensed that Ross was deep in rumination about something. She asked, "What's on your mind, Ross?"
He looked resigned, "Oh, I've been distracted, thinking about things."
"What is it you want to talk about, Ross? Anything."
He leaned toward her and lowered his voice, "Rachel, we've never really had the sex talk, have we?"
"What is there to talk about? We have lots of sex. You get what you want, when you want it."
"Well...."
Realization dawned on Rachel, "Oh, I think I know. Something we haven't done. I hope it's not swapping, or threesomes, because I won't do that." Ross shook his head. "The only thing that's left is...anal." She could see in his face that this was the subject of their conversation. "Have you ever done it, Ross?"
"Nope."
"Neither have I. I am not morally opposed to it, but I don't want any part of it. I think that if we do it, it's your responsibility, your drive, your effort. I will not actively participate."
"I don't understand. You won't do it, but I can?"
"You can do whatever you want. I will not consent. I will not assist. I promise I will not report you to the authorities under any circumstances. I will not try to injure you in self-defense or in retaliation. I will not hold it against you if that is something you want to do. You are entitled to your desires, and I am entitled to my sense of dignity and self-respect."
"We can't both have what we want, then."
"Listen carefully, Ross. You can be a man, and take what you want. I will not consent, but I will not attempt to injure you or report you. It's your plan, your project, your willpower, your desire, your satisfaction. If you really want it, you'll take it."
"Um, it sounds like rape."
"Well, no. You have permission to take what you want, when you want. I will not consent to this activity, but if you really want it, you'll reach out and take it. I will not have to look back and remember that I consented."
"You want me to do it non-consensually?"
"Again, I'm not saying I want you to do it. If you want to do it, you will, and I will not gouge your eyes or call for help. It'd be your show. Listen carefully," she leaned in to him, "be a man, and take what you want."
"So, I can do whatever I want to you, but it's my responsibility. You don't have to consent, or agree. I can just force myself on you, without consequences."
"No consequences, legal or romantic. My conscience will be clear. I can hold my head up high, and tell myself that I did not consent."
"Hmmmm. Does this apply only to the aforementioned practice?"