Jennifer's story: Tuesday night
"Jen, that would be wonderful," he said to me. I told him that we couldn't make love because 'it's not the right time of the month,' and he completely understood. "Waking up with you last Friday morning was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. Well, maybe the second greatest."
"What was the first greatest?" I asked him.
"When you said that you'd marry me, of course!" I couldn't help myself, I just threw myself on Mark and covered his face with kisses, pretty urgent kisses, really. I had to slow myself down, because I knew that if I kept this up, we would wind up making love, my messy period and all, and I caught myself thinking that maybe that wouldn't be all
that
bad. Then another part of me said no, stop, you're not quite ready for that yet. Some of the things Monica had told me about, told me I could do to him, well, maybe . . . .
"Listen, Jen," Mark began, "this is all really new to us, to both of us, but honestly, you can tell me anything, and I won't be shocked or offended. So, you're on your period." Darn, he's being pretty blunt here! "All women have them, and that's part of life. You don't have to be shy or hesitant about stuff like that, because we both know what happens and we've got another sixty years or so of being honest with each other about periods and aches and pains and bruises. If it's too soon for us to make love while you're having your period, fine, I respect that, and I'll
never
push you to do something you're not comfortable doing."
"You're not upset?" I asked him.
"No, of course not, how could I be? I've got the most wonderful woman on the whole block in my apartment, kissing me."
"Just on the block?" I managed to tease him back, because I knew he was teasing me by limiting it to the block.
"Maybe the whole neighborhood?"
"Mark, you have the same sense of humor as your mother."
"Yeah, I know. I've actually toned it down a bit until we got to know each other better, because I'm still learning what the limits of your sense of humor are."
"Until we get to know each other better? We're engaged, and sitting here talking about sex during my period, and you're waiting until we get to know each other better?" Oh, my gosh, I could never have said that a day ago, even an hour ago!
We kind of settled down a bit and read a bit more, because we both had homework assignments. I had my feet back in his lap, and Mark was gently massaging them, when I remembered: I used to see my mom and dad like this. Oh, my God, if we can have a marriage like my parents . . . .
Around ten, I shut my book - Mark was still reading - stood up, and headed for the bathroom; I had to take care of something before bedtime. I had to pee, of course, and clean up, changing my tampon. I'd never used tampons before yesterday, and it felt strange putting one in, but I didn't want to wear a heavy pad to bed with Mark. I debated not wearing my panties, but that would leave this white string hanging down, and I wasn't sure that I wanted Mark to see that. Then I thought, what the heck, Mark was right, we had sixty years of periods and aches and pains to be honest about in front of us. I had to take a deep breath to steel myself for walking out naked with this ugly string hanging down, but I did it.
"Oh, wow, Jennifer, you look so awesome! Let me use the bathroom and brush my teeth, and I'll be right in. Oh, did you notice? I got you a toothbrush and some cream rinse and a hair dryer."
You know what I did? I went right back in the bathroom with Mark, and we were both brushing our teeth together, jammed up against the small sink in his bathroom. It was a bit weird, because I was naked and he was still completely dressed, but, you know, even that seemed natural to me. I did at least leave the room so that he could pee in private.
Mark had put clean sheets on the bed, and had made it for me, which couldn't have been fun in this tiny bedroom. There was no headboard, and one side of the bed, Mark's side as it worked out, was jammed up against the wall. There was just enough room for a small night stand to be wedged between the bed and the other wall. The room had this weird transom window which looked out into the hall, of all things, but it was seven feet up, so no one could see in. There were a couple of feet free at the foot of the bed, and then the strange door into the bathroom. The bathroom had two doors, one into the living room, and one into the bedroom, off of the same corner post. There was no overhead light, but a single wall sconce light near the door. It was a severely plain room, but I had lost my virginity in this tiny bedroom, and so had Mark.