Anna Perkins. Although I hadn't seen her since we graduated from high school, that cute redhead had never left my mind...or my heart. Even during my brief marriage, I always wondered about Anna. Had she married? Had kids? Where was she?
I first met her when we were both 14-year-old freshmen in high school. We hit it off as friends from the beginning. She had a few close friends, but I was her only close male friend. Still, we never dated because her father refused to let her date until she was 18. Even after turning 18 during March of her senior year, he still wouldn't let her date until she graduated from high school.
Her mother died tragically when Anna was only 9. She was at a stop light on her way home from work when a drunk driver plowed head-on into her car. Her dad had the responsibility of raising their only child. I asked her on a few occasions to meet her dad, but she never seemed interested. In retrospect, she almost seemed frightened.
Some things didn't make sense, even back then. I was clearly her closest male friend, maybe closest friend of any gender. She had a couple of female friends, Juanita and Candy, and the four of us spent several lunches together. Sometimes, it was just Anna and I for lunch. I'm sure more than a few classmates, other than our closest friends, assumed that we were an item.
We talked about just about anything. We shared so many common interests. We were both avid baseball fans of the Dodgers. We enjoyed the same music and TV shows. So often, I wanted to share my real feelings for her, but I felt that she only wanted me as a friend, nothing romantic. I clearly had stronger romantic feelings than she did, or so it seemed.
I wasn't the best student. I knew that. My home life wasn't ideal, either. My dad was by far the best influence in my life, but he was so busy working to make a decent living. My mother was a stay-at-home mom, but didn't do much around the house. In short, she was lazy. My dad was probably the hardest working man that I knew, and mother was the absolute opposite. She didn't seem to have any maternal instincts. She wasn't abusive, she was just emotionally distant.
Dad worked at a machine shop during the day and then worked 3 hours each night for a janitorial company from Monday - Friday. Even though he was off on weekends, he was always busy doing chores around the house and as I got older, I became a very good helper for him. Eventually, he trusted me enough to have me do minor repairs myself while he worked on another project.
Not only did Anna's father not let her date, he wouldn't even let her go to my house, even with my parents at home. Dad talked to him once on the phone, but Mr. Perkins made it clear that it wasn't going to happen. Dad recalled that he seemed rather rude over the phone. Something about his voice made Dad not even want me around him.
After high school, she would call me a couple of times per week and it was like old times. We could spend hours at a time just talking. To hear her voice and to hear her laugh was worth the late night calls and lack of sleep at work the next day.
She had told me that it was a bad idea to try to call her, but that she promised to stay in touch. Suddenly, a couple more weeks went by and I hadn't heard from her at all. I took it upon myself to call her home. Her father answered.
"Who is this?" a gruff voice asked me when I asked to speak to Anna.
"This is Cal Arnold, a friend of Anna's from high school."
"Yeah, I've heard about you. What the hell do you want with her?"
It sounded more like an accusatory remark than a legitimate question.
"Just to talk, Mr. Perkins. Just like we have since we were freshmen."
"Well, I don't want you talking to her and get the fuck off of my line. I don't want you around her or even calling her. Go find another piece of ass."
I was crushed. Another piece of ass? I hadn't heard from her in two weeks. In our world, that was unheard of. Even during summer vacations, we'd talk at least 2-3 times each week over the phone. I knew that I hadn't done anything to make her mad at me, so it occurred to me that she didn't just have an over protective father, her father was just a giant prick.
I had no ambitions of furthering my education past high school. I worked full time at a furniture warehouse stocking and delivering furniture to homes. I lived at home, at my dad's request. Dad had grown tired of mom's laziness and apathy towards everything in the home, including their sex life. Dad didn't go into much detail obviously, but there wasn't enough going on in the bedroom to keep him happy away from it.
Mom wasn't a heavy drinker, but she smoked non-stop. She drank sodas and watched a shit load of TV all day long. Sometimes, dad would get off from his job at the machine shop and get he and I a hamburger and fries to bring home for dinner. Prior to leaving from work, he'd call the house and ask mom what we were having for dinner. When it became obvious that mom hadn't even started on dinner yet, dad would get the two of us hamburgers.
This pissed off mom every time. Each time she'd ask, "Where's mine?" and dad would always answer, "You've had time to make whatever you want for dinner. I haven't. After a few times of her fruitless complaining, mom quit asking and would just walk away. I always thought it was funny, yet sad as well. Why did mom let herself be like this? She was still a reasonably attractive lady. She had gained a few pounds, but with just a little bit of self-respect and better hygiene, she would have still been a head-turner; especially with her large breasts.
I eventually figured out that dad was getting some action on the side. His trips to the hardware store on Saturdays often took 3-4 hours. With some very basic detective work and a huge tip from a high school friend whose dad owned a motel about 15 miles from town, I knew that he was visiting a young widow that lived down the street from my friend. She was 45 and dad was 40 at the time they began their frequent disappearances. Although I don't condone adultery, I could certainly understand why he felt a need to go elsewhere. That didn't justify it, but it did explain his actions.
People that know me know that I take two very strong characteristics from my dad; a stellar work ethic and the ability to manage and save money.
From the time I began working full-time after graduating from high school, I put nearly my entire paycheck into a savings account. I paid for my truck insurance, gas, and few dollars to my dad to help with groceries. Mom never saw the money. That was money to help with our dinners when dad would go out and get hamburgers, burritos, or a pizza on his way home from work...and before leaving for his second job.
Dad worked both jobs until his death 5 years ago. I have no doubt that he worked himself to death. Working both jobs for over 30 years straight with hardly ever a vacation took its toll on him. He was only 60. Mom didn't know what to do, other than begin drinking recklessly. I had already moved out of the house and she was left alone. She became even more distant and reclusive. Nothing I could do would help. She refused any attempts at rehab. She died of alcohol poisoning just over a year later.
What probably sent mom over the edge was that although dad had a small insurance package that he purchased from a funeral home, it only covered the funeral and burial expenses. Dad had purchased a separate policy, without mom's knowledge, worth 100,000 dollars...with me being the only beneficiary. I'm sure he intentionally omitted mom's name, knowing she would just blow the money. My relationship with my mother was never that great to begin with, but this knowledge made her even more distant. Even my offers to share some of it didn't change her...so I just kept it all.
I did live at home for the next 7 years after graduating from high school. When I was 21, a friend of mine that I had met at my bowling league, asked me if I'd consider a career as a truck driver. It's something that I had considered, since it was a job that was always in high demand...and most importantly...less demanding on my back than lifting couches and other heavy furniture all day long.
My friend, Andy, introduced me to his boss. He worked for a large company that had their own school for training truck drivers. They paid a very modest salary for six weeks and then covered the costs of the written and over-the-road tests. My only obligation to them was to sign a loyalty pledge for two years to work for them. That seemed like a good deal then and in looking back, it was the bargain of a lifetime for me.
Although Andy drove locally, the new drivers usually got the long hauls that required several days away from home at a time. I drove all over the SW part of the USA. From our home office in Bakersfield, Ca. to Southern Nevada, Arizona, New Mexico, and as far west as El Paso, Tx. There were also a few runs in Utah and Colorado.
The days were long but the money was better than any I'd seen before. I wasn't rich, but compared to barely above minimum wages at the furniture store, it was as if I'd hit the jackpot.
Again, living at home did help. I wanted to move out sooner, and dad wanted me to go out on my own. However, he also knew that by staying at home and paying a pittance for rent, I would save a lot more money. Also, I was gone for so many days at a time that it didn't make sense to pay normal rent for even a one bedroom apartment that I may live in only 10-12 days per month.
At age 26, I bought the place that's been home until now. It's an older home in an older neighborhood, but it's probably more structurally sound than any new tract home built today. It's a simple 2 bedroom, 1 bath home with barely 1100 square feet. I added an extra bathroom, private patio, and a hot tub in the next 3 years. I made my final mortgage payment on it 1 year ago. I enjoy living in a quiet area with great neighbors.