I suggest that if you are in love with someone and wish to share intimate oral stimulation that you shower with your lover before any love making session. Starting off with a shower will make you both relaxed, knowing that both of you have squeaky clean bodies. Take turns soaping and fondling each others bodies. Use your whole body as a wash rag, make it really soapy and rub up and down each others torsos. Sliding your crotch up and down a nice shapely ass turns both men and woman on. Men avoid any penetration in the shower because the purpose of this lesson is to clean, relax, and tease your partner and yourself so that you both will voraciously attack each other sex with your succulent mouths.
Learn how to wash your ladies pussy in a way that pleases her. Woman do not like a soapy pussy so be careful. I wash my lover's pussy with the stream of the shower on her crotch and use my tongue in all the nooks and crannies of her flowery folds to get her sexually interested in more oral activities later in bed. Avoid licking the clitoral area because you do not want her to come in the shower and get turned off for more oral play. Afterwards you both need to go to bed immediately for more fireworks.
Make sure that her anus is clean by inserting a soapy finger. (A good loving man always has one of his middle finger nails cut short so when he stimulates his loves ass she will not feel a sharp nail.) As you showering with your lover clean her anus gently with a soapy finger and she will love you for it. If you really want to give her a treat use one finger on her clit, and with your finger in her ass, screw your soapy digit in and out of her ass and give her a quick taste of pleasure just short of orgasm as a real tease. Make sure you clean your finger good afterwards in the shower and remember to use that same finger for anal play only. Never put a finger that you slide into your lover's ass into her vagina without thoroughly washing it first to avoid any bacteria getting into her vagina.
Ladies do not be afraid to grab your loves cock and balls and soap them hard. As you masturbate him look him in the eyes and let him know who is boss. Get him nice and ready, just before he comes squeeze the base of his dick, grab his balls pulling them away from his body to discontinue his pre-orgasmic climax, giving him a good case of blue balls. This is your payback time to tease. Soaping a man's cock brings him to submission faster than anything else.