It's that time of year again. Time to look back on another year. Evaluate your life and the progress you made this year. Time too to set those elusive goals, New Year's Resolutions, whatever you call them. For me, it is something that I have been doing for most of my adult life. In the past decade or so, it has become almost an obsession. I have read dozens, if not hundreds, of books on the subject.
But as with most people (probably most of you, if you are reading this article, when I look back each year I have managed to achieve less than half of my goals. It is like the old adage that resolutions are usually broken before the end of January. So you might ask, isn't it all just a big waste of time? Why keep doing something if you know it never works?
It does work though. It works because it forces us to look at our lives, those things that we value, those things that we want to achieve and it makes us prioritize them. There is n old saying that applies well, 'Shoot for the stars and you might just reach the moon.' That definitely applies to my goals last year as a writer.
As I began my career as an indie-writer, I had lofty goals. Lofty equals unrealistic. I was going to write and publish a novella each month and three full-length novels. Now it is not that I cannot write that quantity. On an average day, I write about three thousand words. And on my most prolific, I have written over eleven thousand.
The problem with my goal setting was that there is more to my live than simply writing. Other demands upon my time. And that is where most of us go wrong in setting our goals. We fail to see the picture. We focus upon just one thing and neglect all of the other trees around it. I am an indie-writer with three novellas to her credit.
But I am also a full-time mom to a special needs child and that means there are way too many days were I am able to write absolutely nothing. To put things in perspective though, if you look at my goals for that role as mother, I achieved every single one to one degree or another. Even if I did not completely achieve something, I am well on the road to doing so.
That is the first rule of goal setting: Realize that you have many roles and all of them are in conflict for your precious time. So you have to make choices, sometimes hard ones. As you set goals for the new year, decide which areas of your life, what roles, are most important to you.