How To Give Great Handjobs

The paraphrased clinical definition of a handjob is masturbating an erect penis with one's hand. Just good ole fashioned jerking off is one of many slang terms for it. A handjob separates itself from many other types of masculine sex because a guy can perform it by himself. Because of this, the handjob has a reputation of being the lowest form of sex desired after intercourse or blowjob. If you understand the male penis, are willing to put some variety and effort into your performance, you can give great handjobs to your partner that will make him cum like a teenager once again. I want to share my knowledge and give you tips so that you also can completely understand the process which will enhance your handjob skills.

Preparation

If you have read my other "how to" writings, then I will once again start out by telling you that before you engage in any type of sex, you will first need to stimulate your partner mentally. What so many people, who are poor at sex, don't understand, that any type of sex is just as much mental as it is physical. Understanding, accepting, and implementing your partner's desires, fetishes, and quirks are what gives him the powerful orgasms he desires.

One needs to understanding that there are many different factors that can be considered in performing a good handjob. Those factors that can be considered are hand placement and position, surface coverage, speed, dick angle, stroke technique, lubrication, fetish inclusion, and cum guidance. If you consider all these factors in deciding the type of handjob you're going to give, then you can enhance your skills and his pleasure.

Stroke Technique and Lubrication

Basically there are two types of stroke techniques and then sub-variations from those. The first one is when you actually stroke the prick by sliding your hand up and down the surface which makes sense as to why I call it the "full hand slide" technique and the second technique is when you grip the cock and "choke" or stroke it by moving the skin back and forth rather than sliding your hand.

When using the full hand slide technique, the most common and what needs to be considered is whether you should lubricate the penis or not. If you are actually going to slide your hand on the skin of the entire length of the erection, I recommend using some type of lubrication. If you are not planning on having any other type of sex during the handjob, then that increases your choice of options for lubrication. Any sexual lubrications like Astrogluide or KY Jelly work great but they are water based which is exactly what you need for intercourse but those lubrications can get tacky and sticky if the handjob starts taking some time to complete.

Oil based lubricants are the best type of lubricants to use if you are going to perform only a handjob all the way to completion. Products like alcohol free lotions, Vaseline, baby oil, and those types of products are great because they stay greased and lubed throughout the handjob and you will have to reapply less frequently. If you really want to add to the stimulation, warm the lubrication up first. I have discussed this in one of my previous writings. Soak the lube bottle in very hot water for a few minutes or wrap a heating pad around it for a while. When the warm lubrication hits the guy's cock, he will let out a pleasure gasp and you will be on your way. Another positive when you use lubrication is the slurping or smacking sound it makes as you beat it. That sound can be very erotic and help him cum quicker. The down side to oil based lubricants are they can taint the semen if you plan to "clean up" the mess.

The phrase "clean up" refers to eating the cum after it has been ejaculated all over him, your hand, or jacking him off directly into your mouth if you don't have the availability of letting if fly everywhere. If you plan on doing this, you don't want chemical products mixed with the semen. When I know I'm going to clean a guy up, I will either use saliva, his own precum, or I will use the second type of technique which I will discuss here shortly. If you choose to use saliva, you have probably seen people spit on the cock or lick their palms. Those are effective but you may not provide enough lube, especially if the guy is well hung. I try to make a point to at least suck on it for a little while to spread the saliva evenly. Also, sucking it, will give the guy more time to get worked up and leak more precum. If you don't have time to suck on it, then you probably aren't going to have the opportunity to clean it up anyway.

If you are trying to get more of his natural lubrication, there are a couple of good techniques to make a man leak more precum. The first one is getting him extremely aroused mentally. Describe what you are going to do to his prick, tease it, involve yourself in foreplay, incorporate a fetish of his, talk really dirty or whatever you can do to make him extremely hard. The more aroused mentally he becomes, the more precum he will ooze. Another way to draw out more precum is to get your man hard, then allow it to soften slightly before you get it hard once again. This will allow some tension to be released and the precum can flow more freely.

When you use the full hand slide technique, you have to be careful to not slide your hand up over the cock head for most guys. It is a sensitive area and actually tickles more than it feels good especially after he has ejaculated. Now if you use the "choke stroke" technique, then on some guys, you can jerk the head only but grip it very loosely and usually with little surface coverage in which I will describe later. That will raise the level of sensitivity but prevent it from tickling.

The second stroke technique is as I previously mentioned, when you "choke" or "milk" the cock. You grip the erection and move your hand up and down, using his foreskin as the sliding force. Your hand does not move very much on the surface of the shaft. Obviously, if the guy is uncircumcised, he has plenty of foreskin to work with. Even if he is circumcised, there is enough loose skin to move up and down, but many people do not realize that is occurring. This is the primary technique used on short cocks. I will discuss the variations of these two techniques later in this writing.

I mix up my techniques according to the guy's natural reproductive system. Penis's are like snowflakes in that no two are exactly alike and I'm not just talking about shape and size. Some guys will get extremely hard with a tight, puffed up cock head and some will be spongier to the touch. Some guys will have a smooth, tight shaft while others will have that veiny, meaty feel. Some guys will leak a ton of precum and some will rarely produce any. The variations go on and on. If you learn your man's cock and what feels the best for him, you will be able to jack him off to an earth shattering orgasm.

For example, when I hooked up with this black athlete with a huge, uncut dick, sometimes he would continuously leak precum like a faucet. I am not kidding, it would literally, just flow out, nonstop. When I would jerk him off, I never needed lubrication. The problem I had was when I would see all that precum oozing out, it was just too tempting not to put it in my mouth. I don't remember giving him very many handjobs because I always ended up sucking him off but when I did, I used that precum to my advantage and I could use the full hand slide technique whether I was using one hand or both of them on that beautiful 11 inch black tool of his.

Hand Placement and Position

Little attention is given to hand placement during a handjob. There are the basically four different hand placements on a cock and all have a slightly different feel which does make a difference. When a man jerks himself off, biologically, his hand placement is mostly with his fingers underneath the shaft toward the balls and his thumb is overtop the shaft toward his belly button. I will describe each hand placement in accordance to where the fingers are placed.

This "fingers underneath" hand placement can be mimicked by standing behind your man and jacking him off which has the nickname of a "reach around" or you can sit down with your legs spread. Have your man sit down directly in front of you and his back should be almost up against your stomach. Have him put his hands behind his back and you use your hands as if they were his. If your man is really hung, you can reach both hands around and jerk him off. The negative to this position is that you cannot see his cock during the handjob or when he cums. Watching your man cum is an exciting visual for you.

Another "fingers underneath" hand placement position is the "sit beside." It really doesn't matter which side you sit on but I do recommend the side of him that matches up with your dominant hand so that you can just reach across your body for a comfortable grip. If you sit on the opposite side, you will just have to lean over his lap and twist your body to achieve the same grip but it can be just as effective. Another position where you can use this hand placement is have your man lay flat on his back. You straddle his abs and sit facing away from his face and towards his cock. Sometimes in this position, I will scoot down and put my cock up against his and jack both of us off simultaneously and see which one cums first and then use that cum as lubricant for the other one. It is exciting when we cum at the same time.

The final "fingers underneath" position can be obtained when you are positioned between his legs and you turn your hand upside down. He could be laying, sitting or standing and you have to position yourself accordingly to gain the best grip for "milking' him. This position isn't used as often, because it usually isn't conducive for comfort for the handjob giver. Sometimes handjobs take some time and in this position, your hand can get tired pretty quickly, but it is a nice change once in a while.

The second and third hand placements are "fingers left" and "fingers right." This is when you grip the cock with those fingers to the side and the thumb is on the opposite side. Obviously, sitting, standing, or lying beside your man is the best position for this. This grip and position is also the best position to vary your dick angle in which I will discuss a little later. When I use this position, I often will have my guy lay down flat on his back and I will turn my head sideways and lay my cheek on his stomach facing his cock as I jerk. This gives you so many options along with the hand and wrist comfort. Not only can I vary my dick angles, I can suck on it anytime, finish him off with my mouth, take a facial, or basically anything I choose.

The final hand placement is with the "fingers on top" grip. There many positions that will allow you to perform this grip. Your man could be sitting, laying, squatting, on his knees, or standing. You have to place yourself between his legs and face him. If he is lying down, you can sit between his legs and jerk him off or you can lay down on your stomach while beating it. This gives you close access so you can occasionally lick or suck on it. I like to sit with my legs spread in a v formation while he sits with his legs spread the same way facing me. I will have the guy sit close enough and have him drape his legs overtop mine. This position will give you options. You can give him a standard jerk off, you can put your cock up against his and jack both of them off simultaneously, you can have him put his legs up high and perform anal stimulation on him like inserting your finger, butt plug or any other object he likes. I have had guys like many things in their ass when I jerk them off and not just gay guys.

I always think of Roy. He was a married straight guy who lived next to my Grandmother. When I would stay with her in the summer, I frequently, would go over to his house and get him off when his wife was at work. Most of the time I would suck him off but occasionally I would give him a great handjob. Whether I would be laying between his legs with his cock buried in my mouth or sitting on the floor jerking him all over himself, he loved when I would put a finger in his ass just as he came. I would be doing my business while using my middle finger to encircle or massage his anus and he would yell out, "Put it in" or "Do it now" and I would slip that finger straight into his rectum and he would cum so hard. It was an exciting see him buck like he was riding a bull in a rodeo even if sometimes it was difficult to hand on until he finished.

If you are going to perform the "fingers on top" grip and you are on a lower plain than him, you can also be creative. He could be sitting on a chair or couch and you could be on the floor between his legs. He could be standing while you kneel in front of him or he could be on his knees with you lying on your back between his legs. These positions can let you use your tongue on his balls or his asshole. You can also once again insert things in his ass for the prostate message handjob. There are endless possibilities when you jack your man off.

Dick Angle

I spoke about dick angles in my "receiving anal sex" writing. Many people don't realize that the angle you have a hard dick from the body changes the feel ever so slightly. Obviously, you could move the cock away from the body and create many angles but basically there are about 4 that can make a difference in an orgasm. If a guy is laying down on his back and you have his dick sticking straight up in the air, that obviously is a 90 degree angle. If his cock is barely off his stomach that is about a 15 degree angle while in-between those two angles are about a 45 degree angle and if you have the erection pulled down between his legs it is about a 120 degree angle.

The larger the angle means the cock is pulled further from the body. The further the cock is from the body, the more stamina it has to resist cumming because the base of the cock that connects to the body creates tension. This tightness slightly decreases the sensation that leads to orgasm. This will also explain why men have more sexual stamina and don't cum as quick when you are riding them as opposed to them fucking you in other positions. All the angles feel great but each has a different feel. The biggest advantage of a handjob, is you can vary the angles throughout the act. If your guy is fucking you or you are giving him a blowjob, once you establish your position, the dick angle will not change much unless you change positions.

For example, I may be beating a guy off with his cock at a 90 degree angle and I may lean forward, shift his cock at 15 degrees (right next to his stomach), and rub his abs while you say, "Shoot it all over your belly right here. I want to lick it all up." That cock angle change along with the mental stimulation brought on by your dirty talk, will make him cum very quickly and powerfully.

Some other reasons you may change the dick angle of your handjob would be to aim the cock so it will cum in a desired direction or because you are trying to perform multiple tasks at once. I will give an example of each one. Aiming it in a desired direction is very common. I love seeing men cum and also enjoy the power over making him do it. Some people may find it revolting but I really enjoy semen. I love the taste of it and yes, occasionally I run into a guy who's cum tastes bitter but for the most part, I like it. Even when I jack a guy off and he starts cumming, all I can think about is how it will taste. This is why I give a ton more blowjobs than handjobs. Because of this fetish I have, when I change handjob angles, it is usually to aim it in my mouth or face. I will have a guy laying on his back just beating his meat at a 90 degree angle. Just as he gets close, I will lay my head on his stomach and finish him off in my mouth. Obviously, there are many things to aim a cumming cock at and I will get more into that later in this writing.

An example of performing multiple tasks at once would be messaging his balls with one hand as you jerk him at a 90 degree angle with the other. As you continue, you decide you want to lick or suck his balls instead of messaging them. You shorten your angle to 45 degrees to give yourself room to get your mouth down there. Eventually you may decide to shorten your angle even more so you can get further under his nuts to rim his asshole. The great thing about handjobs, you can keep changing angles as needed. And because there are so many different angles and sensations, you can keep your handjobs exciting and fresh.

Surface Coverage and Speed

Surface coverage refers to the amount of the shaft that is actually touched during a handjob. Speed refers to how fast you move your hand up and down when you jerk. Now obviously the most common surface coverage is the one handed, four fingers and a thumb handjob. Some guys like a lot of coverage and some guys like very little coverage. When I jerk a guy off, I usually perform all of the choices and let him decide what he likes best. The most coverage would obviously be the two handed handjob with one hand positioned on top of the other. This can only be accomplished if your man is well hung. I have been lucky enough to have had several big cocks at my disposal but those are a minority and that is only because I have had so many dicks. When performing a traditional two handed jerk off, keep your top hand where it runs just under the helmet or rim of the head and either give slow, smooth strokes or a slower down stroke with a quicker, jerk on the upward strokes. From my experience with most men, it gets too sensitive on the head if you run your hands too high. Even when I accidently do it, I will have guys squirm and almost take their hand to move mine away. Also, a traditional two handed handjob gets tiring and uncomfortable pretty quickly for the giver so if your man hasn't given you his load in a short amount of time, then there are some varieties to the two hander.

I like to keep one hand on the base and just hold it still while I stroke with the other hand very quickly or stroke in a circular motion up and around the cock. You can also stroke with both hands in a circular motion. This technique is also very good while you're sucking him off. I have also stroked both hands in opposite directions but that becomes difficult to sustain if your man takes a little while to blow. Another two handed technique is instead of stacking one hand over the other, stack your hands on top of each other to form one giant hand. You can then use all the jerking techniques including the twist. These techniques are great if the guy has a really thick cock along with length.

Of course the one handed handjob is the most common not only because two hands cannot fit on most cocks, but it is comfortable for the giver and the giver has more freedom to change the angle and stroke technique at any time. I will tell you that if your man is uncircumcised, slower speeds in the beginning are better because you can use all that excess skin to your advantage and speed up later if needed.

I have had some men like very little surface area covered when I'm beating them off. For example, you can use just your thumb and trigger finger as the only part of your hand on the cock during the handjob. It looks like your signaling the "ok" sign. You can use that grip and twist it around the hard-on or use a steady traditional stroke. When covering very little surface are on the cock, there are times when you can stroke the head of the penis without much negative sensitivity for the man. I have made many men cum by using that two finger stroke on just the cock head. The key is to apply very little pressure by using a light grip. I was even with this one guy for a little while who could cum with me just using my thumb. He had a huge penis head that had an over exaggerated cleft underneath it. I would take my thumb and place it right in that split and rub up and down. I swear it would take him no time to spew his cum everywhere with just my thumb. I could also make him cum with just using my tongue in the same manner.