Help! My Husband Wants a Hot Wife

Part A - Understanding your husband's hot wife kink

I am happily married and heterosexual. I have no desire to have sex with anyone except my wife. I'm not a cuckold and have no desire to be humiliated or belittled, although I know there is an element of this in the hot wife community. The idea of sharing my wife with another man never crossed my mind until three years ago when my wife started telling me stories of her younger years and the many and varied encounters she had with other men and women.

After we'd have a few drinks she would tell me a new story, going into crazy detail about penis sizes, early ejaculation, and risky locations. We are from a fairly small community and I know many of the men she had encounters with. My mind was blown, not by her promiscuity - which I was fully aware of before we married - but by my emotional reaction.

I'm a guy who doesn't have a wide range of feelings. I've been compared to Spock on a few occasions but I am working on being more vulnerable. However, while listening to her stories I feel emotions and a keen awareness I have NEVER felt before. Truthfully, it is a almost overwhelming for me. I have a heightened sense of jealousy, fear, insecurity, confusion, arousal, playfulness, excitement, connection, and passion. It's an amazing feeling for me and in a way it has changed my life.

Unfortunately for us, there is a lot of social stigma and shame around female nonmonogamy. The stigma attached to female infidelity is slowly becoming less shameful as the mainstream media starts to draw attention to a very common kink among committed couples (65%), the desire to watch their partner have sex with another person. The sharing practice is almost always introduced into the relationship by the man. Very few women initiate the idea, even though it can be extremely liberating and sexually satisfying for both individuals.

My wife had a religious conversion shortly after we were married which added to the complexity of our experimentation. To be clear, my wife was initially opposed to the idea and was confused about why I would even entertain such a concept. I am honest and open with her and would never do anything deceptive that could harm our relationship. I've really looked at myself and learned a few things about why this turns me on so much. This is what I shared with my wife.

Partly this is pure voyeurism. My wife is the most beautiful woman I know and I would much rather watch her have sex than watch any porn star. I also find there is a thrill in the taboo and a real desire within myself for my wife to be completely sexually fulfilled. Lastly, and most embarrassing to me, is I'm really turned on when other men WANT my wife. It's competitive in a way, but I always want a woman who other men desire, knowing at the end of the day she is always mine.

(Disclaimer: My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world to me. Is she carrying extra pounds, yes. Is she perfect, no. The sexiest thing about my wife, and most women, is confidence. When she walks into a room like she's the most beautiful woman in the room 90% of the guys in that room agree with her. If you question your desirability, you are most likely wrong and just need to increase your confidence.)

Part B - Easy steps to drive your man wild

I understand if you aren't willing or able to take the plunge. But there are some small things you can do to really drive him crazy and improve your sex lives. Once your husband has expressed or hinted around about being turned on by the idea of having a hot wife, it's easy for you to fuel that fire. Some of my suggestions will push your envelope, try to press through and do some experimentation. (DO NOT tell your husband you are doing this on purpose!)

1. When he is already turned on, bring up anything that happened during the week that involves another man lusting after you. This can be minor events like a conversation at the checkout counter, a coworker caught staring at your boobs, accidentally flashing the waiter with your short skirt at a girls luncheon, etc. Feel free to take an innocent event and garnish it, a lot.

Try to include as much detail as possible about his looks, what happened, how you reacted physically, and what you thought about the situation. The stories you create will do wonders for his self-esteem and allow him to experience some of the emotions I mentioned above in Part A. In Part C these fantasies will be fleshed out and embellished.

2. During sex, talk to him about the fantasy. I'm aware a lot of women are uncomfortable talking about fantasies and talking dirty. Try to overcome this limitation for the sake of your marriage and your sex life. The first time my wife mentioned another dick in her pussy during sex I practically exploded on the spot. That's when she knew it was a true turn on for me, and not just a test.

Again, any experiences you've had recently will do wonders here. Start simply and stay within your comfort zone, but mentioning a guy pressing up against you in line, or noticing the large bulge on the guy at the gym, or how you got wet watching a sales guy visually undressing you at work. Just about anything will work here and you'll be amazed at the results. He will get very, very turned on.

Once you get the hang of it, you can really get him going by just being naughty. For example, during sex suggesting he would love to be having sloppy seconds right now, asking if you feel stretched out, or asking if he can feel another man's cum in your pussy.

3. Buy a toy. Sometimes a second dick in the bedroom can be a realistic dildo. Again, talk is very important here. Mentioning how good it feels, how your body is adjusting to it's size, wondering if a real dick would feel this good. If your husband has a big cock fantasy, and believe me most of us do, then get a larger dildo and make it work. Mention during sex how you feel so stretched out and quiz him if he can feel a difference.

Part C - Elevate your game

In this section having good acting skills is a plus. We are just going to take the ideas given in Part A and expound upon them. Doing physical things to make them look more convincing. If you are good at this he won't be sure if it really happened or if you're just teasing him. The more you can convince him it really happened the better it will be for him. Here's an example my wife did for me...

My wife came home about an hour late from work. When she walked in the door I knew something was up. Her blouse was unbuttoned pretty low and she wasn't wearing a bra, something she always does at work. Her hair was a mess and she looked like she'd been drinking. I was concerned and asked her what happened. She looked at me and said, "Promise me you won't be mad."

She then told me a story about how her and some girls at work left early and went to the bar down the street from her office. (Again, the more detail the better. I'm leaving out a ton of detail to make this shorter, but you get the drift.) She started out by telling me who she was with, Angela and Lisa. Lisa, a really loose girl that works in her office. They were in a corner booth and kind of hidden from the crowd.

My wife was on her third drink and really feeling the alcohol.

Lisa pointed out a guy at the bar named Mark who she said had the biggest dick she has ever seen. And believe me, Lisa's seen a lot of dicks. Eventually Mark wondered over to their table and was talking to all three women. Lisa, who doesn't have a filter, asked Mark if he would show the other girls his marvelous cock. Mark laughed and politely said "No thanks!"

They all laughed and Lisa said it was really disappointing because if the girls ever saw that cock they would never be able to get the image out of their minds. Mark sat down and Lisa ordered shots. My wife explained that Mark and Lisa just talked about sex the entire time, mostly about how satisfied Lisa was after using his enormous penis in every way she could imagine and Lisa comparing his cock to her forearm.

After the shots Mark loosened up and said he was sorry to disappoint. He pointed out that he is a "grower not a shower" and we would be let down if he just whipped it out soft.

My wife said at this point she was drunk and said, "Well, lets get it hard and check it out!" Mark moved closer to my wife and standing with his back to the crowd reached his hand down the front of her blouse, pulled her bra up, and started playing with her tits. My wife apologized profusely and said she should have stopped him but she really wanted to see his cock.

She watched the bulge on the front of his dress slacks growing as he played with her tits and she was getting really wet. Eventually Mark removed her bra, but in the process popped off the two top buttons on her blouse. He tossed the bra and she never saw it again.

By now Mark was horny and felt comfortable taking out his cock for Angela, Lisa, and my wife to see. There were 50 people in the bar but no one could see what was happening. My wife spent 10 minutes describing to me his cock; the veins, the size, his balls, he was shaved, etc. All three women took a turn touching and rubbing it.

Then my wife looked embarrassed and said she took it in her mouth. She just wanted to taste it for a second, but he grabbed her hair and started pounding his cock into her face. She said the other girls were drunk and laughing so hard. Eventually my wife got into it and enjoyed the experience, even though she knew she would have to tell me about later because both and Angela and Lisa had witnessed the whole thing.

My wife told me Mark exclaimed he was going to cum and pulled out, shooting a huge load onto my wife's tits and her ruined blouse. She showed me the stain and the dried cum on her chest. I was freaking out by now and so turned on. We had the best sex ever for the next two hours. A few weeks later my wife confessed the whole story was fabricated, but it was so good! (The semen was egg whites, which with a thickening agent looks very much like dried cum.)

Part D - How to fulfill his fantasy

I learned a lot from my wife about my fantasy. First, not very many women will fulfill this fantasy if it's only the man's idea. If it's a shared fantasy, and the wife is willing to admit it's shared, then it can come true. If it plays out just for the man it usually will be unsatisfying for all parties involved. Eventually my wife developed a similar fantasy to mine that met both of our needs.

It started very slow, with me just watching her flirt with a man at the bar, leading to a kiss on her lips. Another time I left her at the bar because I was making her uncomfortable watching. That night she let a guy feel her tits and her ass. He tried to finger her but she wasn't ready yet. Eventually, after a year, she found a guy she really liked and connected with. She let him go almost all the way, but explained to him that I wanted to watch. He didn't like the idea and so we started over again.

Our sex live have never been better. We play a lot and she surprises me with amazing role playing and stories that keeps me guessing.

I often wondered if the real thing could possibly be as good as the fantasy. In my case, the fantasy has been very, very good.