Most men are not attracted to manly women. They are attracted to women who are soft, vulnerable, and accepting. Men are attracted to women who like men to be masculine.
You already know the importance of looking the part of a HotWife. Now you need to act the part as well. And a big part of being a successful HotWife is being feminine. You need to dress and act feminine.
A feminine woman is not judgmental. She is open, understanding, soft-spoken unless she is having sex. A feminine woman knows the power of her femininity. Too many women fear giving a man too much power, but a feminine woman knows that she can gain power over a man with her femininity.
Women's natural female traits (such as nurturing, caring, sensitivity, being oriented towards feelings) have long been devalued by our society. But in the male-female relationship arena, that feminine advantage can beat the pants off men - both figuratively and literally!
To be irresistible to a man, you must exhibit the soft, feminine qualities of a woman. Men are disarmed when a woman appears soft. Therefore, avoid competing with men outside of the business world. Men generally have a dominant style of relating to a woman when they are in an intimate relationship. Women who compete or act in masculine manner cause men to treat them like a man. This is generally true unless the man happens to be the type who actually likes domineering women. That is a subject for another time.
There is a quality that always magnetizes a man to a woman — even if she isn't the most beautiful, the one with the sexiest body, the smartest - and even if she isn't his type. In his book, "The Romance Factor," Allen Lloyd McGinnis states that social scientists have discovered that while looks, money, power, and prestige are all important in attracting and maintaining a mate, none of these rates as high as the ability to be at ease.
The ability to be at ease, to act comfortable with yourself in the presence of the opposite sex, is irresistible. Others would call this quality confidence, but it goes beyond confidence. It encompasses a good body image, no matter what shape she's in.
A woman who is pleased with her body usually has a great posture, holds her chin up, is perfectly comfortable in her skin. Men always want to know that they can make a woman happy. Therefore, a woman who laughs easily (but not excessively) is often irresistible to a man. When a woman indicates that a man makes her happy, the man begins to become more interested and wants to please her even more. If he senses that he can't make her happy, he moves on.
While the majority of men find physical appearance important in their choice of mate, they tend to be even more attracted to emotionally stable women, fun to be around, and supportive. A woman's laughter is like music to a man's ears. As the saying goes, "Laughter is the shortest distance between two people." This is certainly true with men and women.
As women, we love to laugh, and men want to be the ones to make us laugh, or to provide the climate for laughter. When a man causes a woman to laugh, the woman's laughter gives the man a sense of gratification, strokes his ego, and makes him feel that he can make her happy. That makes for an emotionally charged sexual cocktail and makes the woman appear irresistible to a man.
This sounds like a real no-brainer, but just remember the next time you're getting dressed and feeling too lazy to wear high heels, get over it. It is hard not to feel sexy in a pair of heels; they change the way you walk as heels thrust the hips and breasts forward, rounding off the buttocks, making a woman sensuous and appealing. They make her feet look smaller and her legs look longer, firmer, and thinner.
This boost of the butt produces a curve of the lower back toward the abdomen which, in mammals, is the position of female sexual receptivity. It's no coincidence that strippers are still wearing stilettos after they've shed their clothing. Men love a woman in high heels. If you wear stockings as well as sexy high heels, then you can be irresistible.
