I was inspired to write this after I read a piece on this site by an incredibly talented woman who described how to give a man oral sex. I could never organize my thoughts and express them as cleverly as she did, but I felt compelled to try.
This is meant to serve as suggestions for any man who is interested in face sitting, i.e., having your female partner sit on your face, obviously for the purpose of pleasuring her. Having taken hints myself from two lesbian friends, I hope I convey the points that are most effective.
To sit or not to sit?
If you ask her to sit on your face, or if you ask her if she would like to sit on your face, and she agrees, remember that, even if you want it for your own pleasure, HER pleasure is your goal. While you might intend to lick her just to get her wet enough, or aroused enough to engage in intercourse, you should be aware of how far she wants you to take her, arousal, or orgasm? Be prepared for either and be patient and attentive.
Position: this way or that way?
Most of the time, you and she will prefer her to sit "cowgirl", so she can look down at your face. Eye contact is sometimes arousing for her and watching her face as you perform might tell you if you're doing things to her satisfaction. She might also enjoy watching your tongue in action.
This position also allows her the freedom to control your performance and the intensity of your licking. She can easily rise up to tease you, (the floating butterfly), or to control the pressure of your tongue if she so chooses. Most often she will kneel, straddling your chest or neck and then simply slide her vagina up onto your face until she is comfortable. She can change the angle of her legs to put more weight and pressure on your face or tongue.
She might wish to lay her legs out straight as she sits; a position that puts much more weight on your face. This position also allows her to close her legs, perhaps to tease you by smothering you with her flesh. She might choose to squat over your face rather than actually sit on it. This puts more physical strain on her legs, but it allows her the same options in giving you access to her vagina.
Another option she has is to sit "reverse cowgirl", facing your feet (and your penis). This position allows her basically the same freedom of movement and control as "cowgirl", but it also allows her to change the angle at which she places her vagina on your face. She can easily use more weight on your face or tongue if she wishes to do so. She can rock back and forth on your mouth in either position but in "reverse cowgirl" she can see if your licking her affects your penis. She might consider it a compliment if licking her gives you an erection.
In a rare occasion, she might choose to sit with her legs straight over your torso, which, during "reverse cowgirl" will put the majority of her body weight directly on your face. She might choose to do this if she wants to smother you, or, in some cases, to force your face into her anus. If she chooses to squat over your face in "reverse cowgirl", your primary access will most likely be to her anus.
Can I Touch it?
One thing to keep in mind when she sits "reverse cowgirl" is that she has the option, but not the obligation, to touch your penis. She might want to stroke your erection while you perform, or she might want to tell you to do it. It might arouse her to watch you masturbate, and she might even want you to ejaculate when, but not before, she has her orgasm. She might even choose to tease or suck your erection but not to completion.
If for some reason she chooses to advance to a sixty-nine, remember to focus on giving her at least one orgasm before you allow your own release. (If you have communicated earlier and agreed that you will conclude with a sixty-nine from the "reverse cowgirl" position, your usual agreement on orgasms would prevail.)
Where are her Tits?