Just like anything else, there are going to be upsides and downsides, positives and negatives. Cuckolding is no exception. But you can't give credit or blame to cuckolding. It is those involved that are to blame or be given credit.
Cuckolding is rarely the reason that marriages end. It is often a combination of things, jealousy, not enough communication, a lack of honesty, a lack of trust, or the couple wasn't mature enough to handle all that cuckolding involves.
For a cuckold marriage to be successful, the couple has to be totally honest with themselves and each other. There has to be planning and cooperation. There must be trust. And the marriage has to be strong. Cuckolding can't and will not fix a bad marriage.
The most important thing to remember about cuckolding is that it's something that a couple does together, and it's special to both of them. And each partner has to be extremely open about their wants and needs. If the couple isn't completely open with and to each other, then cuckolding will never work for them.
Cuckolding, like marriage, is not something that a couple should rush into. Cuckolding, also like marriage, is a commitment. And with cuckolding, as with marriage, the primary relationship must be the most important thing.
For a cuckold marriage to be successful, the husband and wife have to be in love with each other. They have to want the best for one another, and each partner's happiness must be a paramount concern. This is why constant communication is extremely important
Rules can be made and boundaries can be set, but these can change over time. This is why communication must be constant. You don't begin a cuckold relationship and hope it goes well. It takes a lot of work.
One of the biggest reasons that cuckold marriages fail is because the couple didn't understand what cuckolding was and what is involved. The Internet is full of advice for cuckold couples from people who have never been into cuckolding or lived it. And the worst advice often comes from those who allowed their emotions or preconceived ideas to ruin what could have been a wonderful experience for all involved.
Before I go much further, I want to talk about cuckolding itself, what it is, what it entails, why to get into it, and why not to get into it.
Cuckolding IS NOT a way to save your marriage. Cuckolding is designed to enhance a marriage, to bring a couple closer to each other, to help bond a couple to each other. Cuckolding IS a shared experience.
Cuckolding IS NOT a husband jacking off while another man or other men fuck his wife. Cuckolding IS something a couple does together, to excite one another, to please one another.
Cuckolding IS NOT a female-led relationship. Cuckolding IS a couple-centered relationship.
Cuckolding IS NOT always sunshine and rainbows. Cuckolding IS something that will bring about the best and the worst experiences, emotions, and reactions.
Cuckolding can be the best thing you ever did as a couple, but it can also be the worst thing you ever did as a couple.
Some people warn that cuckolding is too risky, that it can destroy a marriage. Some people also warn that a wife may fall in love with another man, or the wife may fall out of love with her husband, or the husband may fall out of love with his wife. These are incorrect assumptions. Successful cuckold marriages are successful because the husband and wife truly love each other.
When a couple truly loves each other, the risk of one or the other falling out of love is null. If you truly love someone, you can't just fall out of love with them. If you love someone, it is unconditional. That's what love is.
When a cuckold marriage fails, it isn't because the wife had sex with other men. It's because the couple failed to communicate to each other their thoughts and feelings consistently.
A couple that can't be totally honest with each other should never get into cuckolding.
Cuckolding requires each partner to be totally open and honest about their wants, needs, feelings, and regrets.
Cuckolding IS a lifestyle. Cuckolding IS NOT a fetish.
Couples that get involved in cuckolding become cuckold couples, and the couple part is the most important part. Cuckolding may involve another man or other men, but it's the couple that is the most important part of the cuckold relationship.
Lovers cum and go. But it's the couple that remains afterward. The excitement and the build-up beforehand culminate and the couple is left with whatever outcome there may be after the lover is gone. This is often where the trouble begins for some couples.
Sometimes one or both partners may feel guilty about what has happened or what they have done. Other times, there are feelings that one or both partners experience that has to be talked out. Failing to talk these feelings out is often the reason that many cuckold marriages fail.
If a wife enjoys a lover more than her husband expected that she would, this may cause the husband to feel resentful. And if a wife were to secretly get with a lover, the husband may feel betrayed. Cuckolding, as I have already said, is all about openness, honesty, and trust. Without these things, a cuckold marriage is destined to fail.
All things being considered, cuckolding can be a wonderful experience for all involved. Yet, it can be heart-wrenching. If the cuckolding is not done in the presence of the husband, his mind can go to places he doesn't need or want it to go. This is why cuckolding should always involve the husband, before, during, and afterward.
Let's say that a wife gets into cuckolding to please her husband. This is never a good idea. She must get into cuckolding for the both of them, for her and her husband. If the wife is into cuckolding just to please herself, the marriage won't last. If the wife gets into cuckolding only to please her husband, the marriage will more than likely end in tatters.
Where many couples run into trouble is when the wife prefers sex with others to sex with her husband. In cuckolding, the sex the wife has with other men is supposed to enhance the sex she has with her husband. When sex with her husband is entirely replaced by a lover or lovers, then it is no longer a cuckold marriage. It's a wife choosing to put her wants above the needs of both her and her husband.
Where cuckolding becomes a fetish is when the husband or wife prefers the lovers to always have a bigger cock and be better in bed than the husband is. It's not always a bad thing when a lover is bigger cocked or better in bed than the husband is, but if this becomes an issue for either the husband or wife, then you have a problem.
I will agree that many cuckold husbands do prefer that their wives get from other men what they can't give her, be it a bigger cock, lasting longer, cumming more or more often. Yet, this is something that both the husband and the wife have to agree on, and the lover should never become more important to the husband or wife than their marriage is.
As a cuckold couple, the husband and wife need to agree on how often the wife will have sex with other men, how many men will be involved, if condoms will be required, and how far a relationship with a lover can and should go.
A cuckold marriage is simply a marriage in which the wife has sex with other men with her husband's encouragement and consent and the husband remains faithful to her. If the couple decides to fetishize their cuckold marriage, they can decide to involve humiliation, a cock cage, sexual denial of the husband, but this is not cuckolding. It's adding fetish to the cuckolding.
What must be remembered, though, is that involving humiliation, a cock cage, or sexual denial of the husband isn't always a fetish. It could be considered a fetishistic attribute of the couple's cuckold lifestyle, and as long as it is a form of play, then it can work. Where it goes wrong is when humiliation is not wanted by the husband and he has to endure humiliation. This will end a marriage quickly.
Many people falsely believe that a cuckold marriage is a female-led marriage. Nothing could be further from the truth. A cuckold marriage can only be successful if both the husband and the wife share control. If complete control is given to the husband or the wife, or a lover, the marriage will not last.
In a successful cuckold marriage, the husband and the wife both have veto power. A successful cuckold marriage is one in which the couple decides who the wife will have sex with and how often she will have sex with other men together.
When the wife in a cuckold marriage is the only one that makes all the decisions, the husband is left out. When the husband makes all the decisions, the wife is left out. In a successful cuckold marriage, neither the husband nor the wife is ever left out.
