Dear Jamie: Cat & Mouse

This is an entry for the 750 Word Project 2025

Dear Jamie,

I am a 32 year old woman living in sign with my long term (7 years) boyfriend. For the sake of this letter I'll call him Bob.

We've grown together both in and out of the bedroom, and I think we're just real fucking dynamite in the sack. He's your stereotypical guy, doesn't say much- built thick and has an aggression that drives me nuts. He's also kinda quiet and reserved. I love him to bits.

Here's the thing though - he LOVES to go down on me after sex, and LOVES kissing after a blow job. But if I ever bring up the whole thing about eating his own cum, he'll deny ever doing it, call it gross and hand wave me.

Bob will throat fuck me, finish on my face and come in for a big sloppy kiss. But never talk about it.

Other times he'll have me ride him to completion, then slide underneath and eat me out. No acknowledgement whatsoever.

There was one time where he blew his load in me, then got down in it, flipped me all over and ate me out to TWO consecutive orgasms! Then got super hard from it, fucked me again and restarted the whole thing.

It took me days to recover, and all I wanted to do was tell him how much it fucking turned me on, and how hot he was for doing it and talk about what I could do to make it hotter for him and- NEWP.

It was like I'd just met Bill Murray, but nobody wanted to hear about it.

It's just this thing he does -that I love- that happens in bed, but is never, ever acknowledged.

I don't want to ruin an amazing thing we have, in or out of bed, but I worry about the idea that he's doing self harm by participating in something he feels shameful or guilty about.

At the same time, I'm not entirely sure we're not playing some cat and mouse game where he won't own up to something, and enjoys my frustration. I mean, even with my bringing it up he's never ever stopped.

So what do you think? Is a confrontation necessary? Is this an innocent quirk? A game? Or a problem brewing?

Dear C&M,

First, if I may- I want to thank you for not going to the obvious question of asking whether I think your boyfriend is gay or not. While many may have that concern, I hold the opinion that eating "creampies", or tasting ones sperm is on the spectrum of sexual normalcy for straight men. Personally, I don't think there IS anything such as gay "behaviour" because I don't think that "acts" have a sexual preference.

You know what DOES have a sexual preference?

A sexual preference.

But I digress. I think you raise some good ideas as to what's going on with your guy, and it sounds like you try to be as emotionally and intellectually connected with him as you can. So its good to make the effort.

As to why he may not be returning the effort- again, you and him would be best to know.

I do think its important to be able to discuss the topics with him one way or another, because I'm never a fan of one-sided kink. That is, when one person acts on or performs a kink that their partner(s) are unaware of. Some may beg to differ, and perhaps it depends on the kink, but I think at least its a grey area.

If a person had a racial fetish, and never acknowledged it with their partner -who was of another race- then motivations could rightfully be called out on that.

With this though, it does seem less to do with you, than it is him and his own seed.

Plenty of men admit to wanting to taste their own, but find that they have a "post-nut clarity" that tends to prevent them from doing it. Which could be the case here. A Post-POST-Nut clarity if you will.

I would suggest you talk up the kink, whether it be his specific actions or the general act itself, and not depend on a response. If he's as reserved as you say he is, he probably won't wax philosophical about it - but WILL take to heart the praise and encouragement. Those could be the baby steps needed to eventually get him to the talking phase.

Good Luck,

Jamie Plynth

Dear Jamie letters are entirely fictitious, wherein the advice provided by the author is a genuine response from the author- and who knows, maybe someone gets something from it, which is why I chose to put it in the "How To" category. Do you agree with what was said? If not, what advice would YOU give the advice seeker?Not titilated by the original scenario? Cool, there's plenty of amazing stories on Lit for you to enjoy. Peace