In my more serious moments, I wonder what Alexander Graham Bell and Sigmund Freud would have said about the erotic phenomenon that has become known as phone sex.
The subject of phone sex requires little introduction - it is simulated sex via telephone in which the goal is to sexually stimulate one or both of the participants and the use of voice is the only human contact it involves.
Firstly there are hundreds of commercial phone sex lines that one can call which cater to every taste and fetish. It's an exceptionally lucrative industry and I can understand why. There's always someone out there horny and stroking a rock hard erection while letting his mind wander in search of just the right fantasy to inspire a gut-wrenching, earth shattering orgasm.
Perhaps he's alone and bored with the well-thumbed porn magazines and the same old video fuck scenes. Maybe he wants something different, something wild and kinky, or maybe he simply wants to connect with a willing open-minded partner who will participate in his fantasy while he gets his rocks off. An easy solution is to call a phone sex line and indulge in a few minutes of live facilitated masturbation.
There are few qualifications necessary; a minimum age of eighteen, a healthy libido and the cash to pay for the call. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with the practice. It's safe, disease-free and an excellent masturbation accessory for many reasons. The biggest advantage being that the caller doesn't have to make small talk, prepare someone, or break the ice. He is in control and decides who to call, when to call, what to talk about, and how long to talk.
I've not had much personal experience with any of these commercial phone sex lines, aside from having done research and written some erotic scripts for a few of the local recorded sex lines. However I do wonder about the authenticity of the fantasy sex line operators. Are they really attractive wanton wenches who masturbate to orgasm while talking dirty to their clients? Do they even get aroused, or are they simply bored working women of all shapes and sizes who file their nails while reading scripts and watching the clock tick over till the end of their shift?
Perhaps it doesn't really matter since it is a fantasy, an illusion that one is buying when they dial into one of these lines, and as long as it provides the kind of gratification the client is seeking on his own terms, its money well spent.
If you are thinking about calling one of the professional phone sex lines, here are some suggestions for consideration:
Use your head, the one above your neck, and check out the internet or local newspapers in advance to familiarize yourself with what is available and which services will appeal to you and your price range. Basically there are the categorized recorded lines where a menu is provided of recorded messages in which different erotic scenarios are graphically described and these usually run for a period of around ten minutes, during which time you can do your own thing. Then there are the party-lines and chat lines which are live services where you can speak directly with the phone sex operator while the meter runs on.
Whichever you choose, it's important to fully understand how the billing is done. Will you be required to use a credit card or will it be billed directly to your phone account? If you are using a credit card, what is the rate per minute? Some lines have a minimum set charge or flat rate for a specified block of time with extra time billed for separately. Are you calling a premium-rate telephone number where a higher that normal rate is charged and how will it reflect on your telephone account? Apparently some lines direct you through foreign places like the Caribbean but are configured to charge the caller just like a toll number. However these may show up on your phone bill as is, and if you aren't the only one in the household who looks at the bill, they may generate some disconcerting questions, like, "Who the hell's been calling Trinidad?" Don't wait until the blood is displaced from your brain to an insistent throb in your cock before you start hunting down a line to try, and then inadvertently find yourself in hot water later.
Time is money, so sometimes it's best to postpone the call until you are well into arousal if you are budget-restricted. Remember the longer you remain on the line with an operator the more it's going to cost you. In general, phone sex operators are paid incentives or incremental bonuses for keeping their clients on the phone for extended periods of time so consider keeping an eye on your watch or having a clock nearby to ensure that billable minutes don't get out of control.
Since it's a business transaction, be a smart consumer. Start small and be selective. It only takes a couple of minutes to get a sense of whether the sex line operator is someone who you could enjoy and if her talents are what you're looking for. There does need to be some chemistry between you and her, and if she isn't going to blow more than your socks off, move on.
Have some ideas and be open and clear in telling her exactly what you are in the mood for and what you will be requiring especially if you have some role play fantasy or specific scenario in mind. Remember it's a phone call to a sex line operator who is a stranger and it is all going to be about talk and fantasy. It's no time for her to play guessing games, to string you along, or for you to get shy or indecisive.
A quality phone sex operator should be well informed and articulate about a wide variety of fantasy subjects including domination, bisexual threesomes or cross dressing. And she should be able to tell stories or graphically describe complicated scenes without being tongue-tied or shocked by callers who request them.
You may find that some phone sex companies and their operators will refuse to entertain unconventional fantasies of an extreme or taboo nature. So, if you're looking for titillation involving subjects such as scat, necrophilia, abduction and torture or other bizarre unspeakables you will have to research the internet for specialized lines that accommodate your particular tastes. They may not be plentiful, but they do exist.
However, contrary to popular belief it's not only men, or women who work on adult phone lines, that participate in phone sex. It also exists in the context of intimate relationships or between lovers who are separated by distance or circumstances. It's the perfect way to have a carnal connection when you and your lover are apart and enables you to merge emotionally, share physical feelings and ultimately reach sexual release.
Many people simply add a little anticipation and spice to their love lives by discussing their fantasies and desires over the telephone and masturbating together.
Now, I'm not suggesting that you pick up the phone and talk dirty to the first stranger that answers, but if you have an established mental and sexual rapport with another person it can be a mind blowing and intensely exciting experience that can make the lines sizzle.
Here I do speak from experience and can vouch for the fact that phone sex between people who care about each other or have a strong emotional connection is so much more than talking dirty or a few pants and moans on a phone. It is more like a dance of seduction with the mind and words are the music. Sometimes the music is hot and played with fire like a tango, evoking lust and wantonness and exploding in a climatic ending. The words set the tempo, are scintillating and lusty and can go something like this:
"I want you."
"Mmm, you do? Tell me how much?"
"So much that I'm going to call you as soon as my next meeting is done."
