I can see beginning the scene with a belt while kneeling on a couch and then moving to a cross or horse. I also like the idea of being tied to a chair and whipped.
One of my fantasies is to enter a room with 2-3 mistresses who simply proceed to strip me and put me under bondage while telling me how they are going to pound me. Although I like the demand to 'just take it,' I also like it to get rough so that I can let it out by screaming.
The control issue is ultimately mine but the reason for doing this is to give up the control, so the safe word is used as a signal to take a break but not necessarily immediately. I like to be respected and not humiliated during the scene, but then it depends on what you mean by humiliation and each person humiliates in their own way but as I said, name-calling is lame. Let's try to move from something like: "We are going to do this and you are going to take it," and get to something like, "You are a worthless piece of scum and deserve this," or something like that. If I am wearing a mask, video-taping is ok.
It is important to me that you want to do this and that you like to do this and you are good at it. Therefore, I would expect that you would know how to get to a limit, go beyond, and then slow it down. I know I am asking a lot of you: to be both compassionate and sadistic, to know the difference between hurt and harm. I do not like to be called names, but giving me a good verbal scolding at the same time is hot. I like to know what you are thinking, feeling, and anticipating.
I enter this situation with you because I like this, but I expect you to get rough enough so that I don't like it while you insist and demand that I take it. My safe word is simply to say 'please wait a minute.' It is a signal for you to consider where we are but not necessarily stop because I want you to get rougher.