As soon as Vicki walked through the door, I noticed something different about the way she was dressed. These weren't new clothes, but she was wearing them differently. The only thing I could put my finger on was that her blouse wasn't tucked in. It felt different when she hugged me, too. Her movement wasn't any different, but our midsections made more contact than usual. "Mom, I have something to tell you," she said excitedly.
We walked to the living room and I sat down. I think I put it together a split-second before she got the words out. She pulled her blouse back and said, "You're gonna be a grandma!" Sure enough, she had just the beginning of a bump.
I count myself fortunate that my own happiness was more visible than the shock. "That's great!" I exclaimed. Then I stopped. "It is great, isn't it?"
"Yes!" she said indignantly.
"But you're not married," I said. I hoped my voice showed concern rather than judgment.
"Actually I am. Sort of," she said.
"When? Who? And what do you mean, 'sort of'? Either you're married or you're not."
"A couple years ago. It's not a legal marriage. We made the same kind of promises that other couples do; we just did it without a license."
"Wait, you and Bill still live in your dad's house. Is he okay with this?"
Vicki moved next to me and put her hands on mine. "Bill's my husband. And the father of your grandchild."
I didn't really have to ask, but I did anyway. "Does he make you happy?"
"Very happy. He's nice to me. We have problems like any other couple, and we talk them through. When I told him we were expecting, he went to one of those websites where they do a composite picture of what your kids would look like. He printed it out and taped it over a portrait we had made."
I reminded her, "Do you know what the laws are in our state? Never mind marriage, just having sex with him might be illegal."
I didn't raise Vicki to be a dummy. "I haven't read up on the statutes, but one time, just for the heck of it, we decided to see if there were any sex offenders in our neighborhood. There were a couple whose offense was listed as 'incest with a minor,' but none that just said, 'incest.' My hunch is that either it's legal or they only use it to get a longer sentence."
"Well, as long as you know what you're up against and Bill makes you happy, I'm glad."
Vicki didn't sound convinced. "But the baby?"
"As long as you're able to take care of him ... her, whichever, I'm not gonna criticize."
"Really? 'Cause you've talked, um, trash ... about welfare babies for as long as I can remember." (Vicki and I had boundaries that I suppose were typical. Neither one of us is afraid to use profanity, but rarely in each other's company.)
I moved my hands on top of hers. "If I ever sounded like I was criticizing the children, I'm sorry. My criticism has always been people who have kids when they know they can't afford them on their own. I never even cared when movie stars got knocked up, because I figured they probably had plenty of money."
"So you're even okay with the fact that it's my brother?"
"I'll be honest. If you were my son and daughter, if nothing else, I think it's safe to say I'd be grossed out and maybe worse. But he's not my son, and if he's good to you, I won't hold your dad's affair against him. Besides, a half-brother's pretty close, but this won't be the first member of our family whose ancestors overlap some."
* * *
I was a junior in college. My boyfriend Ted had just broken up with me because I wouldn't go to a wedding with him out of town, the weekend before I knew I was going to have a big test. On the Thursday of the weekend before that one, my friend Wendy invited me to a party the following night. A senior was throwing it at his apartment, and it was mostly his older friends. I saw one guy who was a little better dressed than the rest, and I guessed he could hold his liquor since his movements were smooth. I pointed him out to Wendy and asked, "Who's that?"
"Oh, keep away from him," Wendy warned. "Paul Francis. He's a grad student on a teaching fellowship, and he's got a reputation for bedding his students." This was back in a time when such an allegation would get you a "tut-tut," but nothing more as long as it didn't lead to anything else.
"Really!" I said, intrigued. I started to walk toward him.
Wendy tugged at my arm. "Seriously, Molly, don't!"
I turned to her and said, "I'm a big girl. I can take care of myself."
"How'll you get home?" she asked.
"I'll let you know," I answered. Luckily for both of us, Wendy saw a guy she'd been interested in and left me to my own devices.
I saw that Paul was drinking the last of a Miller, so I got two and walked over to him. "Hi!" I said, handing him one. "I'm Molly."
"Hi, Molly," Paul answered. "Having a good time?"
"Remains to be seen," I said. "I just got here." I touched my beer to his. "But it's looking good."
The type of guy that Wendy was trying to warn me about, you can usually put off his game by acting interested first. Paul didn't change his composure. "Glad to hear it. My roommate really knows how to throw a party."
"You live here? That seems like an important detail to leave out."
"What do you mean?" Paul asked.
"Sorry. My friend told me you're a T.A., but she didn't mention that this is your place."
"Oh, I don't live here. What I meant is, my roommate, Craig, helped Scott throw the party. I live upstairs."