I was 25, my mom must have been a little over 50.
My parents had divorced early during the year before I finished college. I had moved back in with my mom after graduation, just until I could get a decent job and a place of my own. I was on good terms with both of my parents, but I was always closer with my mom. Since she had gotten the house in the divorce, moving back into my old bedroom was the obvious choice. My sports posters and old computer were still set up in there. My video game consoles were in there too, although the TV had been transplanted into what was now just my mom's bedroom. But that was fine; I'd rather watch TV in the living room with my mom, and I still had my computer in my bedroom for games.
After I moved back in, it only took a few days before I noticed that Mom didn't seem entirely herself. It seemed like she was a little depressed or something. She moved and spoke slightly more slowly, and she smiled less (though she still always smiled a little when she would see me).
I finally asked her about it and she told me that she knows what's wrong, and she knows how to fix it, and that it's nothing I need to worry about. So I stopped worrying, or at least I tried. But after maybe another week of the same thing, I had to press her about it. I was concerned about my mom.
"John, you don't want to know," she said to me, sounding almost a little stern, using my regular name instead of Johnny. "It's kinda gross," her tone softening, and it sounded like she was embarrassed.
We were sitting next to each other on the living room couch with Mom to my right. We were close enough that our bare legs were touching at the knee. Mom was wearing a long floral nightshirt and I assumed panties underneath. I was wearing boxers and a green t-shirt.
But what was she talking about? What could possibly be gross?
"Mom, I know you've been kinda out of sorts or whatever, but I haven't noticed anything gross." I looked at her questioningly, and she looked back blankly. "Or weird," I added, trying to reassure her.
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"Johnny, it's the solution to the problem that's gross. Okay? Can we un-pause the movie now?" Mom reached across me for the remote, and although I could have moved it out of her reach, I allowed her to grab it and resume the movie. We were watching Shrek, one of our favorites from when I was a kid. On the big living room TV, Shrek continued his explanation about how ogres are like onions.
"Women are a lot like onions, too, you know," Mom said, placing her feet on the coffee table in front of us, her shirt riding up just enough to expose the color of her panties -- Faded Pink. I looked over at her from the corner of my eye. She adjusted her shirt so the hem was at her mid-thigh, hiding her panties.
"I mean the layers. We're complicated. We don't smell bad. Uh, unless you're gay," she joked.
"It's okay, Mom. I'm not gay," I chuckled. "Not that there's anything wrong with that..." I added, prompting her to say:
"Of course not! One's personal sexual preference is no one's business but their own!" she replied correctly, quoting the old Seinfeld episode where a college reporter mistakenly thinks Jerry and George are gay together.
We laughed for a moment. But my mind returned to my mom's problem, and its mysterious solution. What could be so bad that she didn't even want to tell me, her own son? I literally came out of her body. I'm a part of her.
"So what's the solution? I don't care if it's gross, I'm just worried... is it something horrible?" I asked her seriously, but she just started laughing.
"It's nothing horrible!" she emphatically reassured me. Then she sighed loudly and looked away from me. "It's sexual, okay?" she finally admitted, and I immediately understood.
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I didn't ever like thinking about it, or hearing it, or being in the same house at the same time... But when my mom and dad were still together, which was throughout my whole life up until very recently... I overheard, on a disturbingly regular basis, what could only have been the two of them having sex. Bedframe creaking, headboard banging against the wall, all kinds of grunts and moans. I didn't have any siblings, so I lived with this horror alone.
And I do mean on a regular basis. Almost always daily, sometimes more than that. And my mom usually sounded pretty satisfied.
So if Mom was used to that type of stimulation on such a frequent basis, and if it suddenly stopped after the divorce, I could understand why that might affect her.
I've always been close with my mom (duh). But maybe it was more than it is with most boys.
From a young age I always wanted to be near her, and that never really subsided as I got older. Mom didn't seem to mind. It seemed like any mom's dream to have her baby boy remain cuddly and affectionate with her. And when I started to get older, at age 13, it was Mom who stopped holding my hand in the grocery store, not the other way around.
Walking through the store, trailing behind her, I couldn't even begin to understand why she had pulled her hand away from mine. She hadn't done it hastily or in a nasty way, but still. I could barely speak when she would ask me about things I'd want for dinner, to help her gauge what ingredients to add to the shopping cart. I felt so awful, but she just kept talking and asking me things as if everything was fine.
By the time we got to the car, I felt like I was about to cry. It had really affected me that much. But as soon as we were both settled in the front seats, Mom immediately took my hand in hers and looked kindly and meaningfully at me. She placed her other hand on top of mine. Her touch and her warmth immediately reassured me that everything was going to be okay.
She explained to me then that people might think it would look unusual for a woman to be seen holding hands with her teenage son. She explained that, unlike me, most of her friends' kids had quit letting them hold their hands around age 10 or 11.
I couldn't understand that. Maybe they just didn't love their moms as much as I loved mine. But I agreed that if it would be awkward for her, we wouldn't hold hands in public anymore. At least not regularly.
She held my hand the whole drive home.
Ever since I had the capacity to gauge the attractiveness of women, I've always thought my Mom was beautiful.
When I moved back in with her after college, she was a little over 50 years old, but I would have guessed she was under 40 if I hadn't known her true age.
Mom was of a relatively average weight, but she had a big bubbly butt, and breasts that seemed almost a little too large for her body. I hadn't normally thought about any of this while growing up, but my friends teased me about my mom's body constantly. It never really bothered me - I mean, I didn't love hearing from guys my age about how hot my mom was, but I never really disagreed either. Of course, I never told them that. I just told them to shut up.
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The movie played on.
"I think I get it," I finally said to my mom. She looked over at me from the corner of her eye. "Do you?" she raised one eyebrow.
"Sure," I replied confidently. "Before the divorce, you were getting it on the regular from Dad," I said nonchalantly.
"Oh, for God sakes, John," My mom scoffed and looked away but she wasn't angry, more just embarrassed.
"And now you're not!" I teased her. She groaned loudly, looking ahead but clearly not paying attention to the movie.
"So," I continued, still teasing her, "Now that... that... isn't not happening anymore, you're a little frustrated." Mom's blank face stared ahead at the TV, where Shrek, Donkey, and Fiona were now making their way to Lord Farquaad's castle.
"A little backed up, as it were," I continued teasing her.
"Women don't get backed up, John," Mom said. Normally she called me Johnny, but sometimes she used my normal name in a jokingly formal way. Other times, she used my normal name in a very serious and not-joking way.
I rolled my eyes. "You know about dating apps, right? There's Tinder, there's other ones too," my tone shifted a little bit from totally joking, to just mostly totally joking.
Mom snorted. "I'm a little old for that, honey," she sighed.
Now I snorted. I quickly fished my phone out of my pocket and opened Tinder. I was an avid user, at least before that point, after all.
"You wanna bet?" I said, holding my phone in front of me so we could both see. I went into the app preferences, and then to the acceptable age ranges. I set the minimum age to 45, and the maximum age to 60, then exited the preferences and got to swiping. I had a point to prove to my mom.
The first woman must have been around 50, close to Mom's age. Not nearly as pretty as mom. I swiped left.
The next I would have gauged around 35, even though the minimum age was set to 45. Regardless, she was still nowhere near as beautiful as my mom. I swiped left again.
The third profile we came across was a lady who actually looked a whole lot like my mom. She looked to be around the same age, had similar facial features, but she appeared to be a little heavier. Even so, she was very pretty, almost on Mom's level. I swiped right.
"See? All these chicks are doing it, you can too!" I encouraged her.
Mom laughed. "Chicks. Right. Why'd you swipe differently on that last one?"
"So, on Tinder, you swipe left if you don't like, and you swipe right if you do like," I explained as I put my phone back in my pocket.
"You liked her?" I looked over at my mom and her face was bright red.
"Oh, yeah. Didn't you think she was pretty?" I asked nonchalantly.
"She is, but honey, she's my age," Mom argued.
I shrugged. "Why would that be a problem? Besides, she'll probably never message me anyway. She'll only see I liked her if she swipes right on me too." And then my phone dinged from my pocket: the Tinder notification sound.
Mom's eyebrows went up. "You gonna get that?" she grinned at me.
I fished my phone out of my pocket. I opened my notification area, holding my phone up in front of us both to see:
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"Cassandra: Hey cutie." It was her.