I was in the kitchen preparing dinner when Graham called from the office and said he would be coming home early as he had something important to tell us.
Worried that it might be bad news, I asked him to tell it right away but he calmed me down by saying, "Don't worry, it's not bad news," and hung up.
By the time he came back from office, I, along with our 19-year-old son and 18-year-old daughter, were nervously waiting for him in the living room. As soon as he entered the house, gave a big smile, told Sara to get a glass of water, and sat down on the couch. We waited for him to say something but he sat there drinking water. After what seemed like twenty minutes, but were actually two or three, Andrew got irritated and told him to spit out the news.
"My company has won a contract in Ethiopia and have to go there for fifteen days to lay the groundwork for an electricity-generation plant we're planning there," said Graham, raising his brown eyes and saw us staring at him.
"Ethiopia?" I wondered loudly.
"Yes, Ethiopia."
"Ethiopia?" I repeated.
"Yes, Ethiopia. You know the country in Africa," he replied a bit irritated.
We had never been outside our state, let alone the country, so the thought of him going to Africa of all places was too much for me, and sat there taking in the news. Luckily, Sara broke the silence and asked her dad whether we could come too.
"Yes," he replied as a smile spread across his well-chiseled face.
What followed next was a barrage of questions, planning, preparations, and innumerable searches on the internet to find out as much as possible about Ethiopia. Finally, the day arrived and we took a 30-hour flight to the capital Addis Ababa, and then another four-hour flight to where the project would be based.
The guy who came to pick us up took us to a well-maintained colonial-style bungalow and introduced all four members of the house staff to us.
We spent the first two days touring the town, visiting the evening market, drinking loads of tea, and just lazing around in the African sun. On the third day, Graham had to inspect the project, so all of us got into jeeps and accompanied by a driver and two local engineers took off for the site about two hundred miles from town. But since there wasn't much to see apart from the empty land, we got bored and came back early.
All of us were itching to see big cats, wild elephants, and other animals, so decided to go on a short safari, and since by now we were somewhat familiar with the place we decided to go on our own without the driver.
As it was just a day trip, we took only a picnic basket and satellite phone, which Graham always carried with him to keep in touch with the head office back home. We were out in the Ethiopian jungle in our jeep searching for animals when it started to drizzle which didn't worry us initially but within minutes the afternoon sky turned dark and rain started to fall thick and fast.
We knew it was useless to go ahead, so Graham turned his jeep around and started heading back to town but the rain made the barely passable road completely impassable and after struggling for more than ten minutes we decided to stay in the vehicle until the weather had improved.
But there was no let-up in the rain, so had no option but to spend the night in our vehicle, with Andrew sleeping in the back of the jeep, Sara in the back seat, and Graham and I in front. The continuous rain, darkness, and weird voices coming from trees meant that none of us was able to get even a minute of sleep and when the day broke with no let-up in the rain we knew we had to do something.
Graham made a call to local engineers and asked them to send a vehicle to pick us up, but rain and mud had made the road completely useless, so they offered to send a helicopter but since it was in the capital it wouldn't be able to reach us before late afternoon. Not wanting to wait for another five or six hours we decided to walk to the nearest village and get some help there.
After walking for more than an hour in the jungle, we finally saw some huts and although drenched from head to toe we hurried down to the cluster and knocked on the bamboo door of the first.
A man, who must have been in his late thirties but looked forty, opened the door and stood there, looking at us drenched in water. I spoke first but when he didn't react, I realized my mistake and this time instead of speaking in English gestured to him that we wanted to take shelter in his house, which thankfully he understood and invited us in.
I had never seen an actual hut from the inside, so was surprised to discover that there was just one room with an attached kitchen and nothing else. Although the room was decorated in yellow and red it had no furniture or anything else apart from some utensils to cook food and a few clothes hanging on a line. In the corner, a woman was sitting.
Having seen bare-chested men back home and in Africa, I wasn't too surprised when the man opened the door wearing just a loincloth but when I saw the woman sitting there topless with just a loincloth around her waist, have to admit I was surprised.
But the thought of our own state quickly replaced the shock of looking at a bare-chested woman and we started explaining to them that we had lost our way and wanted a place to stay until the rain stopped but more importantly we needed dry clothes and food.
With four of us talking in sign language all at the same time I'm not sure how much they understood but they did put on a fire in a mud stove and began cooking something. While they were busy with that, we looked around for some clothes to change but apart from a few loincloths there was nothing else, so we stood there shivering and dripping water on their floor.
When the woman, who was apparently the man's wife, saw us standing there and shivering like children, she gestured to us to change into those strips hanging there. When we indicated that we were right, she got confused and started pointing toward the clothesline, and this back-and-forth gesturing went on for a couple of minutes.
Finally, Graham said we would have to wear the clothes they were offering because there was a real chance of catching a cold or pneumonia, so I went with Sara to the kitchen, while Andrew and Graham remained in the room.
Since there was no wall or curtain between the kitchen and the room, we hid in a corner and started taking off our wet clothes. We quickly took off our jeans and tied the loincloth over our still-wet panties and began to tie another piece over our bras since it wasn't meant to be tied around breasts it was turning out to be a knotty problem but after struggling with it we somehow managed to keep it all together.
But the hardest part was yet to come. I grew up with parents who weren't afraid to display physical intimacy or their bodies, so right from childhood my siblings and I were comfortable with our bodies and did not attach much importance to nudity. But when my children started growing up my husband somehow convinced me to dress more appropriately, saying that my loose attitude toward clothes could have a "bad" influence on Andrew and Sara, a reasoning I never understood but nevertheless started to dress more appropriately and also made sure that Sara never wore a thong, a low-cut top or anything too revealing.
When the man's wife saw us cowering in the corner in an effort to hide our near-naked bodies, she came near us, took Sara's hand, and gestured toward food neatly laid out for us on leaves.
I hesitatingly followed her and sat down on the floor, while keeping our eyes pinned to the ground, while Graham and Andrew, who were also wearing just a loincloth, joined us and all of us ate quickly in complete silence.
When the dinner finished I mistakenly thought that the embarrassing situation of sitting there semi-naked would end but that was just the start. Sara and I had pitched in to clean the dishes and were in the kitchen when the man's wife, who wasn't embarrassed exposing her thighs and breasts, invited us to the front room where her husband was preparing drinks and, although all of us refused, since they were persistent we had no option but to join them.
After the drinking session, Sara and I did loosen up a bit but were also conscious that our shoulders and thighs were naked and that our bras were clearly visible, especially hers, as she was wearing a red one. We did try to hide as much as possible but when you are in the same room with no sheet, quilt, or anything else to cover your body there isn't much you can do, so by morning we were less worried about our bodies, and more about rain still falling with the same fury.
Graham made a call to engineers and asked them if they could send some vehicle to pick us up but they said rain was expected to stop by evening and since all of us were safe they would send a jeep the next day. We called them again but received the same reply.
We knew it was useless to call them again, so decided to change our clothes but before we could around three or four men and women entered the hut and asked us to accompany them. They took us to a large hut, which we later found out was the tribal chief's house, where a fairly large number of men, women, and children had gathered, and as soon as we entered the hut all of them started talking loudly among themselves while we sat there watching them.
After ten or fifteen minutes of animated discussion, they all cooled down a bit and two women, who were also bare-chested like others, took Sara and me out of the hut and told us to take off our clothes near a well. Neither Sara nor I had seen each other naked in many years and we certainly weren't in the mood to bare everything, so we told them in no uncertain sign language that we wouldn't undress, a stand they apparently found amusing because they returned with two mud pitchers of water and poured them on our heads.
Not satisfied with that, they refilled them and poured them again on us, which made me angry and I started shouting at them but instead of being fazed by my choicest of swear words they asked us to wear loincloths they had brought. I took it from her, pointed at my crotch, and asked them how I was supposed to wear it over panties when they had drenched it.