Here I am sitting in my sister's living room waiting for her husband to die. He was diagnosed with congestive heart failure several years ago. He has been slowly disintegrating since then, now it is almost the end.
My sister is sitting beside the bed, her sons and daughters are here with her, two of my daughters had come over to help in any way they could. They love their Aunt Linda and would do anything they could for her. Linda is unable to do much of anything she is crippled by grief, as were most of her children.
My name is John I am Linda's older brother by five years. I retired several years ago and because of a few great investments I made during my life I am pretty well off. I can only say I don't have to worry about paying my bills. I sold my house in the city and moved everything to my hunting cabin when I retired because I wanted to be alone. Two days after I retired my wife had a massive stroke. She lingered for three days before dying in the hospital never making it back home. The love of my life was gone and my heart was broken. I still feel the pain from that loss.
The crying from my sister's bedroom just became louder, two of her son's just came out and said it's over, my father just passed over. I got up and walked into her bedroom and went to Linda. I put my hand on her shoulder so she would know I was here for her. She looked up at me and said, "he's gone". I told her "I know, I am so sorry Linn". She stood up and hugged me tightly, crying her heart out. All I could do was to hold her and let her cry. We stood there for about twenty minutes and her daughters were crying, and my daughters were crying, and the boys were just trying to be strong without much success.
Tom didn't have much as far as money or possessions, but he did have the love of his family. Linda & Tom had been married for forty-six years. She is now 65 years-old but looks like she's 45, she is healthy, and in good physical condition. She has never been afraid of work. She worked a full time job, kept her home clean, and raised five children. I believe she did a wonderful job. Tom worked at the mill as a laborer for better than 30 years. He never made any big money, but he did earn enough to get by and have what they needed and some of what they wanted. Linda's income was the sometimes-extra money that they needed to get by.
All of the girls were starting to get their composure back for the moment. I kissed Linda on the forehead and told her that I loved her. I then walked outside and called the funeral home to let them know it was time to come and pick up Tom's body. It was not necessary to contact the coroner since he was under the direct care of his cardiologist when he died. I came back in and told the boys that I had made the call. They looked at me and almost with an embarrassed look told me that Tom did not have any life insurance and they would have to get together to figure out how they could pay for the funeral. Then one of the boys asked if funeral parlors would take payments, and I knew this was a major concern for Linda's whole family, so I told them that I had carried a life insurance policy on their Dad and Mom for years. I would take care of that part of the funeral. All they had to do was meet with the funeral director and let him know what they wanted for their Dad. I went back inside the house and called the funeral home again and told the director he was not to talk to the family about cost, he was to tell them the bill had been taken care of.
Three Months Later
Everything had settled down. The kids had all come to terms with the death of their Father, Linda was doing the best she could. She was looking for a part time job just to get her away from the house where her husband died. So many memories, most happy, but some such as Tom's death were hard to overcome. The bills started coming in and she was short again this month because she no longer had Tom's Social Security Check to help her. With her pride, you would never know she was having a hard time. I spoke to Linda on the telephone at least once a week and she was always happy and sounded carefree.
About a month later on a Wednesday morning, my daughter Debby called me and she was very upset. She was crying on the telephone, she said that Aunt Linda has lost about 30 pounds and she had very dark circles under her eyes. She looked very sick, and she would not talk to anyone about what was wrong with her. I told Debby to calm down and I would drive into town tomorrow and talk to Linda and find out what was wrong.
The next day I got up about 7:00am showered and dressed, got in my car and I was on my way. It is about a 90-minute drive into town and I was trying to think of what could be wrong with Linda to make her this ill. Was she sick or even dying, I began to worry about my sister I did not want to lose her. She was my only sibling and I loved her.
I got to Linda's home, the flowers in front of the house were dying, and the grass had not been cut since Tom Died. I got to the front door and knock loudly concerned Linda might not hear me if she were in the back of the house. A few minutes later Linda came to the door, she did not know I was coming so she was alarmed when she saw me. She started to cry, I think she was afraid I would be angry with her. I said to her "Linda what is wrong with you" "you look like shit".
She walked over to a chair in her living room, she was very unsteady on her feet. She was almost shuffling to move. I walked over to her and knelt down next to her and asked again, what is wrong, are you sick? Do you need a Doctor? She again started to cry. I had no idea what was wrong. Her belly was gone, her legs and arms were very thin, and her breasts looked as if she had lost at least two-cup sizes. Her skin was gray and she did indeed have large dark circles under her eyes.
I reached out to her and put my arms around her, she just melted into me and began to whimper again like a frightened child. I told her that I loved her and all I wanted to do was help her. She began to cry harder, and she tried to melt into me more. I pulled her away and said, "What is wrong with you Linda"? She could not answer me she just looked at me with fear and love at the same time. I just held her close to me until she was able to calm down.
Finally, she looked up at me and said, "I love you John" "I know you paid for everything for Tom's funeral" "I will never forget that as long as I live".
Linda, I did nothing. Tom was my friend and you are my sister. If I can't help those I love them shame on me.
Tom, none of us will ever have the money to repay you.
Have I ever asked for anything from you Linda?
Linda, you must tell me what is wrong with you. Have you been to the Doctor? I must know now or we are going to the hospital, because you look like hell.
It's not important John I am fine. I have just been on a diet I was trying to lose some of the extra weight I have been carrying around.
Well my darling sister, you are done with that right now. If you lose any more weight, you will die. When Tom died you weighed about 140 pounds, what do you weigh now?
I am not sure; I haven't been on the scale in a while.
Come on Kid, I want to see how much weight you have lost.
We walked into the bathroom very slowly, Linda could not walk very fast and she was unsteady on her feet. She had to hold onto me to steady herself. She stepped up onto the scale the needle move quickly and stopped at 96 pounds. I was alarmed and afraid for her. I took her back into the living room and got her sitting down in her chair.
I told her I was going to make her something to eat and she began crying again. Confusion hit me again. Why would she cry when I told her I was going to feed her. I got her calmed down again and went to the kitchen. I opened the pantry doors, it was completely empty, and I opened each cabinet door, not a bit of food in the house. No wonder she is losing weight.
I went back into the living room and confronted her about what I had found. I asked why her kids were not helping her. Why was she not buying food?
She told me that the kids were barely making it as it was and after she paid the bills there was nothing left for food. She was trying to buy and stretch the food for two months and then the bill collectors started calling; they were calling every day and hollering at her on the phone that they wanted their money so she paid it. There was nothing left.
Linda, why didn't you call me?
Because you already spent so much to help us with Tom I didn't think you would have any money left, I know how much it cost to bury Tom. I did not want to ask for more help and embarrass you if you could not. Again, she began to cry from her own embarrassment.
Linda, you are coming with me now!
I was not going to allow this to go on. I called her son Bob and told him what was going on and told him that I was taking her to my home so I could take care of her and nurse her back to health. I asked him to contact the other kids and let them know where their Mother will be.
I asked Linda if she had a suitcase and she told me where it was. I got it and started looking through the drawers in her dresser and pulled out underwear, and some tops, in the closet I got out some slacks and a couple of housedresses. I was somewhat upset when I looked at the condition of Linda's clothes. They were torn the cotton underpants had holes and snags, her bras were threadbare and stretched. The dresses and pants were old. I said nothing I loaded the suitcase and asked Linda if she had anything else that she would need and she said no she had run out of everything already.
I was in good sharp for my age but I could not lift and carry Linda to the car so we slowing made our way stopping a few times to let Linda rest. We finally got to the car, I got her in and the seat belt fastened around her. When I got in on the other side, I ask her "when did you eat last".
She told me it had been about three days ago, that was when the last of the food ran out.
I said OK and sat there for a few minutes thinking what kind of food she could eat that would not make her sick. It had to be something that would be easy on her stomach. Not being a medical person, I was over my head so I stopped and purchased some Jell-O that was already made from a delicatessen. Linda ate it slowly and was able to hold it down well.
We arrived at my home and she was shocked when she saw it. The last time she was here was about eight years ago, the house is a rather small log cabin on the outside it still looked the same. What I had done was build most of the house underground. When we entered the main house it is four room hunting cabin. In the corner on the back bedroom is a large closet. Inside that closet is an elevator that took us down to the living quarters.