My dad is a career State Department official. From the age of seven my dad's job required me to live in a Muslim country in the Middle East. As a result, until we returned to the United States a little over six months ago, I had no contact with females my own age. I had never dated, and had never kissed a girl. Hell, except for adult women married to other diplomats, I had never seen a woman of any age in a costume more revealing than the head to toe burqas worn my the local women whom I was forbidden to touch or even speak to.
Now, I am a university freshman in a school not far from our nation's capital. I am experiencing major cultural shock, and am having a hell of a time dealing with it.
Every day I am surrounded by women ranging in age from about eighteen into their early sixties. Many of them wear clothing that would have gotten them beaten or even stoned where I lived more than half of my life. I am not used to seeing uncovered faces, bare arms and legs, and even half-exposed breasts. The result is that, because I am a ΒΏnormal? healthy 19 year-old male, I have an erection most of the time. It gets to be both uncomfortable and embarrassing.
Recently, this presented me with a new problem, one with totally unintended consequences.
The student union announced that it was having a masquerade ball to celebrate Halloween. That's still several weeks away, but...
But, Colleen Kilpatrick who is in my literature class caught me in the SUB last week and asked me if I would take her to the Halloween ball. Yeah; Colleen asked me.
I was dumbfounded. I had certainly noticed Colleen. She is a really beautiful strawberry blonde with eyes that are almost emerald green. She has a few freckles, but not enough to spoil her otherwise exquisitely beautiful pixie-like face.
After stammering a bit, I told her that I would be happy to take her to the dance. I also managed to summon up enough courage to ask her to go to dinner and a movie with me the following Friday evening so that we could get to know one another a little before the night of the Halloween ball. She smiled the most beautiful, exciting smile I had ever seen and said yes. Before hurrying off to her next class, she gave me her phone number and address and asked me to pick her up at 6:30 that Friday evening.
I stood there staring as she rushed through the SUB lounge. My mind was in turmoil. I had just committed myself to a beautiful girl with whom I had previously had no contact beyond a nod and a smile as we took our seats next to one another in the lecture hall.
When I got home, my mother noticed immediately that something was bothering me. "Larry, what's the matter? You look worried, or should I say frightened. What happened?"
"Mom, I've got a problem and I don't have a clue about what to do about it."
"Well, why don't you tell me about it? Perhaps I can help."
"Thanks mom, but it's kind of personal."
"Oh! Does it involve a girl?"
"Uh huh."
"Well, -- tell me about it. Have you been having sex with a girl?"
"God, no; mom. How could I? I've never dated a girl, much less had sex with one."
"Alright, then suppose you tell me what the problem is."
"Colleen Kilpatrick, a girl in my lit class caught me in the SUB today and asked me to take her to the Halloween ball. I accepted and asked her for a date this Friday so that we could get to know one another a little better before the dance."
"And?"
"Mom --, I'm afraid I'll do something stupid and embarrass my self. I've never been on a date. I've never held hands with a girl, never kissed one. Mom, I don't know what to do. I feel like a total dummy."
I have to digress here for a moment. Last week, I accidentally overheard mom and dad having a private conversation. Dad has to take a couple of medications to lower his blood pressure. Those medications have left him impotent. He cannot get an erection. That is leaving mom sexually frustrated. The conversation I overheard went like this: "Honey, make love to me tonight."
"Helen, you know I'd like to. I can't. These damned medications the doctor has me on make it impossible for me to get a hard-on."
"I know, darling, but there are other ways we can make love. Shirley Lohmann says Karl also had ED, but he satisfies her anyway."
"And how does he do that?"
"He eats her pussy."
"Helen, I won't do that. I can't do that. Pussy just smells too gross for me to put my mouth to it."
Their conversation went on for another couple of minutes before dad stomped out of the house and slammed the door as he left. When mom came out of their bedroom, her eyes were red and her face was tear stained.
Now, back to my story.
Mom looked thoughtful for a moment, and then said, "Let me get this straight. You have a date for Friday evening, and you are afraid you'll not know how to act and will wind up looking like a fool. Is that right?"
"You nailed it mom."
"Well, Larry, you have less of a problem than you think."
"I wish that were true."
"It is, believe me. Larry, it is obvious that this girl, Colleen, is attracted to you. Otherwise, she would not have taken the initiative and asked you to take her to the dance."
"Uh, I guess so. But that still doesn't help me know what to do, or how to act."
"Larry, honey, Colleen obviously knows what she wants. Let her lead the way. Believe me; she will give you subtle little clues that will tell you what to do and when to do it."
"But what if she wants to kiss? Mom, I've never kissed anyone but you, and I've only kissed you on the cheek. I don't know how to kiss a girl."
"Well, it sounds like you need a lesson or two in the art of kissing. Don't you?"
"You can say that again, but who would give me those lessons?"
Mom got a strange look on her face, smiled, and said, "I guess I could do it for you."
Her saying that set the two of us upon a path that neither of us had anticipated, a path than may yet be our undoing.
"Larry, the first time you kiss a girl, let her take the lead and set the pace. If you are too ardent right off the bat, you may frighten her. If that happens, you're not likely to get a second kiss."
"Yes mama."
"On the other hand, you don't want to give her a peck on the cheek like you would give to great aunt Bessie. You want her to know that you like her and want to kiss her."
"I think I understand the idea, but I still don't know how to do what you're suggesting."