Content Warning: spiritual abuse, Male Dominance/female submission, spanking, crying.
Quick definition: "courting" in this context refers to the parentally sanctioned dating period before (arranged) marriage.
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"Hurry up, dear, he'll be here any minute! Have you packed everything?"
"Yes, auntie. Be down in a sec!"
Today's the big day; my aunt and I are moving in with her new husband, Mr. Grant. When she told me we were going to be living with my new stepdad I was cautiously optimistic. Sure it would be another change, but at this point I'm used to changes. I'd been living with my aunt for a few years now, ever since my drug-addict biological mother overdosed. Auntie quickly proved herself to be a much better caretaker than my actual mom, and I was grateful for her steady life.
Unlike my real mother, my aunt never dabbled in drugs or "sinful" activities. She and her sister were raised religious, but my mother had "veered off course."
"I won't let the same thing happen to you," she'd assure me.
My aunt was much more passionate in her religious devotion than my mother and her new husband matched her fervor equally. As much as she strove to be the perfect (in their minds) Christian woman: obedient, subservient, at the will of Man; he strove to be the perfect Christian Man: master of his domain, humble servant of God. I'd only met Mr. Grant once or twice at meals and he seemed nice enough. Well, maybe not nice, but commanding and proud in his status as a high-ranking man of his church.
"Oh, dearie, he's here! Let me fix you hair... perfect! You look lovely. And please, try to act sweet when you're around him. He likes his girls like that. Do that for me, will you?"
I glanced around nervously after that cryptic comment as my aunt opened the door to usher in Mr. Grant, who looked quite dapper in his suit.
"Hello, my Husband," auntie chirped in a rather deferential tone. She even did a little curtsy. Mr. Grant grinned as he watched her obsequious performance, but his smile dissolved after he looked me up and down.
"Why isn't she in a skirt, Susie?" My aunt's name is Susanne and I'd never heard anyone call her Susie.
"Oh, I'm so sorry dear I didn't think-"
"Of course you didn't. But that's why I'm here. To think." He patted my aunt's head patronizingly then looked back at me.
"You, girl, go upstairs and put on one of your skirts. No woman will be stepping into my home in a pair of trousers! Blasphemy! If you'd been been doing your Bible readings you'd know this. Deuteronomy 22:5 A woman shall not wear a man's garment, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the LORD! So get on up those stairs and change, little girl, then we can head out."
Mr. Grant seemed to have settled slightly but his initial outrage still shook me. My aunt didn't look too frightened, though; I could tell she was used to these outbursts. She took me aside.
"I'm sorry about his tone, darling, he really doesn't mean any harm. He's just a little... old-fashioned, shall we say. But please, dear, just go along with it for now. He's so kind to take us in, and soon you'll see his ways aren't so bad. Plus, it should only be for the summer, you'll probably be going to college in a few months. You think you can do this for me, sweetheart? Please, I love him with all my heart."
My aunt pled with her puppy-dog eyes and I knew she really loved him so I didn't complain and changed into a skirt. Our household wasn't 'modest', though, and my options were sure to raise eyebrows. But I had no choice, so I put on a rather skimpy light pink pleated skirt. It was cute, but definitely not for the eyes of a Godly man. I went back downstairs and Mr. Grant smiled.
"Much better, sweetie, even if it is a bit... short. My son's in town for the summer and I don't want him near any heathens, but now you look perfect. See, girl, don't you feel better wearing your feminine garments?"
"Um, yes, Mr. Grant. I guess so."
I was swaying nervously and the skirt was swishing up and showing him more leg. Mr. Grant just kept grinning, clearly enjoying my new outfit, although it was hard to believe this tiny skirt made me more faithful to God than the jeans I had on before. Whatever his reasoning for making me wear it, I didn't mind because I preferred him relaxed.
"Please, dear, call me Father. I think it's appropriate now that I'm taking you under my roof." He held a firm tone when he said "my" to remind me that he was in charge.
"Yes, Father," I blushed. I didn't know my real Dad so it felt weird to say for the first time.
Mr. Grant carried our bags and led us to the car. He opened the back door and my aunt and I got in; with him driving and us in the rear we both looked like his children. I was going to ask my aunt why she wasn't sitting in the front but recalled her saying he's "old-fashioned" and decided not to.
We drove in silence for a while and I remembered that Mr. Grant's son, James, would be living with us. I hadn't met him before but knew he was a lot older than me; I think 30. I'd never lived with a guy, let alone two, and was thinking about how weird it was going to be when the crackling radio broke my thought, followed by a woman citing scripture.
"Can you believe this, girls? A woman! Preaching! This country, I tell you, it's going to hell! The whole place! Isn't it just terrible, Susie? Tell me woman, what does the Bible have to say about this?"
"Timothy 2:12 But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet," she replied confidently.
"Good girl, Susie, at least one woman on this God-forsaken earth knows her scripture. And that's why I married you, darling." He smiled at her from the rearview mirror. She smiled back.
"Yes, dear, if only she knew her place. Please, will you change the channel? Go to your favorite station." My aunt used her feminine charm to defuse the situation and he switched to a man droning about the sanctity of marriage.
"A woman preaching..." he grumbled to himself throughout the rest of the ride.
We arrived at his house and it was definitely an upgrade from my aunt's; I could tell why she wanted to move in. It had two stories, a white picket fence, and a picturesque garden: the quintessential suburban home. After grabbing our bags, Mr. Grant came to let us out of the car. I noticed when he put his key in the door that there was no way for auntie and I to unlock it ourselves from the inside. It was strange and unnerving, but that was only the first of many bizarre things to come.
Upon entering, my aunt practically sprinted to gather her husband's coat and hat. She placed them on a rack and hanger in the closet while Mr. Grant took a seat on a leather ottoman. Once his coat was dealt with my aunt rushed over to kneel in front of him. She untied his laces, took off each shoe, and replaced it with a soft slipper. Auntie stowed the shoes away neatly then stood at attention.
"Do you need anything else, my Husband?"
"Some tea, please. And you better start on dinner soon, James will be home in an hour."
My aunt flew to the kitchen to attend to her new chores giving her no time to explain her bizarre behavior. Why was she being so servile? It's like she was his... slave! I know, I know, "old-fashioned", but this is a little much, right? Mr. Grant turned to me.
"Sweetie, why don't you go upstairs and settle into your new room. Don't dally, though, girl, you need to help your aunt prepare dinner. With you and James living here there'll be double the chores and I expect you to do your share. Off you go, and remember, a woman's work is never done!"
He playfully smacked my butt as he shooed me up and it made my cheeks flare. Walking up the stairs I could sense him easily peeking up the short skirt he'd made me put on. Dirty perv. Is this what it's going to be like living under a man's roof? Is he going to set arbitrary rules for me to benefit himself sexually under the guise of religious virtuousness? Of course he is.
I showered and shaved all over since I was now required to show skin. I glided downstairs feeling cute in my tight pink sweater and white skirt. Entering the kitchen I saw auntie.
"Oh you look so beautiful, sweetheart! You're making such a wonderful impression on my Husband and I'm sure James will love you the same. Don't you just adore the house, honey? I love it and feel so at home here."
My aunt seemed to be over the moon about everything that was happening and I really didn't want to rain on her parade, especially since I would only be here for a few months.
"Yes, auntie, it's so big! And Mr. Grant seems like a very respectable man. You must reeeaallly respect him, huh?"
"Oh, dear, I'm sorry about that. I should have explained more when I said he's... old-fashioned. What I mean, sweetheart, is that Mr. Grant and the men of his church follow the literal word of the Bible as law, and guide their lives through its passages. To your Father, one of the most important lines is
Corinthians 11:9 For indeed Man was not created for the woman's sake, but woman for the Man's sake.
In our church, women are the servants of Men; we are their helpmeets. I took a vow to love, honor, respect, and obey my Husband, so everything you see me do is out of my devotion to him and to God. But please, honey, know that I'm doing this out of my own desires. I love him dearly, I love my church, and I love my role as a woman. I choose to do this, and I hope one day you'll see that it's a righteous path."
She looked at me earnestly so I just soaked in her backwards, anti-feminist diatribe and let it marinate as I literally began marinating tonight's dinner. Who am I to judge my aunt for doing what she wants? It was a bit weird seeing her take off his shoes and coat like a 1950's sitcom, but I guess that's just old-fashioned. What was weirder, though, was the tingling sensation I got when she was kneeling in front of him. He sat so stoically, so proud of having his woman do his bidding. It was quite erotic. And I don't really blame my aunt for wanting to serve Mr. Grant...