Content Warning: spiritual abuse, Male Dominance/female submission, spanking, crying.
Quick definition: "courting" in this context refers to the parentally sanctioned dating period before (arranged) marriage.
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"Hurry up, dear, he'll be here any minute! Have you packed everything?"
"Yes, auntie. Be down in a sec!"
Today's the big day; my aunt and I are moving in with her new husband, Mr. Grant. When she told me we were going to be living with my new stepdad I was cautiously optimistic. Sure it would be another change, but at this point I'm used to changes. I'd been living with my aunt for a few years now, ever since my drug-addict biological mother overdosed. Auntie quickly proved herself to be a much better caretaker than my actual mom, and I was grateful for her steady life.
Unlike my real mother, my aunt never dabbled in drugs or "sinful" activities. She and her sister were raised religious, but my mother had "veered off course."
"I won't let the same thing happen to you," she'd assure me.
My aunt was much more passionate in her religious devotion than my mother and her new husband matched her fervor equally. As much as she strove to be the perfect (in their minds) Christian woman: obedient, subservient, at the will of Man; he strove to be the perfect Christian Man: master of his domain, humble servant of God. I'd only met Mr. Grant once or twice at meals and he seemed nice enough. Well, maybe not nice, but commanding and proud in his status as a high-ranking man of his church.
"Oh, dearie, he's here! Let me fix you hair... perfect! You look lovely. And please, try to act sweet when you're around him. He likes his girls like that. Do that for me, will you?"
I glanced around nervously after that cryptic comment as my aunt opened the door to usher in Mr. Grant, who looked quite dapper in his suit.
"Hello, my Husband," auntie chirped in a rather deferential tone. She even did a little curtsy. Mr. Grant grinned as he watched her obsequious performance, but his smile dissolved after he looked me up and down.
"Why isn't she in a skirt, Susie?" My aunt's name is Susanne and I'd never heard anyone call her Susie.
"Oh, I'm so sorry dear I didn't think-"
"Of course you didn't. But that's why I'm here. To think." He patted my aunt's head patronizingly then looked back at me.
"You, girl, go upstairs and put on one of your skirts. No woman will be stepping into my home in a pair of trousers! Blasphemy! If you'd been been doing your Bible readings you'd know this. Deuteronomy 22:5 A woman shall not wear a man's garment, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the LORD! So get on up those stairs and change, little girl, then we can head out."
Mr. Grant seemed to have settled slightly but his initial outrage still shook me. My aunt didn't look too frightened, though; I could tell she was used to these outbursts. She took me aside.
"I'm sorry about his tone, darling, he really doesn't mean any harm. He's just a little... old-fashioned, shall we say. But please, dear, just go along with it for now. He's so kind to take us in, and soon you'll see his ways aren't so bad. Plus, it should only be for the summer, you'll probably be going to college in a few months. You think you can do this for me, sweetheart? Please, I love him with all my heart."
My aunt pled with her puppy-dog eyes and I knew she really loved him so I didn't complain and changed into a skirt. Our household wasn't 'modest', though, and my options were sure to raise eyebrows. But I had no choice, so I put on a rather skimpy light pink pleated skirt. It was cute, but definitely not for the eyes of a Godly man. I went back downstairs and Mr. Grant smiled.
"Much better, sweetie, even if it is a bit... short. My son's in town for the summer and I don't want him near any heathens, but now you look perfect. See, girl, don't you feel better wearing your feminine garments?"
"Um, yes, Mr. Grant. I guess so."
I was swaying nervously and the skirt was swishing up and showing him more leg. Mr. Grant just kept grinning, clearly enjoying my new outfit, although it was hard to believe this tiny skirt made me more faithful to God than the jeans I had on before. Whatever his reasoning for making me wear it, I didn't mind because I preferred him relaxed.
"Please, dear, call me Father. I think it's appropriate now that I'm taking you under my roof." He held a firm tone when he said "my" to remind me that he was in charge.
"Yes, Father," I blushed. I didn't know my real Dad so it felt weird to say for the first time.
Mr. Grant carried our bags and led us to the car. He opened the back door and my aunt and I got in; with him driving and us in the rear we both looked like his children. I was going to ask my aunt why she wasn't sitting in the front but recalled her saying he's "old-fashioned" and decided not to.
We drove in silence for a while and I remembered that Mr. Grant's son, James, would be living with us. I hadn't met him before but knew he was a lot older than me; I think 30. I'd never lived with a guy, let alone two, and was thinking about how weird it was going to be when the crackling radio broke my thought, followed by a woman citing scripture.
"Can you believe this, girls? A woman! Preaching! This country, I tell you, it's going to hell! The whole place! Isn't it just terrible, Susie? Tell me woman, what does the Bible have to say about this?"
"Timothy 2:12 But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet," she replied confidently.
"Good girl, Susie, at least one woman on this God-forsaken earth knows her scripture. And that's why I married you, darling." He smiled at her from the rearview mirror. She smiled back.
"Yes, dear, if only she knew her place. Please, will you change the channel? Go to your favorite station." My aunt used her feminine charm to defuse the situation and he switched to a man droning about the sanctity of marriage.