I was always close to my parents. They were older than most other parents of my friends, but they were the nicest people I've ever met. I assumed since I was the only child and came to this world late in their lives, they gave me everything they may have never had when they grew up. We weren't wealthy yet not poor either. They showered me with gifts on every occasion: birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, good scores on exams. If you think this approach spoiled me, you'd be right.
When I started college, we found out Dad had Alzheimer, and slowly, his memory and behavior changed for the worse. To top it off, by the end of that year, Mom began having bouts of a nasty cough. Radiologic tests confirmed a terminal lung cancer.
The next weekend, Mom asked me to join her and Dad to talk about the future. I tried to encourage them, saying I heard about new treatments for both lung cancer and Alzheimer. Mom stared at Dad and then turned to me, "Dan, we talked to our physicians and even got second opinions from specialists. They all sounded hopeful about experimental drugs, but it was obvious there was nothing for us yet. Anyway, the reason we wanted to talk to you was not us but you. Eventually, Dad and I will be out of your life. It's time you learned the truth: We are not your biological parents. We adopted you at the tender age of 1 year. We were told your real father had disappeared and your mother was an alcoholic who dumped you at the hospital without notifying anybody of her name or giving any details about her life. Nobody knew her and she never returned to claim you. We are not sure if she is still alive... These days, with 'Ancestry.com' and '23 and me,' you can search online for biological relatives - Mother, father, cousins. What do you think?"
I was still in shock with the revelation that my parents were not my real ones. Suddenly, so many things looked different. I mumbled, "Please, let me digest the unexpected news." Next, I went to my room.
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In my room, I cried. I haven't cried since I was a child, but now I did. For the first time in my life, I felt miserable, powerless, and desperate. The health of both my loving parents was declining. Not slowly or graciously, but precipitously. A free fall. And then I was told I was not their flesh and blood. My whole life was a fake and soon to be worse...
I slept only 2 hours that night. Much of the time, I was tossing and turning, thinking about the future. Toward morning, I fell asleep but woke up after a nightmarish dream.
The weeks that followed, I was too distracted to concentrate on my studies, and my test scores began declining. Once I even failed an exam, which never happened to me before. I knew I had to do something about it.
As Mom suggested, I registered to both ancestry.com and 23 and me and waited to see whether something would come up. In the meantime, I started focusing more on class - It wasn't so much for myself, but for the parents who were there for me all my life. I could not disappoint them after everything they had done for me!
A few weeks later, I got a message from ancestry.com, 'Login and check the results.'
I went online, and was amazed to find out I had 3 cousins and... a sister, name Erin. I ignored anything else in my schedule and looked for her. She had a Facebook account and several fuzzy pictures on Instagram. It turned out she was older than me by a year and lived in Phoenix, Arizona, with 2 'sisters' and 'a mother.'
I sent her a message, 'Erin, according to ancestry.com we are brother and sister. Were you adopted as a child? If it's OK with you, I'd like to talk to you on the phone or at least e-mail you. Thank you, Dan.'
Her answer arrived the next day, 'Dan, I didn't know I was adopted. After getting your message, I talked to Mom, and she confessed the truth. I was stunned, and only now I feel strong enough to answer. Yes, I'd love to talk to you on the phone and meet you.'
'We live far apart. I reside in New York and go to college here. My phone number is 212-...-..... Please call me when you have free time.'
Erin called my phone half an hour later, "Dan, is it you?"
"Yes. Nice to hear your voice, knowing it belongs to a sister I never knew existed."
Her laugh was very pleasant, "So you are my little brother."
"If you call 1 year difference between us 'little,' the answer is yes."
She giggled, "Dan, we must meet. Can you fly to Arizona, or you want me to come see you in the Big Apple?"
"Have you ever been to New York?"
"Not yet. It's on my list of places to visit."
"Look, it's mid summer now. I checked online and the temperatures in Phoenix are only slightly less than on the surface of the sun. I am afraid to boil in your neck of the woods. I'd rather you come here, where it is around 80 degrees in midday, and I'll take you to see the city's attractions."
"I can come to New York for a long weekend in 10 days."
"This will be perfect! We live in a big house. You'll have your own room with an attached bathroom. Once you purchase a flight ticket, give me the details and I'll pick you up from the airport."
All of a sudden, she sounded serious, "You realize I know nothing about you. How do I know you are not a criminal, trying to manipulate me?"
"Erin, you are right to be skeptical. Next thing I am going to do, is send you a couple of my pictures, and attach the notification I got from ancestry.com."
I chose 2 recent pictures of me. The first was with my adopted parents, and the other of me alone, strolling in a park nearby.
Her response was immediate, "Ancestry does say we are brother and sister, but I still have my doubts. You are much taller than me and very handsome. We couldn't have been conceived by the same parents..."
"Thank you for the compliment. Unlike you, I thought it wasn't polite to comment on somebody's appearance before you meet the person, otherwise, I'd write to you that you looked gorgeous in your Instagram."
"OK, Dan, I'll get the tickets soon, and send you my itinerary."
...
Erin's flight was a redeye and landed around 7 am on Friday. I was there to pick her up. I recognized her immediately: Her face features were not so clear in her pictures but looked much better in real life. What can I say - I liked her face from first sight. She was 5'6", 125 pounds, had long, dirty-blonde hair, and wore loose shirt and jeans pants. I went to meet her and she smiled, "Dan, you really are tall! Most men I met online tended to lie about their height and weight."
I smirked, "If I knew I'd meet such a pretty girl, I'd wear nicer clothes..."
"You don't need to, I do not like men who overdress. I prefer to meet the real person, not somebody he wishes to be, if you know what I mean."
"I think I get your point. Did you sleep during the flight? Would you like to go straight home or get a breakfast on the way?"
"I had a window seat and slept like a baby. But breakfast will be nice."
"On the way, there is a good place, called Penny House Cafe. They have good sandwiches, bagels, and omelets. You wish to try it?"
"That will be fine. I am not that picky about food, but I like a good strong coffee."
I smiled, "They make 'Redeye,' 'Blackeye,' and 'Hangover Helper' to name a few. I am sure you'll find a decent coffee there."
Erin ordered a Blackeye coffee with the avocado bagel. I took a Greek omelette with regular coffee. While we were sitting, I ogled her face. She had almond eyes, small straight nose, and luscious lips. It was apparent she didn't try to work on her face because there was no evidence of lipstick, makeup, or other artificial cosmetics. Her face was naturally pretty. However, she didn't look like me at all.
Did she get her look from one parent and I from the other one?
I noticed that her eyes explored me as well. A couple of times, our eyes met and we smiled. I said, "It's natural to be curious and glance at each other. Personally, I am surprised we do not look alike at all. But it may be a good thing - If you'd look like me, you'd be much less beautiful..."