When my sister Joan got divorced, she knew she could talk to her family about it. We would support her 100%. It was not an easy time - as part of the divorce process, Joan and her ex-husband Ed had sold their house, and the proceeds were not enough for her to put down a deposit on a new place.
"You're welcome to come stay with me for a while," I suggested. I had recently moved out of my (now ex-)girlfriend's place and bought a house of my own.
I explained the arrangement to my sister, suggesting it might be a good fit for her circumstances. "You'd pay bills, but not rent or mortgage. That's how I saved up for a deposit living at Sarah's place."
In fact it was a convenient solution to a number of problems. Joan had just got a new job, and she was worried there might be concerns from the banks about it. The new job was not far from my place, which was useful. Plus my place was near the seaside, which didn't hurt.
Before long she agreed this was the best short-term plan. So it was that, one afternoon in early May, my little sister knocked on my front door, greeting me when I opened it with three large bags.
"Hi big brother!"
It didn't take her long to get set up in my house. After a few misunderstandings over whose stuff was shared or not, how loud was "too loud", which rooms were private at what times, we got into a pretty good rhythm and coexisted peacefully.
Then, about one month after moving in, something happened that would change our relationship forever. Joan knew that I was a naturist, but what she didn't realise - to be fair, it had never come up - was that meant I was naked in my room a lot of the time.
"Will, have you seen th-" I heard her saying as she popped her head around my door.
I was on a futon near the window, reading a book. I looked up at her and put the book down.
"Are you naked?" she said. Then, "Oh, you are, sorry Will, sorry sorry sorry," disappearing behind the door and down the hall.
I put some pants on and went out to find her. She was in the kitchen making a coffee. "I'm so sorry, Will," she said. "I shouldn't have barged in like that."
"No no," I said, "if the door's open, barge away. I don't think that's where the misunderstanding is."
She grabbed her coffee and went around to sit on one of the kitchen stools. I went to the other side of the bench to talk to her.
"I don't mind you seeing me naked. Let me put it this way: if you had walked in just now, everything was the same, but I had boxers on, would you have continued the conversation as normal?"
"Uhhh," she replied, "I suppose so."
"So nudity, for me, is what underwear is for you. Too casual for the common areas of the house, maybe, but in my room there's a greater degree of casualness."
"Riiiight," she said, grasping my perspective. "If I walk into your room, and you're naked, I should just treat you like you've got boxers on."
"That's right, yeah."
"I haven't invaded your privacy just because you're naked, is what you're saying."
"That's right, yeah. Privacy is for when the door's closed."
She sipped her coffee thoughtfully. "I think that's fine. I reacted because it was unexpected, but now I see where you're coming from, I know what to expect."
"Yeah, that's the main thing. Sorry about this, I never actually explained this to you."
"No, you've talked about naturism plenty of times. I just didn't put two and two together. I don't want you to change how you live. Thanks for not walking around the house naked, though, if that's still OK with you."
"Of course. In other words, nothing changes."
Over the weeks that followed, Joan would, in fact, walk in on me naked in my room and have as normal a conversation as possible a couple of times. It was clear to me that she still wasn't 100% attuned to the concept. For one thing, she would always very deliberately keep her gaze above waist level.
Later that same month I had a scheduled monthly nude swim at a beach nearby. I attended these religiously, whatever the weather. It occurred to me to mention it to Joan. "So, not this Saturday but the Saturday after, I'm heading down to the beach for a nude swim we do."
"That's great," she said.
"I was wondering if you wanted to join me," I said. "The weather should be perfect for it. It's in the late evening. It's only about a five minute drive away. You can take a glimpse into my world."
"I'm not sure it's my kind of thing."
"Of course," I replied. "Most people don't, before they do it for the first time."
"Why do you want me to get naked with you?"
"I think you would enjoy it. It's a chance to be naked in a non-sexual context, with a group of ordinary people who are unfazed by nudity. The beach swims specifically are magic, just you and nature, nothing man-made touching your body."
"Yeah," she said, "look, I'll see if I get a better offer elsewhere."
I did remind her of the upcoming event once or twice over the course of the fortnight, but otherwise I left her alone to ponder it. She finally confirmed the day of: "You know, I might come with you to that naked thing tonight."
We drove down to the beach together. On the way, Joan was mostly silent, apart from occasional small talk intended to avoid the topic at hand.
When we arrived at the beach, there were already a number of people, mostly older couples, stripping off in the car park.
"Oh, wow," she said, "people get naked in the car park?"
"Yeah, the beach basically turns into a nude beach at designated times of the month. It's a bit of a tradition. Everyone just kind of understands that this is the time when the naturists come down."
We got out of the car. She took in the steadily growing crowd of people of all ages, including families, getting out of their cars and getting naked in public. "You'll need to explain the etiquette to me," she said.
"OK, so, the key idea: naturists don't have private parts. Those bits are just body parts like any other. Look, but don't stare. It's rude to stare for the same reason it's rude to stare at any other part of someone's body. Make sense?"
A look came over her face like a lightbulb was going on very slowly. She started to remove her clothes. When she got down to her underwear, she took a deep breath, then removed her bra.
"There you go," I said. "Nothing bad happened."
Finally, she stepped out of her panties, and we faced each other, completely naked, for the first time.
"I'm sorry, Will," she said. "I just don't know where to look."
"Just look wherever feels natural. Seriously, look directly at my genitals if that's where your eyes are drawn. Don't stare, but do look."
My little sister then, finally, took a good look at my penis and testicles. As she did so, a look of contentment appeared on her face. She smiled warmly. After what felt like whole minutes, but was likely only a couple of seconds, she caught herself and looked at my face again. "I'm sorry, Will. That's staring, isn't it," going very red in the face.
I laughed. "That was not actually worse than most newbies do. Anyway, I think siblings are allowed to stare at each other more than strangers are. Don't overthink it. You can't hurt me by looking."
We walked down to the beach together, as naked as the day we were born, carrying nothing but a towel each to lie on. I recognised a few people and waved to them. One of the regulars, a guy called Dave, came up to say hi.