I have been blessed to have always had a very close family, a fact that I try not to take for granted the older I get. I have realized more and more how unique it is to have such a stable, loving family. Growing up, I thought everyone had that type of foundation of love and support, but I have met enough people and have enough friends with such different backgrounds and experiences that I know better now. It just makes me more thankful for the blessings that I had.
I grew up with a mom and dad who loved each other and are still together. So many of my friends came from broken homes or only ever knew one parent. My parents modeled a strong, healthy marriage. They were each other's best friends.
As the middle child and the only boy, I had both and older and younger sister. We are each separated by around three years. We were also very close growing up. Of course there was the normal fighting and arguing, but I remember my mom always telling me to treat my sisters well because one day they would be my best friends. Hard to believe at the time, but remarkably, it turned out to be true in so many ways.
But we were even more lucky than simply having a tight-knit immediate family. We also had my Dad's sister, our Aunt Sandy. She lived in the same small town and was easily the coolest person any of us had ever met. She was about 10 years older than my big sister, which made her 13 years older than me. She was the "cool aunt" that would swoop in on the weekends and take us to the mall or the movies or out to eat.
My parents were not poor, but we never seemed to have a lot of money for "extras", so it was always a treat when Aunt Sandy, who was single, lived alone and had a great job and hardly any bills, came around with money in her pocket to burn. But of course, we didn't just love her because of the money. She had the rare ability that few adults seem to possess. She treated us like we were equals. We could talk with her about anything and we idolized her.
But then, as we grew up, we slowly started spending less and less time hanging out with her. We had our own friends and social networks and eventually we really only hung out with her on holidays and special occasions. That all changed the summer I turned 18 and graduated from high school. I realized that I didn't have enough money to immediately go to college, but I put together a respectable plan, all things considered. I decided to stay at home to save money for at least another year. During that year I would work as much as possible to save up to college. I would also try to take a few online classes and knock out some of the introductory gen-ed requirements through the community college online program.
I had a part time job at a local grocery store all through high school, but now that I was out of school, I increased my hours there, but even so, I was only able to get scheduled for about 30 hours a week. I tried to pick up shifts where I could, but I wasn't making the kind of money I needed to in order to pay for my first year in college. I put the word out and tried to get whatever odd jobs I could find. I taught guitar lessons to a couple of neighborhood kids, I cleaned gutters, I cut grass. Anything that could bring in a few bucks.
Around this time is when I got a call from Aunt Sandy. She was old-school and preferred a voice calls over texts. She only lived about a few miles away and when I saw the caller ID, I immediately felt guilty for not seeing her or talking to her since graduation.
"Hello?" I answered.
"Shawn!" she said, and I was immediately put at ease, just hearing her voice.
"Hi Aunt Sandy!" I replied.
"How's it going? I haven't heard from you in a few weeks." she said.
I stammered on for a few minutes about how busy I was with work. She asked about my plans for school and I told her in detail, the things I had planned. I confided in her that it might take a little longer than I was hoping, College wasn't cheap and I wasn't earning what I need to do be. Then she got to the point, the reason for her call. I guess she knew about my issues finding enough work. Probably from my parents.
"I have some work to do around my place." she said, then after a pause, "actually a ton of work."
"Oh yeah?" I asked, sounding interested.
She had been living with my grandma in her house before she passed away. During the last year when grandma was having a lot of health issues, Aunt Sandy moved in with her to take care of her. Then Grandma passed away and since then Aunt Sandy has been trying to clean the place, fix it up, and get it ready to be sold. It wasn't a huge house, just a modest brick, suburban ranch style. It was situated on a quiet street, lined with similar houses and rows of tall maple and sycamore trees. There was a small, if untidy front yard, but a huge backyard complete with in-ground swimming pool, that was the highlight of many hours of my childhood. Unfortunately, I knew that there really was a ton of work to be done.
"You know what this house is like," she continued. "The basement tiles need to be pulled up, several rooms need painted, the deck needs to be stained, powerwash the fence, upkeep on the pool."
She took a breath and I knew there was more to come.
"Not to mention all the yard work. Its hard for me to stay on top of keeping the grass mowed, but there are also quite a few tree branches down that need to be cut up. The bushes need to be trimmed, more grass seed put down, scrub the driveway and pool deck."
"Is that it?" I laughed
She paused, thinking.
"Probably not," she said, "but I'm sure the rest will come to me."
"Well, I'd be happy to help." I said, "But I couldn't take any money from you. I have plenty of time this summer."
"Oh, nonsense!" she retorted, "young man, I will be paying you and paying you well. This is for a good cause. You need to go to college and for that you need money."
Reluctantly, I swallowed my pride and had to admit that this was exactly what I needed and had been looking for. There was probably enough work to keep me busy on my off days all through the summer. If she paid me something comparable to the grocery store it would just about make up the difference that I needed. I guess I was silent too long, thinking things over.