"That's ten points," my son Blake said gleefully. "It's going to be so much fun collecting that bet." He and his sister, Judy, were in the kitchen nook seated at the table.
I peeked around the corner rather than just entering the kitchen. I didn't normally monitor my kids' activities. They were incredibly good kids, Judy at twenty years old and Blake just a year younger. Both were super smart, honor students, and I often wondered what might happen if they decided to gang up on my more average intelligence. But even though I wondered, I wasn't afraid of it. My husband and I had always stressed ethical behavior and integrity in their dealings with others. No amount of law can achieve as good a result as having a strong set of internal rules to follow.
"Don't you worry, I'll hold up my end of the bargain," Judy answered. "All debts have to be paid." She sounded like she was reluctant but I heard the overtones in her voice. Whatever the bet was, she intended to have fun paying it off.
I was heartened at Judy's comment. That phrase about paying debts was part of the training we had given our kids. No matter what, they would be good to their word. No one in our family would renege on a promise, a commitment or a debt.
"Oh, yeah, and I'm really looking forward to this one," Blake continued. "Just wait until you find out what it is. And it's a ten-pointer!"
"You didn't write down anything stupid, did you?" Judy asked. Her voice showed some concern that hadn't been there in their previous exchange.
"Don't worry, you'll recognize it instantly," he assured her.
It sounded like Blake and Judy had made a bet and only Blake knew the stakes. That didn't sound like my kids.
"I'll honor the payoff, whatever it is," Judy assured him. "But just watch out, I might not have won this time but I'll write my same wager for our next bet. One of these times, you'll pay."
Wow, this sounded serious. Judy and Blake had apparently made a bet with each having a secret payoff. That wasn't how my husband and I had trained them. They were to be very careful of their commitments. Then again, they trusted each other so much. Maybe their trust in each other was so great that they knew nothing bad would happen in their bet. I was torn between my pride in the trust they had in each other and the fear that they might make blind bets outside of that trust.
I didn't normally intrude in my kids' lives. They knew they could talk with me about anything. In fact, each had shared some very deep and personal information with me and I was happy that I could be their sounding board. But my fears led me to a decision. I would ask Blake what was going on, at my next opportunity.
I backed into the living room, then started humming as I approached the kitchen. When I arrived, Blake and Judy were chatting about school.
-- -- -- -- -- "Blake, do you have a minute?" I asked. It was time for me to pry a little.
"Sure, Mom, what do you need?" he answered with a smile.
We sat at the breakfast table, the normal place for one-on-one conversations in our family.
"I apologize for eavesdropping," I said. "But I overheard something the other day and I'm a little concerned. Can you tell me about it?"
"Sure, Mom," he responded cheerfully. "I'll tell you anything you want to know. I don't have any secrets from you."
"I'm glad to hear that," I assured him. "I heard you and Judy talking about a bet. I guess I don't need to know about the bet itself, unless you want to tell me. I was a little concerned, though, because it sounded like the payoff was a secret from Judy. What's going on with that?"
He laughed. "Oh, that's nothing, Mom," he assured me. "We make blind bets all the time. I would never make Judy do anything bad and I know she would never do that to me, either. Since we both know that, it makes the bets a little more exciting to have an unknown payoff."
"What's a ten-point bet?" I asked.
"Oh, that's one of Judy's little games," he said. There was no hesitation in his response so I was sure he saw nothing wrong in what he described. Still, I waited to satisfy my curiosity. "She likes a progressive bet. So we bet something over some time, say a week. During that week, we keep track of who wins the bet the most times. It's kind of a contest with scoring. When the time's up, the winner is the one with the most points. Or sometimes, we both win and the points tell us about the payoff. That's the neat thing about her game. One time, the bet was one chore. I got nine points and Judy got eight. I was the winner so she had to do nine of my chores. The payoff depends on the number of points."
"That sounds like quite a game," I said. "Can you give me an example of a game where you both won?"
"I can only think of one, off hand," he responded thoughtfully. "The bet was one article. We each had seven points."
"One article?" I prompted. "What does that mean?"
"It's kind of like strip poker," he explained.
I was shocked at his response but I tried to control myself. To be judgmental at this point would damage all the openness we tried to keep between us.
"Each point meant that the other person had to take off an article of clothing," he continued. "It was kind of neat."
"I don't think either of you was wearing seven articles of clothing, were you?" I asked. "Doesn't that mean that you took all your clothes off, in front of each other?"
"Yeah," he answered enthusiastically. "I hadn't seen Judy naked since we were a lot younger. You know she's a fox? She really grew up nice."
"Nicely," I chided. Even in the midst of my shock at Blake's revelation, I was compulsive about his grammar.
Once again, I was torn. I was proud of Blake's forthright answer to my question but disturbed by his casual acceptance of what could become highly inappropriate behavior.
"So you looked each other over carefully?" I guessed.
"You bet," he answered eagerly. "I looked her over and she looked me over. I think I got the better end of that deal, though." He smiled as he replayed the memory. "I definitely got the better end. I didn't realize how exciting Judy is."
"Did you do anything else?" I asked. I was uneasy about his comment about his sister being exciting.
"No, Mom," he assured me. "We just stripped and looked. We were in her room. After we looked each other over, I hurried back to my room."