Disclaimer - all characters in this fictional story are over the age of 18.
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Coping with the death of someone you love is never easy, but it helps to have someone close by to help you heal.
My wife of almost 30 years, Maria, died 14 months ago after a long fight with cancer. It was a big shock. Though the cancer kept returning after multiple treatments, our doctors had told us that the latest cocktail of chemo and radiation was proving to be far more effective than anything we had tried before.
Maria's mother, Betty had come to live with us when Maria first received her diagnosis. Betty, though having her own medical issues associated with her age, wanted to do everything for her daughter, and for me. She knew I couldn't bear the burden of caring for Maria alone. After all, for the last 30 years, she had been my mom too.
In the end, it wasn't actually the cancer that killed my wife; it was the cure. The medicines simply took their toll on her organs which eventually failed. I almost wish we hadn't fought so hard. Each new round of chemo was full of false hope we didn't deserve.
After the funeral, I asked Betty to stick around a bit longer. I told her it was for me, that I couldn't bear to be alone. In reality, I knew that she shouldn't be alone. Its one thing to lose a wife.. Quite another thing to lose a child. She had sold her home, not wanting to worry about maintaining it from another state. Not that she could have done too much maintenance; She had already been feeling the effects of severe arthritis in her shoulder and legs years before she moved in with us. In fact, before Maria got sick, we tried desperately to get Betty to come live with us, without success. She had always been fiercely independent.
The first few weeks after the funeral saw both of us oscillating between numb silence and deep crying. I tried to be strong for Betty, and she tried to be strong for me, but we often just hugged and cried in each other's arms.
After about a month, we settled into a new routine. Though still incredibly sad, we had reached a point where at least one of us could go two days without crying. We made it a point to have breakfast together every morning. Sometimes we'd talk about Maria, and sometimes not. We both knew we were forcing a new normalcy on ourselves.
One day, on my way home form work, I passed a flower shop I used to go to when buying flowers for Maria. On impulse, I thought a bouquet would be a nice gesture for Betty. She had been staying in her bedroom a bit more than usual due to leg pain and, well, her bedroom could use a little livening up if she were to be in there all day. When I gave the flowers to her, she wrapped her arms around my neck and sobbed so deeply. I should have known flowers would have reminded her of the dead. But to my surprise, when I looked into her face, eyes wet with tears; she thanked me. Her smile seemed to be coming from someplace deep in her chest. She told me that they were beautiful and that I did not understand how much she needed that gesture. Betty had started to feel as if her grief was defining her. She felt that she, as a person no longer existed, but a shell of herself existed only as the mother of a dead woman. It was nice to be recognized as a living breathing person that may take pleasure in the every-day things in life. Betty planted a big wet kiss on my cheek. It's the happiest either of us had been in months.
Unfortunately, the happiness was short lived. Because of the arthritis, she was having trouble getting in and out of the bathtub. She was ashamed to ask for help, but didn't have much choice. I promised her that I have an easy access standing shower installed as soon as possible, but while we waited, something incredible happened between us.
For the sake of her modesty, I would help Betty into the tub in her robe. Then I would leave, locking the bathroom door behind me, and she would begin to run her bath. One day, however, I heard Betty calling to me from the bathroom. I knocked and asked if everything were okay. She said that her new bath soap had made the tub too slippery and she was having a difficult time reaching her towel and robe.
I assured Betty not to worry, that the lock was easily opened, and I would be inside the bathroom in a moment.
I was more concerned about her losing her balance, and focused solely on getting in, that I did not think to remind her to cover up. In hindsight, she could have drawn the curtains a little more, but when I entered the bathroom, she was fully naked and exposed. I quickly averted my eyes, looking forward just enough to guide myself to her towel and robe.
The bathroom not being so big, I still saw her in all her naked glory. Since Betty wasn't covering up, I decided to instead act completely natural. I acted as if the situation were entirely normal as to not cause her any shame. I took Betty's towel and draped it first over her shoulders. I was about to reach for her robe when I noticed that Betty was having a hard time drying herself. Her limited shoulder mobility was preventing her from performing even this basic task. I walked over, and helped her dry.