I am Saima, and was just 24 years when I had eloped with my classmate Mohan about a year back. I come from a conservative Muslim family of a suburban town and burqa was a must for all the female members. In fact, even while at NIIT, I never gave up hijab.
Mohan was a Hindu student of my age in the same NIIT and his family lived in the same town as mine but, obviously in a different area where the majority population was Hindu.
Both me and Mohan had cracked the entrance in the same year and the small town celebrated it by felicitating us in various programmes. Both of us took admission in the same NIIT that was about 540 km from our native town.
At that time, Mohan was a young boy, taller than others in the class. Though we had talked several times, he had never seen my face due to hijab or burqa. As we joined the same NIIT and opted for the same branch we often had study related conversations. Once during the third semester, one of his relatives visited the city where we were studying in NIIT. Both his and my family sent some homemade pickles and other eatables through his relative for us. Since I was staying in the girls hostel, his relative handed over my packets to Mohan.
On the following day, Mohan met me with my packets. I was suffering from severe throat infection for past couple of days and when I spoke to him, my voice was a bit hoarse due to the infection. I told him about it. Mohan had a very good sense of humour and said, "I trust I am handing over the items to the right person because I know you only by your voice and glances and today your voice is different. Even if you remove your headscarf, I will not know because I never saw your face."
We both laughed loudly. Then I said, "You are right, but I assure you are delivering to the right person."
We were talking in one corner, outside the girls' hostel and suddenly something prompted me to remove my headscarf and say, "At least you should see the face you are delivering to in case there is complaint that you ate my share instead of giving it to me."
We laughed again. But Mohan looked at my face with an astonishment and appreciation in his eyes. I knew that I was beautiful and regular use of hijab made my bright skin glowing. I could notice him overwhelmed and enchanted at my beauty. I felt slightly odd and pulling down the headscarf said, "So now on remember my face and you will not be in confusion to deliver my items in future."
We both laughed but I could still see the bewildering looks he had and sarcastically said, "Why are you so bewildered, Mohan?"
He lowered his glances and said, "Don't mind, Saima. I never expected you to remove the headscarf in front of a person who doesn't belong to your religion. But there's another reason, I have never seen such an innocent face as yours."
I was embarrassed inside. I knew Mohan was too gentle and instead of referring to my beauty, he consciously choose the word "innocent " so that his word would not send any wrong signal.
"Thank God, you didn't find it guilty," I replied smiling and for some odd reason Mohan emphatically said, "Never."
He left handing over the packets. But since that day we became more friendly and would talk while walking back from the campus or in the canteen during the breaks. But I always used hijab. Slowly, we came to discuss between us about Islamic and Hindu faiths, the superstitions and prejudices. During the fifth semester, we were one day talking about how every religion was basically misogynist and treated women as second class citizens. From Mohan I learnt details about the burning of Hindu widows in the pyres of the deceased husbands in 19th century Bengal and how the reformers faced resistance.
In the course of conversation I regretted that Muslim women were yet to see the real liberation as there had been no reformation movement. Suddenly, Mohan said to me, "Saima, you are a brilliant student and will be self-sufficient in future. Make sure that you stay in life as an empowered woman and do not succumb to social pressure as happens to most Indian women after marriage."
I smiled back at him, "I appreciate your respect for the women, your wish to see them empowered. But you know I come from a particular religious background where it's difficult for a woman to empower herself...."
I stopped abruptly and Mohan was looking questioningly at me. I was blushing under hijab, my voice was getting throttled in shame and hesitation. But then I grew bolder and said in a stammering manner, "I know it could hurt you..."
"Why are you stammering, Saima?" Mohan said, "Tell me what you wish to tell. We are good friends. Please don't hesitate."
I mastered courage, "If you are beside me in my life, I could perhaps empower myself..."
I didn't know what an irony it would be in future when a wife would be compelled by the circumstances to betray her loving husband.
Listening to me, Mohan looked at me with awe and admiration and I could see his eyes filled with emotions reciprocating my feelings. He spoke softly, "Hope you have considered all aspects and what you just said is not any infatuation. I know you're a serious type of girl and I trust you. To be frank, I never could have mastered courage to tell you the same, not because our religions are different but because to me you are too heavenly to propose. But thank you, Saima, you made it easy for me."
I could see his face overwhelmed by my proposal. He spoke again in a tender voice, "I really don't know if there is anything called love at first sight. But the day you removed your headscarf to show me your face, I fell in love. But I could have never told you about it as I believed I never really deserved such divine beauty. Moreover, I didn't want to embarrass you by confessing my love without being sure of your feelings."
"Hope you are sure of my feelings now?" I asked.