Late-40s, open lesbian. Dyke, butch, stud whatever you call it, I own it all. I live in a LGBT-friendly neighborhood and spend my free weekend nights pursuing women at a few gay bars close by. There is a popular beach nearby which brings in a lot of tourists to my area during summer time, so there is never a shortage of new people to talk to. Sometimes I get lucky, sometimes I don't. However, it does benefit to be a woman approaching other women as I earn their trust quicker than my male counterparts.
The majority of my successes have been with older closet lesbians. These types of women are usually in their late 30s to mid 50s, adventurous and open to having one night stands with strangers, but ultimately not seeking a long term relationship. Some of these women even have families. These ladies are in it for the experience, which gives them a temporary outlet from their mundane lives. Occasionally, I will meet younger, college-aged women looking to experiment. Below is one of my most memorable experiences. This is the story of my encounter with Amanda:
I laid my eyes on Amanda the night before at one of the beach bars I frequently visit, but I had a date that night so I didn't approach her. Even with the dim lighting of the bar patio and distance between us, I could tell from a far that Amanda was a beautiful young woman with a supremely athletic body. Clearly a college girl on vacation with her friends. She was a bit taller than me, maybe 5'7" or 5'8", thin, very well-built, and moved with an athlete's cat-like grace around the dance floor. She had fine features, shoulder length dark-blonde hair and beautifully shaped eyes. She was wearing one of those small beach dresses that night, I could clearly see her perfectly toned body, her high tight bottom and firm belly, her muscular yet shapely calves and slender ankles, she represented the perfect feminine ideal. At least from afar, she seemed friendly and approachable so I told myself I would try to talk to her if I saw her again.
The following night, I saw Amanda again at the same venue. It was getting late and parts of the bar were clearing out. She was standing near the bar, having a drink, and talking to a few people who I assumed were her friends. They all looked like college students. I decided to stand back and wait as these group conversations usually don't last long given how difficult it is to hear over the loud music. This took a lot longer than I had hoped but finally the conversation ended and the group dissipated. Once Amanda was momentarily alone, I took the opportunity to approach her.
My conversations with the women I approach can go many ways, especially in a bar or nightclub setting where everyone has had a few drinks. This was the case with Amanda when I introduced myself. She was clearly drunk, but friendly, talkative, and engaged. She didn't really respond directly to the questions I asked but rather went on a tangent talking about various topics that seemed to pop up in her head. I learned Amanda attended a college out of state and was about to enter her junior year soon. Just as I predicted, she was on vacation with a group of friends. Some of her friends were at nearby bars and others were back at the hotel. She was basically alone at the bar with the exception of a few acquaintances she knew. Our conversation flowed smoothly and I also learned Amanda had recently broken up with her high school boyfriend because she caught him cheating. I could feel the anger in her voice as she talked about her former lover. She was frustrated with the world and in an emotional state.
When asked if she was a lesbian, she responded with "I've only fucked guys before but I think I'm bi," which I thought was a cute response. It's not clear to me if Amanda knew the bar she was in was a well known, local gay bar. I moved on and began asking simpler but direct questions such as if she was looking to "feel a woman" for the first time. Amanda laughed at the question and didn't answer. Maybe she thought I was joking. I bought each of us a cocktail to keep the interaction going. It was just us two talking by the bar at that point.
"I don't think of love as he or she, I just love the person and it doesn't matter if it's a man or woman," Amanda replied while taking a sip of her drink. She explained to me she was taking a break from dating and focusing on college. Given her beauty, it wasn't a surprise there were many guys trying to woo her on campus, but she proudly confessed to me that while she did fancy a few of the boys, she was turning down all applicants in the meantime.