Several months ago, my husband of over 39 years, started introducing his new notions in our marriage bed. Things like when we do it doggy, (his favorite position) he tries to put a finger up my butt. He has also started holding back his climaxes, asking me to finish him off orally while my juices are still on his penis. At times he even wants to put his fingers in my mouth after they were in me. He tells me that these things are a huge turn on for him. Though I try to dutifully do my best to please him, it seems that he progressively wants more after each accommodation. When I asked him why the sudden changes in him, he just says it's a bucket list type of thing.
Most recently he insisted on introducing a realistic looking adult toy to our lovemaking, telling me he wanted some variation and spice. At first I was resistant asking him where he got such a thing, but his persistence won out and occasionally it got to where I enjoyed it with him. About a month ago in the heat of our passion, he asked me to take the thing in my mouth and pretend he was sharing me with a stranger, while he took me from behind. When I flat out refused and yelled "what in the hell is wrong with you?" He became angry, stomped out of our bedroom and we didn't speak for days.
Finally when we started talking, he flat out asked me to please consider a threesome with a stranger and that he would make sure that I enjoyed it. Emphatically, without hesitation, I told him "NO"! Over the next few days, his anger eventually turned into persistence, then to demands until he started continually trying to pressure me to perform the act. This all escalated to the point where I started feeling insecure, and our relationship became very uncomfortable for me. My best friend told me that this was most men's fantasy, probably a mid or change of life crisis thing and for me to stick to my guns. She said to ask him what part of "no" is it that he can't understand. That didn't work.
To make things worse, we travel up to 2 times a year from our home in northern Illinois to southern Florida where we have property and he has family. The drive not only makes me his captive audience, but due to the length of it we have to take a motel at least one night each way, sometimes two if we experience bad travel weather. Each and every such stop, begins with dinner at the motel and ends up in an argument with him begging me to pick out a man to ask to come back to our room with us. He has even gone so far as to offer to pay for an escort of my choice.
A few weeks back on our last trip home, I had finally had enough. The long and arduous drive through rain and sleet averaging highway speeds of only around 30 miles per hour didn't help. When we finally pulled into our motel for dinner and a room, I was loaded and ready for bear. After he picking up the room key and we were seated for dinner, I noticed that the motel's restaurant was quickly filling up behind us .My husband, seated with his back to the door was only focused on his latest threesome sales pitch to me. That is when it just came blurting out of me and to this day and I'm not sure why or from where.
I looked him right in the eye and I and told him that we had to come to an agreement right there and then. I told him that I would select a man from there to join us that night. I told him that he was to ask him any way that you chose to. Again, I told him that I would choose the man, but you must make the arrangements. I said that if this man was interested and said yes, I would go through with everything. However the event that he was said no, he must agree to stop badgering me and never bring this three way crap up again.
My husband sat there in amazement with total surprise and we never lost eye contact. After a few moments of silence, he told me that he would agree as long as there was no backing down and I told him there would not be.
By this time there were people waiting for tables and the hostess was taking names. While I looked around to find a real ringer, I noticed a tall thin distinguished looking gentleman walk in. He was grey, well dressed and appeared to be much older than us. When he inquired how long the wait was, he thanked the hostess and as he turned to leave he looked at me and just gave a friendly nod and started for the door.
I instantly stood and asked he join us. I still remember thinking that there was no way in the world this man would agree to my husband's request. He paused and before I let him decline my offer, I said that we were sitting at a four top, that we had plenty of room and that we hadn't even ordered yet. With my best smile I said please join us.
He introduced himself as Jim, I said this is my husband Richard and I'm Ann and I told him that we were pleased to meet him. He looked clean, smelled soapy like an old barber shop and I just knew at that moment that I had won the agreement and that horrible continual pressuring was finally over. My husband looked a bit bewildered because I think he had a much younger bull stud type in mind.
We ordered our dinners and as we ate, I could tell my husband was nervous because he was much quieter than normal. I told Jim how long we were married, that we were on our way home from Florida and about the bad weather we just drove through. He told us that he was recently widowed, that he lived in the area and that he had just stopped for dinner after helping with a project at his church. I looked over at my husband, winked and smiled my victory smile.
When we finished our dinner, my husband looked at Jim and asked him to please stay for another cup of coffee because there was something that he would like to ask. Jim told him that he had had enough coffee but he didn't mind to sit and talk with us for a while.
With his hands shaking, my husband came right to the point. He said that he and I have agreed to have another man, one that we didn't know, join him in having sex with me that night. He said that it would be our first time. He told Jim that we were both clean and healthy and that we had a room there at the motel. Jim looked at me and then down at the table and at that point, I just knew in my heart that he was trying to think of a way to graciously decline. I looked at my husband and I could tell by the look on his face that he felt the reality of his long time fantasy slipping away. Then he anxiously blurted out "any questions".
When he finally spoke, Jim calmly said that his wife had been very special to him. That she had been ill for many months prior to her passing and that he hasn't been with woman for a long time. I could smell the victory, I looked at Jim and was just about to say that we understood when I heard him say in a low voice that he would be interested if I had no sexual boundaries.
I looked up in total shock and I could feel the blood rush from my face and I knew that I was turning pale. I saw a grin come over my husband's face and saw his lips move as if in slow motion as he told Jim that I had none. He explained that I had agreed to choose the man and he agreed to make the proposal and that I had agreed to do everything in the event that the proposal was accepted.
I could hear my heart pounding in my ears as my husband paid the check. When I walked with them through the door to the lobby I felt numb and my legs went a little week. By the time we made it in our room I was out of ideas on how to get out of this. I looked at my husband and told him to order us a bottle of something, hoping a cocktail would delay the inevitable or at least ease my nerves and anguish. As we sat in the room attempted to make some small talk, there was a knock on the door and a bottle of bourbon was handed to my husband. I saw him sign for it and I remember taking a sip and telling them that I wanted to go freshen up.
As I stood, Jim told me that he would like to watch me undress. I glared at my husband and glanced at the bathroom door. My husband told me that if I had to pee to go right ahead. Then he reminded me that I had showered that morning before we left. He told me to please quit stalling and that another shower would only wash all my flavor away and that they might want a taste me and that he intended to make me taste myself. My husband has many faults, but this is the first time he was ever cruel to me.
I went into the bathroom and I tried to pee, but was unable too. I made sure that I wiped real good and while washing my hands, I realizing that our bags were still in the car and I couldn't have showered or even changed into something fresh if I wanted to. I stared in the mirror at the plump 58 year old woman looking back at me. I was too round in some places and started to sag in others. I haven't been comfortable with my body for some time and now given this situation, I felt all the worst about my appearance and I felt a little sick.
I walked back out into the room still fully dressed to find every light in the place on. My husband was sitting in the far corner chair, stripped down to his briefs with his cloths piled on the floor next to him. Jim was standing just outside the bathroom door next to the bed wearing only his boxers and I saw that his slacks and shirt folded neatly over the back of the little desk chair.