8. What made me gain the courage to end my marriage?
When my youngest daughter turned one I couldn't do it anymore; I wasn't happy he knew it. I had to tell him that it wasn't him and deserved someone that would make him happy. He wanted to go to counseling but I said no because I knew it wasn't going to help.
I finally told him I was not in love with him. He tried to keep me but I was done couldn't go another day pretending, so I packed and moved back to Chicago from Atlanta. I knew that if I had stayed the emotional ride I was on wasn't going to get better.
9. What made me end the charade?
I realized I was hurting someone who loved me unconditionally but couldn't love him the way he did me. When I had my nightmares he slept straight through them and I would end up watching tv until l fell back to sleep.
I really didn't want him touching me and on several occasions I actually threw up after sex with him. I never enjoyed it. I would pretend to have an orgasm and eventually enough was enough.
10. Was there a specific event that made me decide enough was enough?
Yes, actually it was my supervisor April who invited me over one Friday for a girls night out. I would always be with our girls during the day and work at night; my ex was in the military so I had no choice, but I told him he would keep the kids this one Friday night and I'd be back in the morning.
I thought nothing of it when I arrived at her home. It was six of us - four army wives and two single women, and we watched movies while eating junk food pizza, chips and drinking red wine.