I spent Christmas Eve with Mom. We exchanged gifts: I got her a manipedi, she got me a sweater. Well, we all need sweaters. On Christmas morning, I took her to mass at her church (one of the two occasions per year that she attended). Yes, I sat and suffered with her throughout.
Later in the day, I joined Aarti at her parents' house, and met them for the first time. They weren't particularly impressed with me, but they weren't rude. All in all, they were much more polite than my parents would have been. Geetha and Uncle Dru were there, too, and made the whole thing much better. I'd bought gifts for both of them, which went over very well.
It was quite late before we returned to my place. Yes, Aarti finally agreed to come to my house. I agreed to keep Freya in the basement, and not to force Aarti to meet her.
We exchanged gifts alone, just the two of us. I had booked us a trip to the Bahamas in February. Aarti squealed in delight: she hated the cold, and loved hot weather and beaches. The prospect of seeing her in a bikini
might
have entered my mind at some point.
Aarti presented her gifts to me with great solemnity. First, a very unusual deck of tarot cards. Never mind the fortune-telling aspect, these were works of art.
- "It's very important that your cards be a gift." she explained. "That gives them a special aura, and added meaning."
Then she gave me a second gift, a beautiful rosewood box, just like the one she had, to keep the cards in, complete with a silk scarf to 'preserve' them. Of course, I had to do a reading for her there and then. She was tremendously pleased that I volunteered, and then told me how significant that was.
Her third gift was simply being inside my house at all. She completed that one by accompanying me to my bed for the very first time.
Strange, yes. Crazy, maybe. But Aarti was simply the sexiest woman I'd ever been with. You may laugh at the relatively small sample size I had to compare her with, but I knew that she was exceptional.
On Boxing Day I dropped off gifts for Sylvia (our cleaning lady), and Mrs Kovacs (Mom's neighbour). Then I spent most of the day with Mom. Aarti surprised me by calling to ask if I would be home by 9:00.
- "I can be. Why? What's up?"
- "
I miss you
."
We'd been together for months. We'd made love less than 24 hours ago. And she wanted more. Can you understand
my
infatuation?
On the 27th, I went over to George and Anna's for dinner. I had gifts for them, and for Lisa - in her case, a framed photo of her with Freya. It was a very good shot: Lisa looked radiant, with a big smile, while Freya was looking up at her while panting, so that it looked as if the dog was smiling, too.
- "I love it." she said. "Thank you, Dan."
We talked about the neighbourhood, of course, because George was the biggest gossip for miles around. Then it was Lisa's schooling - she was one semester away from getting a double major in psychology and social work.
- "So you didn't need all of that math after all." I joked.
- "No. Your tutoring was very important, though. I learned a great deal from that." Lisa was a proponent of what used to be called, long ago, a 'liberal' education. Forget your politics; it was an old concept (medieval?) designed to give students broad knowledge, and transferable skills, including values, ethics, and a sense of responsibility.
George and Anna (both teachers) were in complete agreement.
- "The kids specialize too early." said George. "One geography course, one history course - then they're done. Nothing against math and science, but we have a couple of generations now that have no idea what's been going on. They think that Vietnam was part Rambo, part Chuck Norris, and part Arnold Schwarzenegger. I have one kid - one - who's seen Apocalypse Now. And he thought it was 'cool'."
- "George." said Anna. I was fascinated. All these years, and we'd never talked politics or religion. You don't do that, right? Unless it's with close friends or family, you don't inflict your opinions on others - isn't that right?
- "Sorry." he said. "I get frustrated sometimes. I asked my students if they'd ever heard of Guantanamo Bay. Two of them said yes: they thought it was a beach resort."
I'd never heard my neighbours - my friends - talk this way. I didn't immediately understand everything they were on about, because ... well, I'm an engineer. But I was also a critical thinker, especially when it came to religion. I could sympathize with George's frustration with people who accept dangerous ideas without question. We had a great discussion, with everyone sharing experiences from very different perspectives.
I went home feeling very ... warm. George, Anna and Lisa had done me hundreds of favours. They'd never failed to be there when I needed them, and had shown up many times when I didn't expect them at all. Now they had welcomed me into their home, and made me feel like a friend.
I crossed the street with a bottle of cognac (George), a wok (Anna), and a book from Lisa. It was 'Stranger in a Strange Land' by Robert Heinlein.
- "Didn't he write 'Starship Troopers'?"
- "Yes. Did you read the book, or see the movie?"
- "Both." I said. "But isn't the book ... kind of old? I'm surprised that you're into something so old."
- "If it's science fiction, or fantasy, it doesn't matter how old it is, as long as it's thought-provoking."
I looked at the book. "And this one is?"
- "Yep." she said. "I hope you'll enjoy it."
My Christmas spirit might have come late, but it had definitely arrived.
***
In January, Aarti took me to see a professional astrologer. Oh, yay. My girlfriend had already told the astrologer most everything she knew about me. Strict religious upbringing, engineering, late bloomer, widower, etc ...
Yes, I was annoyed that Aarti had shared these private matters - which I had told her in confidence - with a complete stranger. The astrologer then probed for additional information. Time of birth. Exact location. My parents' dates of birth. My sister's.
It was complete bullshit, of course. For Aarti's sake, I wasn't overtly hostile, but you could certainly have described my attitude as sullen, or unforthcoming.
- "Malinda is just trying to find out about you, sweetheart."
- "Sorry." I said. "I just have ... bad memories about my first pastor."
It took
forever
. I'm not a patient person, but my life experiences have helped me to conceal my impatience and my anger. I put up with the Inquisition, for Aarti's sake.
I had to make arrangements for our trip to the Bahamas. Sylvia (the cleaning lady) agreed to stop by Mom's place twice that week (to have lunch), in addition to her cleaning. Mrs Kovacs was happy to check on Mom every day. My neighbour Anna promised to take over some baking on Sunday, and spend some time with Mom.