Note -
In the first part of this story I described meeting Peggy, a 60yo married woman, at a social function with our respective partners. If you haven't read that story, I recommend you do before continuing with this one.
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Looking back to that Friday evening in the restaurant with Peggy, several months ago now, it's hard to believe that she and I had the sort of frank conversation we did. We'd met once before in passing but didn't know each other well, yet we chatted so easily in the restaurant and got to share some very personal information. I guess it was a case of 'right time, right setting', one of those rare occasions when two people found their brains were completely in sync, and we grasped the opportunity to converse frankly. At the end of an eye-opening evening she discretely passed me her mobile phone number and left me in no doubt that she wanted me to contact her. Not wanting to appear over-eager, I left it for a few days before texting her. She called me back and made it clear she was very keen to meet and carry on our conversation, so we arranged to meet the following Friday during the daytime at her house while her hubby was out of the country.
I couldn't quite believe this was happening so wasn't that put out when Peggy texted me on the Thursday to say she'd gone down with a flu virus and couldn't meet up. At first I imagined that in the cold light of day she was looking for a reason to cry off. However after a few texts and then a phone conversation it was clear that she was genuinely under the weather and disappointed at having to drop our plans. Much to my delight she called me a couple of times the following week and we had some lovely conversation. She told me that she was very affected by the exchanges we'd had that evening in the restaurant and was anxious to pick up where we left off. She told me outright that she was sexually frustrated in her marriage but was devoted to her husband John. She explained that she was at her wits end and wanted help from someone she could trust and confide in, in the hope that could get her sex-life back again.
I shared with her some of the experiences I'd had since turning 50 and how my journey had helped me deal with my sexual appetite, not just the obvious thing of easing my frustrations, but also by enabling me to re-invent things in the marriage bed. She was really struck by that, said she was eager to learn from my experiences and said that I'd given her some hope. I found her to be such a lovely genuine lady and so easy to chat to, and she told me how amazed she was that we had met in such ordinary circumstances and how we'd talked so openly. Peggy said she'd never chatted to anyone like it before and felt it was maybe 'meant to happen', to meet someone who she could confide in and trust at this stage in her life. She laughed and said she'd assumed such a confidant would be another woman, but added that none of her female friends were comfortable at talking openly and naturally about sex.
Our respective home-lives limited the way in which we conversed and most of our exchanges were via email, text and instant messaging. We managed to speak most weeks on the phone, but I sensed Peggy was more comfortable with IM'ing than any other means, probably because of its semi-anonymous nature. I still had an open mind at that stage about whether we'd meet, and half of me thought that she just wanted someone to chat to about sex. That was fine by me, though the other half of me wanted to take her to bed and help ease her frustrations more directly! Bad of me I know, but I found her to be just the type I'm attracted to; an ordinary looking older woman, the typical lady-next-door, warm personality, upfront about sex, keen to be sexually active and possibly rather naughty when the right buttons were pressed. Anyhow, at 54 I'm old enough not to be all doe-eyed and over-eager, but if an invitation was offered I knew I'd happily accept.
We made tentative plans to meet before Christmas, at hers, but subject to her hubby's commitments. She told me that she wanted to find a day when she knew he'd be out of town and far away so she could relax with me. Sadly our plans had to change again due to our respective commitments and her hubby's work pattern. We resolved not to rush into anything and to defer meeting up until the new year. We agreed that we enjoyed the written and verbal contact we were having; it was unsaid but I think we were both getting turned on by the slow build up in chemistry being established between us.
Over Christmas, we got into a regular exchange of emails that became a revelation. Peggy confessed that she found it easier to be more frank in an email than on the phone or in-person, and our exchanges become progressively more intimate and revealing over the following few weeks. She told me her story, about how her lack of sex had made her turn to online pornography over the past few months. But she had mixed feelings about it, as she put it "I'm a grandmother who's heading towards 61, I shouldn't be looking at that stuff". I told her I too enjoyed online porn, which comforted her a little. I also reassured her that she was among many in her age and social groupings that consumed pornography in a perfectly healthy manner. We talked about our preferences in porn and found we had a shared enjoyment of older women being pleasured, often by a couple of men. I was so anxious not to freak Peggy out that I couldn't bring myself to tell her I'd experienced MMF play for real on several occasions over recent years. She also told me she enjoyed movies involving bisexual men, and confessed to getting "very soggy" when watching mature men having sex together.
I had a real dilemma at this point, wanting to tell her about my own bisexuality, but worried I'd scare her off if I revealed too much. So I played it softly-softly, trying to assess her limits before sharing too much of my sexual history. From our daily exchanges it became clear how much her mind had been opened towards sex as a result of watching online porn and how she'd learned to manage her frustrations from a lack of sex with her hubby. However, because Peggy had not been able to confide in anyone she'd come to the view that she was in a minority, that she shouldn't be doing this at her age and that she was perverted. I had to do a lot of reassuring that she was among many out there, that her age was irrelevant, and that there was everything right about having a healthy interest in sex.
In the end I bit the bullet and told her the full extent of the journey I'd been on in recent years, about how I'd strayed beyond my marriage and had met more than just a few women of her age for recreational sex. I sought to reassure her that it was more common than she would believe, that older folks grew more confident with age, lost some inhibitions and still wanted to be sexually active. I felt I was taking a bit of a gamble admitting to my indiscretions and that maybe she'd not want to associate with someone who had cheated on his wife. I shared with her the changes that my wife had experienced in the past couple of years and how she was now far less inhibited about sex. Peggy seemed to draw some comfort in that and discretely asked about my own sex-life at home. I told her how much my wife now adored sex, how she vocalized her desires and feelings to me, and that things she previously found dirty she now enjoyed hugely.