Sex After Sixty 2

Age related decline in libido, vaginal lubrication, body image, and erectile dysfunction will usually decrease a seniors sexual desire. Also physical decline in muscle mass, joint movement, aches and pains will also decrease performance. However, A UK study "found that more than half of men (54%) and almost a third of women (31%) over the age of 70 revealed they were still sexually active, with a third of these men and women having sex at least twice a month". There is still high interest in sexual activities, if accommodations can be made for their physical decline. Old people need a new form of sex re-education. We can no longer climb on top of one another and thrust our hips up and down and our penis in and out of her vagina for an extended period of time. Even Viagra which helped when we were younger is no longer helpful and is dangerous for us with high blood pressure. Mutual masturbation is more appropriate for people in this age group. This narrative addresses solutions for these issues.

Bed body positioning allows effortless sexual gratification.

Sex play should start with the naked lady wearing only a warm robe, untied in the front, lying face up on the bed close to the edge of the bed by her right arm. In this position a man standing by the bed wearing only an open robe has full access to her entire front side. Robes are important for warmth and covering some body parts that are less attractive in our older age. Sex play should always start slowly with foreplay to allow her vulva and his penis time to swell with blood and her mind to relax and enjoy what is coming. Soft music and candle light can set the mood. I recommend a procedure like the following:

Foreplay: He might start by massaging and cleansing her feet and toes with a wet wipe in one hand followed by a silky cloth in the other. I prefer an unscented 99.9% water wet wipe that does not dry the skin or leave behind any taste when dried. I also prefer a four inch wide satin ribbon wrapped around my hand and thumb as the silky cloth. A rubber band holds the wet wipe and the silky cloth to each hand, which can be easily moved out of the way when physical touching is required. He will pick up each leg separately placing her foot on his chest and cleanse and massage them all the way up to her vulva and repeat the massage for the other leg.

At her vulva, he will bathe it with the wet wipe to cleanse and remove any trace of pee. Then he will softly dry and massage the area with the silky cloth. He may then give the vulva a soft kiss. Next moving forward, he may rub her breasts with the wet wipe followed by the cloth massage. He may then rub her nipples against his nipples. He will also rub her breasts against his face and suck on her nipples. Moving further forward by her mouth, he will wash her face with a fresh wet wipe followed by a massage with the silky cloth. He may then ask her to stick out her tongue so he can suck it and give her a French kiss.

Now being all the way forward where he has used his hands and mouth to caress her body, he will begin to move back toward her feet using his penis to caress her body. He will ask her to rotate her body so she is lying on her right side and raise her left leg putting her left foot behind her right knee. This will have her face, breasts, and vulva pointing toward where he is standing. With his penis by her mouth, he will ask her to wash and dry his penis and scrotum with the wet wipe and silky cloth. If she is not fond of oral sex, he may ask her to suck on his penis while it is covered with silky cloth. She may think she is only sucking on a cloth but that's not what he will be feeling. She may say that she doesn't like oral sex. However, when masturbating his penis with only inches from her mouth, she may find taking a few licks hard to avoid. If she is OK with oral sex, the silky cloth is not necessary.

He would also ask her to reach between his legs and rub his buttock and his anus with a separate wet wipe reserved only for anal play. A small amount of anal insertion covered by the wet wipe may be requested. Moving further back by her breasts, he will lay his penis on top of the lower breast and cover it by the upper breast and will push down on them with his hand. He will then move his hips back and forth sliding his penis between her breasts. Next moving further back, he will rub his penis back and forth on her vulva. He needs to be very careful with these steps to not get over excited and have an orgasm or he will lose focus on her needs and spoil the entire arousal activity. You both should be highly aroused by this time. Foreplay is over. It is time to get serious about gratification. He will put a pillow on the floor below her vulva and kneel on it with his chin on the bed facing her vulva.

Vulva Play: He will ask her to take control of the action and show him how she likes her vulva to be touched. She may start by asking for wet licks to lubricate the area. This may be followed by her hand rubbing her vulva showing him, up close, the way she likes to be touched. With this very close position of his mouth, inches from her vulva, allows him to see how each stroke affects her movements. Does her clitoris peek out from under its hood with some strokes; does she press down on some strokes, but not on others? This position opens up many new possibilities that she may not have thought about. Has she ever considered rubbing his nose on her clitoris or on her vagina opening?

Next she may then take one of his fingers and show him where and with what pressure she likes to be rubbed. She may then use two of his fingers and enter the vagina to rub her G-spot. While he is rubbing her G-spot, these fingers should be pushing toward his thumb that is rubbing the area outside below her clitoris, squeezing them together. She may then stop the rubbing and ask for his tongue tip to just poke but not lick her clitoris. As she continues, remember that she is controlling the action. She may also ask for a vibrator or his penis to rub her vulva. His left hand could reach between her legs and massage her buttock and her anus with an anal only wet wipe, if she would like. She also could squeeze her legs together around his arm touching her vagina while he is massaging her buttock.

Vulva play is very important. Only 30% of women can have an orgasm by vaginal contact alone. While 70% of women can have an orgasm by clitoris contact alone. Male swordsmanship is a myth. Almost all orgasms come from clitoris stimulation. Even the vaginal G-spot stimulation is only a result of the rubbing the backside of the clitoris's legs that wrap around the vagina walls. Almost all of her nerves are within two inches from the opening of the vagina. A long penis penetrating the vagina is unimportant. This whole performance leading to her orgasm can take 15 to 30 minutes, so be patient.

Penis Play: He now takes back control of the action. He will stand back upright and move back in front of her face. He may ask for oral sex, a manual penis massage with her hands, and a penis massage with her breasts, or more likely alternate between all three. He is in control of how to best reach his climax. Remember it takes much longer to arouse a woman than a man and it also takes much longer for a woman to become not aroused after an orgasm. So while she is attending to his desires, he should not forget her vulva still needs some attention. A rub of his penis on her vulva now and then can certainly help both of your arousal. The wet wipe can clean up any ejaculation. Multiple orgasms are possible for many women.

Afterglow: I suggest he lays down behind her and they spoon, cuddle, and take a blissful nap, enjoying the contentment that an orgasm can bring to both your bodies. Both men and women can self masturbate to and orgasm laying next to one another. However, the ability to comfortably masturbate each other while seeing up-close their individual reactions, all with little physical effort, will enhance your bonding and greatly make you appreciate each other. Sexual play together while accommodating our physical deficiencies is required for a lifetime of satisfying sex.

Analysis: Think about what little physical activity that was required during this mutual sexual gratification. He has walked back and forth alongside half of her body, maybe four times. He has lifted her legs one at a time, to his chest. He knelt on a pillow for about a half an hour while massaging her vulva with his hands and mouth. She has only rolled on to her side once. He has thrust his hips very little during breast play and she has likely, as well, during vulva play. Only his and her fingers and tongues have been exercised substantially. If you are both walking, talking, and eating, you are capable of all these physical activities. The bigger hurdle is lack of libido, sexual desire. For males, porn helps, although since I can not perform most of the shown sex acts. I like lesbian porn, no penetration is involved, only rubbing and oral sex with two naked ladies. For females who are less visually stimulated, I suggest erotic literature.

The whole process has also been very hygienic. All the body parts have been cleaned with a disposable wet wipe before they have been rubbed with hands, fingers, or mouths. All anal play was done with a new wet wipe that was disposed of after use. If requested, all mouth play could also be protected by a fresh silky cloth used like a dental dam.

Sex after sixty can help prolong your life and make aging much more enjoyable.