Her only goal for the day was to make it through without any tears. Happy tears were acceptable, miserable and feeling sorry for Sheila tears, were not. She almost completed her goal.
At Sheila's small home, her daughter's wedding day started at 5:30 am. She had set the alarm because enjoying a peaceful cup of coffee in the quiet kitchen was essential to her mental health. Soon the bridesmaids and the bride, her daughter Kelly, were up and buzzing. The peace and quiet ended abruptly.
Soon seven young women crowded into the kitchen, pouring coffee, eating fruit and yogurt and making smoothies. She squeezed her daughter as she floated past in her favorite Hello Kitty pajamas, amazed that the wedding day had finally arrived. Sheila and Kelly were exceptionally close especially since the divorce. Only 12 when her parents split up, they supported each other and often seemed more like best friends than mother and daughter. Kelly even considered having her mom as her Matron of Honor but Sheila wisely counseled her against it and encouraged her to fill the wedding party with friends her own age.
Sheila's sister, Patty, showed up to help about 7:00. The girls moved to their beauty stations while Sheila, Patty and the professional hair dresser attended to their every need. At least they tried. At close to 9:00, Brooke, the third, newest and youngest Mrs. James Davis, showed up ostensibly to help but in actuality, only to get in the way. Tensions rose until Patty finally convinced her that she was needed at the club to 'help' the photographer. The older women breathed a sigh of relief as 'Baby Brooke', as they privately called her, left to prepare for her close up. The bonus for Sheila was the knowledge that having Brooke underfoot would probably cost her ex even more in photography fees.
By 10:30 the whole group was dressed, beautified and headed to the country club. Greeting the procession of cars was Kelly's husband to be. Adam was charming, handsome and the perfect match for her daughter, Sheila thought as she watched them together. While Kelly was a free spirit, Adam was practical and grounded. They complimented each other perfectly and Sheila could not have been happier that they were getting married.
SHEILA'S STORY
At just 46 years old, Sheila didn't feel ready to be the mother of the bride. Of course, she was a child bride herself when she walked down the aisle with Jim Davis. Just 20 to his 22, they were going to take the world by storm and in some respects, they did.
Through sheer determination, they both finished college and Jim went on to law school. Sheila worked to help support them during those lean years and although the birth of their daughter, just two years later, was unexpected, they were over the moon over her and worked even harder to make things work.
After Jim finished law school, he quickly began to climb the ladder at a prestigious firm. His drive and determination made him the perfect lawyer but also kept him from investing more than what was absolutely necessary at home. As Sheila devoted herself to their daughter, Jim devoted himself to the job. Distance began to work away at the fragile foundation of their young marriage and although they both saw the cracks deepening, neither did much to stop the erosion.
In fairness, they were busy. For Sheila that meant busy creating a home, busy raising a young child and busy making sure everything looked perfect to the outside world. For Jim it meant busy working, busy making money and busy making sure everything looked perfect to the outside world. It was exhausting for both of them.
Sheila enjoyed the perks of Jim's career. They had a beautiful home in an exclusive area, Kelly attended the best private schools, they took lavish vacations (often without Jim since he was too 'busy'), and she drove only the best cars. Far beyond those things though, Sheila reveled in her role as Kelly's mom. Kelly was the center of her world and for Sheila, she was all that mattered.
When Kelly was 10, Jim traveled to NYC for business with a group from his firm. Feeling very disconnected from his wife and daughter, it was easy for him to allow what had long been innocent flirting to become a full blown affair. He and Marie quickly fell into a pattern of traveling together often and taking long lunches when they were in town. It was a poorly guarded secret in the office and soon Sheila knew as well.
Jim never really tried to justify his actions. He just moved on. Soon, Jim and Sheila were divorced and since she kept the house and had all the money she needed, he thought everything was fine. He married Marie and proceeded to have two little boys in quick succession. The distance between father and daughter continued to grow but Jim didn't seem to notice or care.
Sheila became both mother and father to Kelly. Their already close relationship deepened and although Sheila worried at times that they were too dependent on each other, life was very good and Kelly was turning into a fantastic young woman.
Then after 8 years, the pattern repeated itself and Jim left Marie (and two bewildered little boys) for yet another woman. Brooke was a type unto herself. Brunette, buxomly and 22 years his junior, Brooke definitely made a splash at the country club. Even the most lecherous men questioned Jim's sanity. Again though, Jim only moved forward, thinking as he usually did about such matters; with his cock and not with his brain.
Sheila remained close to her daughter as Kelly left for college. She even provided a warm home away from home for Kelly's step brothers and did what she could to provide a sense of normalcy in their lives. She quickly downsized when Kelly moved away to a small bungalow closer to the city. She loved her life and loved her daughter. Occasionally she dated but it wasn't a priority and she had given up on meeting the perfect man for her anyway.
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