As a single male, the profile I posted on the Swingers website would normally garner maybe one or two replies a month. Single males are very plentiful and while I wasn't Quasimodo, there were certainly younger, fitter, more attractive and more well-endowed guys for couples to choose from. It really didn't bother me at all -- when a reply came in I pursued it. If it went somewhere great, if it didn't, it didn't. So when the reply I got a few weeks ago came in, I was interested -- intrigued even -- but I took it with a large grain of salt.
The message was from a guy in his early 70's saying he was looking for a lover for his younger wife. Seems he is unable to perform sexually any longer and he wanted to find a lover for her. Now THIS was different! I checked out their profile -- they seemed legit. Pics were tasteful and true. He looked noticeably older than her -- she looked extremely attractive.
So...I replied. And after a few "get to know you a bit" emails, we decided to get together for the all important "meet and greet."
They chose a restaurant in their area. I got delayed on my way and did the respectful thing and sent them a quick note to say I was on the way but going to be a bit late. When I got there, I recognized them right away and went to their table. He stood up and shook my hand. I liked him right away. Even in his 70's this was a proud man. Tall, slim, standing erect. Clear, intense eyes, confident and in control of himself. The kind of guy that, in his day, would snap your spine with his hands and break your will with his intellect and even now would give anyone all they could handle. I could tell that this was a difficult thing for him to be considering, but he had my total admiration and respect for the fact that he recognized that, whatever his difficulty was, he was unable to meet the needs of his lady and he wasn't going to let his pride and ego get in the way of his love and respect for his wife's needs. Great guy -- no, check that -- great man.
She..simply put...was a vision. A trophy wife? Well, by the physical definition, maybe. Noticeably younger? Yes. Beautiful? -- oh fuck yeah. Well turned-out and looked after? Definitely. But, that's where the similarity ended. This was no dyed-blonde, vapid, shallow piece of arm candy that so many men parade around. This was a smart, fierce, independent woman who was completely engaged in her husband's life. I could tell right away that this was no cupcake. Her hand-shake was strong, she looked me in the eye and gave me a "if you think you're just getting a piece of ass from me, you are sadly mistaken" vibe. She was amazing. My favorite kind of woman.
We had a great lunch where I found out about their life together. He was a retired businessman -- had his hand in several things and eventually sold them all off, made himself a lot of money and retired. Living the dream. They had multiple homes and lived wherever the weather and circumstances made sense. One thing I did find odd was that at no time did we ever speak of actually getting together to play. This was a departure from other meet and greets I had had and while it didn't bother me, it made me wonder if I had made a bad impression and wasn't being considered. They did tell me at the end of our lunch that they were considering other "candidates" and once they had a chance to meet with all of them, they would let me know either way. I left thinking it could go either way, but, being totally honest with myself, I doubted I would ever hear from them again.
I was wrong.
As I always do after an important meeting, I send a follow-up note -- this was no exception. Sometimes I struggle with sincerity because I really didn't enjoy the meeting but, in this case, I had no issues at all. I truly did enjoy meeting them. Even if it never went beyond that first meeting, I told them that I admired their partnership and that it was very obvious they were a strong, stable unit, still very much in love -- just the kind of people I enjoy playing with. As an aside I mentioned to him that I recognized and appreciated how difficult this must be and that if I'm given the opportunity become his wife's lover, I will treat her and their union with total and utter respect -- his most precious thing would be safe in my hands. I also said specifically to her that I knew that she was conflicted about this whole thing and assured her that I would be a complete gentleman and treat her like the beautiful, independent woman that she is. I thanked them both for their time and hit send.
While I didn't obsess about the whole thing, I'd be lying if I didn't think about it -- a LOT. It took a bit of time -- two full weeks - before I got a reply. They had done their due diligence, interviewed all of their potential candidates and.. chosen me! While they didn't come right out and say it, reading between the lines gave me the impression that the majority of the others came across too aggressively and not respectful enough of the bond and partnership this great couple enjoyed. I knew from the first meeting that I was simply providing a service that they needed. I wasn't saving them or replacing him -- in every way but one, they gave each other everything they needed in their relationship -- I was providing the one thing he no longer could.
In advance of getting together, I was asked to get tested for STI's -- standard practice and one that I was happy to provide and then, armed with my "bareback permission paperwork" I arrived at their beautiful home a little over an hour from where I lived. Dave met me at the door and welcomed me warmly. He seemed completely at ease with the situation but asked me to come to his study to talk while Rebecca was getting ready.
"I have to tell you," he began, "I'm completely on board with this whole arrangement and Rebecca is as well, but she still is having a bit of a hard time. I've told her over and over that I want this for her, but a part of her still believes that she is being unfaithful to me."
I replied, "I understand. It has to be an odd position for both of you. I want you to know that I'm totally aware of that and I'm perfectly fine taking things at your guy's pace -- including having nothing happen today if Rebecca or you for any reason get uncomfortable."
"Thanks for that, it's one of the main reasons we chose you. We both had a very good comfort level with you. We agreed that of all the guys that we met with, you would be the one that would let this whole arrangement happen naturally."
"That, and the fact that he's very handsome and a complete gentleman helped too!"
Surprised, Dave and I both looked to the doorway to see Rebecca entering the room. She was, as before, stunning. A flowy, print dress that wasn't painted on, but was just snug enough to show off her alluring curves, with a plunging neckline that showed off just enough of her dΓ©colletage that made you yearn for more. Perfect.
I approached her and stepped in for an affection, close, but not too close hug, with a quick peck on the cheek -- she smelled wonderful -- and I told her just that.
"Thank you, kind sir -- you smell very good yourself."
Little did she know I spent a very long time in the shower today, getting every single nook and cranny cleaned up. I filed my nails, trimmed whatever wild body hair I could reach and made sure my oral hygiene was totally on point. To top it off a small bit of cologne and I was about the closest to the best version of myself as I could get.