I divorced my wife, Elena, 2 years ago, after being married for 24 years. She used to be the love of my life. Elena was pretty, smart, funny, and a good partner in bed. Her only problem was her addiction to gambling.
I recall the first time I found out about it. It was 5 years after the wedding. Elena claimed she needed $5,000. When I asked her why, she gave a vague answer. I loved her and refused to think too much about it. I approved.
Two years later, one evening she returned home crying and begged me for $8300. I said, "Honey, if it's for something important, of course it's OK. What is it for?"
"A month ago, a guy came home to fix our broken air-conditioner. I forgot to send the bill and now they ask for a payment and 20% extra for not paying on time."
"Let me talk to them, and I'll sort it out."
"Please, Chuck, it was my fault. Let's just pay it and get it over with." Elena was so distraught that I gave her the money and let it go.
When a year later, she asked for $6800 without giving a good explanation, I got suspicious. I bought on Amazon a GPS vehicle tracking device and followed my wife's Toyota's routes. Ignoring her workplace and the health center, the most frequently visited place was... the casino. I had never heard from Elena that she was interested in going there! Most Tuesdays and Thursdays afternoons, she was there for about 2.5 hours, ensuring she was already home by the time I returned from work.
I was furious. Not so much about the lost money, but the fact that she lied and hid from me part of her life. I confronted Elena, and she started crying. She apologized and claimed she got hooked on gambling by her work's best friend. She promised to quit.
I continued tracking Elena's movements, and for a month her car did not go to the casino. I was happy and forgave her. After all, we are only human, and as such, commit mistakes in life...
Three months later, she came home late with her hair disheveled and said, "Honey, I screwed up. My friend celebrated her birthday at the casino and pleaded with me to join. I couldn't resist and put some money on Blackjack. I lost $1,800..."
It became clear Elena had a gambling problem. I told her she needed treatment. She vowed to never do it again, but declined to seek help. I blurted, "I love you, but that is the last time I let YOU take care of your addiction. If it happens again, I'll take you myself to a psychiatrist." She agreed.
For the next 2 years, I noticed several hundred dollars at a time disappear from our account without a clear destination, but the GPS did not show her being at the casino. I decided to change tactic and follow Elena myself the next Tuesday. I took a day off, and followed her to work. She was there until 1:30 pm. Then she exited the office with another young lady. Together they entered a Honda, and drove to the casino. I waited for them to be inside and entered the place. I've never been to the casino before, and it took me 15 minutes to see them at one of the crowded Blackjack tables. I shot a picture of the two women with my phone and drove back. When Elena returned, she was surprised to see me at home.
I inquired, "Where have you been?"
She chuckled, "Barbara and I went shopping. There was a sale at Nordstrom. I was a good girl and didn't buy anything, saving us money."
I didn't talk, just showed her the picture I took in the casino. Her face turned pale, and she stared at me speechless. I said, "You get professional treatment right now, or I am out the door." She sighed, "You are right. I'll do it."
To cut the story short, Elena saw 2 different psychiatrists and underwent a series of consultations. She even tried anti-opioid medications, but eventually went back to her bad habit. As time progressed, I lost the joy of our first years of marriage, our sex life deteriorated, the tension was always in the air, and I frequently caught her lying to me. Feeling bad about her and about the whole situation, I didn't see another option and divorced her. Fortunately, we didn't have children. We divided our wealth in half, and I moved to another suburb to restart my life again.
...
I was now 48 years old, living in a new neighborhood, not knowing anybody in that area. I still had a couple of friends, but neither lived nearby. My plan was first to meet my new neighbors and then slowly adjust to the new place.
I pushed the idea of meeting a potential mate to a later date. I wasn't very young, but at 6'1", 188 pounds of mostly muscle due to physical work as a supervisor at a medium size landscape company, I hoped to find a good lady to share my life with.
On the evening of the second day in my new house, I heard a soft knock on the door. I opened and saw a middle aged woman, about 5'4", 130 pounds, with wavy, shoulder length brown hair. I liked her face, especially because she flashed a nice smile.
She introduced herself, "Hi, my name is Loretta, and we are neighbors. I brought you an apple pie, hoping you'd like it."
I took it from her hands and mumbled, "Nice to meet you ma'am. I am Chuck. I am not used to getting homecoming presents... May I offer you something? Coffee? Tea? Wine?"
Through the open door, Loretta could see that the house was a big mess and she declined, saying, "Chuck, thanks, but not now. I see you are still working on organizing your stuff, so perhaps some other time. However, if you wish me to help you with something, or you are in the mood for a coffee at MY house, do not hesitate, but call first to verify I am home." She smiled again and left.
I stood with the apple pie in my hand and glanced at her as she walked back to her house. She wore a pair of old jeans and a simple blouse. She looked good.
Later that evening, I ordered pizza and ended dinner with a piece of the pie. It was fresh and tasty. I gazed through my window at Loretta's house. It was smaller than mine, with a neat grassy yard and a shady corner with 2 lounge chairs. I haven't seen anybody else, and had no clue if she had a husband or children.
In the following 2 afternoons, I organized the house to my liking. Well, what I mean is, that it was comfortable for my modest needs. The plumbing was working, and it had a comfortable bed, fridge, microwave, and TV. there were no curtains, carpets, or pictures on the wall, but these I'd take care of later.
In the next 2 days, I saw my other neighbors strolling along our street. They were in their 70s. We introduced ourselves, and then each one went his way. I saw Loretta on the third day in the local supermarket. She stood before the cereal shelves and looked up. I walked slowly in her direction and noticed she didn't move and had a funny expression on her face.
She didn't see me coming, and I tapped on her shoulder, "Hi Loretta. You seem lost. May I help you with something?"
She grinned, "Oh, thank you for being here. I tried to get the Fiber One cereal, but I couldn't reach it. Will you help me, please?"
I pulled 2 boxes and placed them in her cart. "Do you want me to bring you anything else?"
"No. You were very kind. Thank you."
We separated, and for the next 10 minutes, I walked between the aisles and grabbed everything I needed. We met again at the register. I paid and helped her place her bags in her Corolla. Before driving away, she said, "Tomorrow afternoon I'll be free. If you care for a coffee and chocolate cake, stop by between 4:30 and 5:00."
"Loretta, if I finish working early and have time to shower, I'll be happy to do it."
...
Luck was on my side, and the following day our team's work ended at 3 pm, which was highly unusual. I rested for an hour watching TV, and then shaved, showered, put on clean clothes, and rang her bell.