When my buddy Jim showed us his orders for overseas duty assignment, I could see how it affected my wife, and she was not happy, even clearly shaken. We offered to drive him across country to Fort Campbell, Kentucky, and he accepted the offer. On our way there we stopped at a hotel just out of Phoenix and paid for two rooms. Inside his room we all collapsed on his bed, side by side, with her in the middle, on our backs, looking at the ceiling, all spent from the long drive and by the trauma of the circumstance.
Claire reached up and raised both hands in the air. Impulsively, we each took one of her hands in a gesture of solidarity, a moment of bonding I understood as special at that moment. I had known about her deep feelings for Jim since he showed us his orders, but on the bed, with each of us holding her hands I understood what it meant, what was coming, that she felt deeply for both of us.
After dinner we went back to his room and a few minutes later she walked me to the door. "I'll be staying here tonight," she said without a second thought. It wasn't a question, not asking permission, just a statement of fact, like: 'I'll be going to the store now.' She then kissed me and it was an apology kiss, an 'I'm sorry for my feelings' kiss. She was telling me by the kiss how much it meant to her to spend that night with Jim, how necessary it really was to her. I studied her face and I knew.
"I understand," I said, and I did. I knew she would be saying goodbye that night, she would be saying goodbye to my friend in the most intimate way possible. She would be making love and it would be far more than simply fucking.
"I have to say goodbye," she said, kissing me again. We stood for a minute without speaking, then she said, "When did you know?"
"When his orders came," I said, holding her loosely.
She nodded and smiled. "That would have said it all," she said shyly, nodding her head.
"I'll see you in the morning?" I said. She nodded, kissed me again and closed the door. I did not see them again until the next morning at the restaurant. They were holding hands as they came in. It was obvious to those in the restaurant that they were a couple saying goodbye near an Army base in Phoenix. It was clear she didn't want to let go of him, that they were a couple and I was their friend. It was clear they had spent the night saying goodbye. What wasn't clear to anyone watching was that I was her husband and that he was my friend.
Three more nights and she slept with him every night. On the way across the country they mostly rode in the back seat and continued to say goodbye, hugging and looking at one another with sadness in their eyes, longing, regret. When we finally got to Kentucky, after four days on the road, I drove onto the base and I parked in a large parking lot a ways from the air field and we walked to a large terrace over looking the runway and the transport waiting for them.
"Go down with him," I said. "Say goodbye the way you want to." She smiled and without a word turned to him and took his arm. He and I shook hands, said our goodbyes, then they left, him carrying his duffle on his shoulder. At the plane he put it down and took her into his arms. Their kiss was long and tender, the kind of kiss people give when there will be a long wait until the next one. As they stood holding one another in their arms his hands went to her bottom and he openly took ahold of her lovely cheeks and pulled her to him, pulled her lovely pelvis against his. My wife and my best friend were saying goodbye as lovers, and for some reason I didn't understand it didn't bother me, didn't give me a single pinch in the heart of jealousy.
I watched them like a stranger seeing two lover leaving one another for a while. I saw them as a couple, and I understood they were actually just that. I didn't know how much of a couple they would be when he returned, but I understood the reality of that moment. I also I understood at that moment that it was more than sex. The sex the night before he left, I was sure was wonderful, exciting, and passionate. I also knew there was love involved, genuine love, deep and overwhelming feelings I could not in all good conscience stand in the way of.
As I watched on the tarmac, I saw two people who needed to be together and needed to be open about it. I turned and walked back towards the car, giving them time not to be watched, time to be natural and caring. I opened the windows of the car and turned on the radio, waiting for Claire to finish saying her goodbyes.