I have always had kind of a fucked-up fantasy world and warped mind when it came to sex. Taboo thoughts have never been far from my mind. I never had the guts to talk about it with anyone other than my brother, and he and I used to talk a lot about it, and used to steal Playboys from a friend's house. That's how we would get access to "porn". Reading my mom's cosmos were another way. Other than him, I had never met anyone like me before. He and I never had anyone else to turn to or ask questions to. Our parents weren't the kind of people to answer questions and when he first came to me asking questions, I didn't have the answers because I had my own issues to work through. Over time, we lived, learned, and shared our experiences with each other, helping to navigate a world that wasn't talked about. More than brothers, we became friends and confidants.
I was 27 and my wife was 22 when we started dating. My brother actually hooked us up. Prior to her, I had been married (damned near sex-less married) with children for 8 years. The single scene was a blast for me, although I never embarked on my fantasy's. I just couldn't bring myself to indulge in real life for fear of having to say it out loud. He however, did. He's lived his life the way he's always wanted and I had to sit back and listen to his stories and imagine it.