Trust is the foundation for life, love and business.
Those are the words that hang in our home office. Those are the words that have guided my marriage for 24 years. It is because I did not remember that simple meaning I almost lost my husband, my marriage and everything that I hold dear in this life.
Background:
My name is Molly Reilly. I am married to Mike Reilly. We just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. This is my story, the good, the bad and the stupid (that's me).
I met Mike when we were freshmen at UConn. I was Liberal Arts major and Mike was in the Business Program. Mike was also in ROTC. He was going to be a Marine like his dad, 2 brothers and uncles.
We dated for about 6 months before he brought me to his apartment. He was very nervous when he gave me the tour. I noticed the sign that was in the common area of the apartment: Trust is the foundation for life, love and business. We spent the whole night talking about life, goals, family, divorce, and kids. I thought he was going take my virginity that night but he didn't. He later told me he had take cold showers for a month after missing that chance.
In our Sophmore year Mike and I had a long talk over Columbus day weekend about us. Mike was very honest about what he wanted out of life: a loving wife, a family and his own business. He also told me that he would be obligated to the Marines for 5 years after graduation. I looked at him and said "OK..where are we going?"
Later that Saturday night we made love. Damn, damn, damn was he good. Many women say that their first experience was not that good. Well, mine was mind blowing. I had a couple of orgasms and I passed out at one point. When I woke up Mike had put a cold compress on my head. He thought I had hurt myself. I laughed at little bit until I saw the expression on his face. He was concerned and worried. This why I love him so much.
BTW, Mike is about 6'3 inches tall and about 240 pounds. I am about 5'7 and about 130 pounds. Dirty blond hair and 38B/C cup.
After graduation we were married and ready for our adventure. Mike was assigned to an Air Force base in Germany. He was also assigned to the Marine Recon unit.
These are some the toughest Marines in the service. No one messes with them.
During our first three years I was attending classes at the local college. I decided I wanted to be a paralegal. Mike supported everything I was doing. When I was class he would cook and clean up the house. When my study group came over he made sure I had everything we needed. Space and food.
At the start of third year of marriage Saddam Hussein invaded Kuwait. I was at school for a 3 day prep class for the paralegal class. When I got home on late Sunday night Mike was gone. His unit had been called up and he was part of the first contingent of Marines sent to Saudi Arabia.
Mike left a note and a key to a safety deposit box. I was reading the note when Jill came over. She was married to Bill for 20 years and understood about deployments. Bill was a Master Sergeant and he carried more weight than some of the officers. I sat there reading the note and my hands were shaking. I ran to the bathroom to throw up. Jill calmed me down and told me everything would be OK. Mike was smart plus he had Bill. Bill was a Vietnam Vet as well as some other battles.
I went to the bank the next day to see what was in the Safety Deposit Box. It was his will and a love letter to me. I cried all the way home.
Mike was deployed for 6 months and communication between us was tough. He called when he could. He mailed a lot of letters. Mike liked to write in long hand. He said it was a lost art. We went to war on a week night. I can remember sitting on the couch watching CNN as Baghdad was being bombed. I got my mother's Rosary beads out and started praying. I was up all night.
Gulf War 1 was over pretty fast. The actual fighting did not take longer than a month. Mike's unit was sent back to Germany. They were all given a hero's welcome. I jumped into his arms and held him so long that he told me I was cutting off his air. I looked him in the eyes and something had changed. I did not know what but something was different.
That night I was ready to fuck his brains out. I came into the bedroom and Mike was fast asleep on the bed. So much for my fire engine red see through nightie. The next morning Mike was feeling more like himself and boy did we shagg. The bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, couch and office. You name it and we did it. I had six months of pent up sexual energy in me and it needed to be released. Mike took care of that and then some.