I've learned a lot already from 'hotwifing'. I've learned things about myself, my husband, our relationship, other people, and social interaction. First off, I re-confirmed something; I have the most magnificent husband ever. I found out just how open, honest, and understanding he really is. I found out that he's very willing to explore and extend his boundaries. He's able to work through discomfort, jealousy, and self-confidence to get to the good stuff. He really and truly trusts me to make decisions on who, where, and when to fuck another man. He's able to watch me be sexually intimate with another man and still feel secure in his own manhood and our relationship. My husband is able to sit back and watch me flirt, seduce, and have sex with someone else, and knows it's only him I want to be with in the long run. I've learned that my husband is even more confident, self-assured, and secure than I ever imagined.
Some of you have called him a 'wimp', a cuckold, or an idiot, but he is none of these, and a better man than most. We have a one-sided open-marriage, a 'hotwife' marriage where I am free to choose who I sleep with as long as I share the details with him later or include him in the action, whether it be voyeur, photographer, participant or what. Those of you that judge us or negatively comment on our stories are the true wimps! For more than twenty years we have been sharing our stories with readers and fans from Adult Friend Finder, Literotica, Experience Projects, Lush Stories, and others under numerous pen names and biographies. We have written as a Caucasian couple, a Black couple, an interracial Asian couple and a Latina couple. We may not be great authors, but our intent was merely to share our lifestyle with others who have an interest in a similar lifestyle. We do not write to sell books or stories or become best-selling authors. If you disagree with that or don't like it, then maybe you should go to a different website!
I know for a fact in corresponding with some readers that many couples or prospective couples enjoy these stories to familiarize themselves with the lifestyle. Especially you wives who are shy or reluctant to try things with or for your husband. I also am aware that many of my fans are either married or single men that wish their girlfriends or wives indulged in the lifestyle. Our stories are a release for many of you, and you fans that masturbate to my stories or my photos, I'm okay with this, and I'm flattered! The Loving Wives section is basically for erotica involving wives. If that offends you, go to a different section or site. Don't judge our morals; otherwise, why are you reading stories on this site if you are so moralistic? Further, to all you finger-pointers that rant about 'slut' and aids or STD's, after twenty years of 'hotwifing', the only problem I have encountered is an annoying occasional yeast infection, which I'm sure my female readers can relate.
I've learned that there are all types of people in this lifestyle. It is not just one kind of person that does these things. People of all races, religions, education levels, and occupations can be swingers, have open-marriages, cuckold, or engage in 'hotwifing'. I've learned that most people in the lifestyle are not "sexual deviants". I think most of them are just regular folk who want something different, who want to spice up their sex lives a little. Some are down to earth, but there are a lot of swingers out there who think they are God's gift to the lifestyle. Socially I've gained experience that highlights a few things. Some people are very generous sexually, and some are very selfish. Some people are looking just for sex, and others want friendship or more. On my side of things, mostly I've learned how to feel sexy again, approaching my 50th birthday. I still feel truly desired, sought after, and wanted by men from 18-70. Yes, most of our stories are based on true incidents, or created from sexual encounters we have experienced or engaged in, with a few ideas requested by some of our readers.
For a long time during my first two marriages, my body image was not very good, it had gone downhill. But now it's different with Scott. Now I feel confident and feel good about my body and my sexuality. I work hard to improve how I look, and I revel in any positive attention I receive. I do not have an inflated sense of self, only a healthy outlook on sex and life. I've also learned how to really open up to my husband about my physical and emotional needs and desires. I now know how to express myself compassionately and sensually. I know that nothing is off limits to talk about. I've learned that it's okay to like someone else, so long as my husband remains my one and only true love. I don't have to feel ashamed to have sex with other men; it means nothing more than that. Men and women play golf together, play tennis together, and enjoy physical recreation. My physical recreation is having sexual activity with other men!
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