I have enjoyed many of the stories on this site and after writing a story I have a greater appreciation for the hard work and effort it takes to put it together. I have written two versions of this little drama. The first is found here in this story and the next, a reconciliation, will be submitted next. I had no problem kicking the wife to the curb, but by the end of the story I started to feel sorry for her. I believe I spent more time editing the story than writing it. I wish to express my gratitude to my dear wife Mary for spending her time editing it. I would also like to express my appreciation to Topokitist and Ms Johnson for their efforts. So folks, put your trays up and buckle you seat belts we are on our way.
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I wasn't ready for the impact two simple words would have on my marriage and future. Those two words "Take Action" were printed in pink and black on the outside of a package I found in her fancy-ass, six-week-old BMW. This car was another expensive luxury item she just had to have and today was the car's first mechanical service appointment. Before taking the car for the service, I was trying to collect the trash she left on the expensive leather seats. In retrospect, I should have stopped at the car wash instead and maybe then life and events would have evolved differently.
Ann, my wife of twenty-five years, would not be happy driving my two-year-old Jeep while I returned her car to the dealer. To me it was simple...if you want to keep the warranty on a new car, you take it in for the required service. However, she had been somewhat moody for the last couple of months so I had no clue as to who or what she would be unhappy or angry with today.
Today's rush out the door was nothing new. For the last four months, she had been in a hurry to be somewhere else and today was no exception. She was moving fast this morning to get to wherever non-working beautiful women in yoga pants absolutely must be and she barely acknowledged me. I was invisible and then her phone rang.
Putting her phone to her ear she moved toward the garage while responding,
"I'll be there."
Then purse in hand she was heading for the garage but as her hand was reaching for the door I grabbed her arm saying,
"Honey, I need your keys to take the BMW in for service".
Impeding her exit through the door and hearing my message regarding her car she then gave me a grumpy, I have no time for you look and began to argue.
"Brian, don't be grabbing me."
I responded to her mini-outrage at being detoured from her mission by saying,
"I am sorry for grabbing you but what else was I to do? You flew into the kitchen, blew past me without even saying good morning, Hi, or Hello Dear Husband. You have been doing a lot of that lately and I am concerned and annoyed.
Perhaps we can sit and you will explain to me what is consuming so much of your time and why you are unable or unwilling to acknowledge your husband of twenty-five years?"
After my little speech, she stared at me with a blank look and her mouth was open but she wasn't responding and it appeared I caught her completely off guard. Caught off guard and off track her anger dissipated while she said,
"I, I don't know what you are talking about, I am just in a big hurry this morning."
Recovering somewhat from my inquiry, she launched into an attempt at acting normal but in an annoyed tone said,
"I have no problem speaking with you about what ever you are concerned about, but not now. "This morning I am extremely busy."
Her tone and attitude pissed me off and because she was in a hurry I demanded,
"OK, tell me where you are going? Why are you in such a hurry?"
I knew having to stop and answer my questions would piss her off but I was beginning to react to her mood with my own anger. Then she went from defensive to pissed off when I cut off her reply with,
"Forget it, don't answer the question, just give me the damn BMW keys and take my jeep."
I exchanged keys with her and beckoned her out the door. Turning to look at me, she hesitated a second, as if ready to offer a nasty response then reconsidered what she was going to say and left. There was no goodbye, no kiss and no, "I love you." This behavior was getting old, but I knew it was not the time to discuss my concerns.
Ann and I, I am Brian, met in our last year at the university. We are now both forty-five years old and have been married for twenty-five years. The first time we met we knew we were with the person we wanted to spend the rest of our lives. Wasting no time, we were married within six months and just after graduation. A year later our son Erik was born, followed eighteen months later by our daughter Erin. Both Erik and Erin are finishing their last year of graduate school on the west coast.
Ann was a stay at home mother until the youngest began middle school. She felt the need to go to work but wanted to stay available for the children. With Ann's degree in nursing, we decided a home health care service would be the best business to start. Within months Ann launched her service supplying personnel for nursing and care facilities.
Although the business started small, in less than fifteen years, it became a large service organization by employing university and nursing students to small and medium size health care facilities. Being in a growth industry and because of our outstanding performance, we began receiving offers from large investment groups looking to purchase growing successful local businesses.
After fifteen years and with an eye toward retirement we agreed she would sell her business and we would start the retirement phase of our life. During those same fifteen years, I built a small but successful engineering design firm. While we were selling Ann's business I was also entertaining offers for the sale of my company.
Ann expressed no interest in the details of the sale and pushed responsibility as well as all the financial issues upon me. In consultation with my financial planner I completed the sale of her health care business and put the bulk of the offered $4.5 million into new corporations formed in Ireland and Switzerland. I left $500,000 in our local bank to keep the bills paid through the end of the sale. It was a good step toward our retirement and the rest of our life.
I should have been excited about all the things Ann and I planned for, but instead I sat at my desk and ruminated over Ann's sudden disinterest in our current life. I thought about the small details that made me uncomfortable with her erratic behavior. There was no single item by itself, just all the little things together that left me with a general unease. Things, like time she spent away from the house, the lack of interest in us, our loss of intimacy as well as our decreased sexual activity. Putting it all together it made me uncomfortable.
Ann was my partner, best friend and dear wife. Now she seemed to have checked out of our life and moved away from me. I know I should have paid more attention but I just did not have the time. In fact, if the truth be known, I had expected her help in the sale of her business and was mildly annoyed when she ignored my low-key requests for her assistance. I needed her support during the negations and never got it.
Ann's disinterest as well as her withdrawing from the activities we normally were involved in left me with the feeling something wasn't right. I was incredibly busy with the sale of her business and the details of selling my firm so, I shoved my unease to the back of my mind. Perhaps it was another big mistake and the reality was I could only do so much and lately my focus was related to ending one phase of our life and beginning of the next. Perhaps I should have been more alert?