Betrayal and Adultery.
The same old story has been told a thousand times over the ages. I'm speaking in generalities in my short forward below and of course, this analysis does not fit 100% but it will resonate with a high percentage of men.
Forward:
Girls:
From a young age, society shapes how boys and girls behave differently. Boys tend to be more active, exploring and playing with everything around them, while girls often engage in quieter activities like playing with dolls or coloring.
As they get older, these differences continue. Girls are often taught to prioritize their appearance and act feminine, while boys are encouraged to be tough and protective of girls, seeing them as delicate creatures. When a boy hits or shoves a girl for the first time, he's quickly corrected, reinforcing the idea that girls should be treated with respect and care; told they are delicate creatures and should be treated that way.
As girls grow older, their mothers and older sisters will teach them the art of attracting and captivating boys, guiding them on how to get attention and affection. During their dating years, these lessons evolve, focusing on identifying qualities in a potential husband. Mothers advise their daughters to seek men with a promising future, prioritizing income, safety, care, and respect over mere appearances or infatuation.
While physical attractiveness and romantic feelings are valued, they're not the main reason to select a suitable partner. The emphasis lies on a man's ability to provide security and respect, with the belief that love can develop over time if the foundation is solid. Mothers share insights into understanding male desires and preferences, drawing from their own experiences and observations.
The girl would have picked up on how relationships function by observing her parents throughout her life. She'd already grasped the subtleties of manipulation. Now, the emphasis is on honing these abilities. Mothers stress the value of nurturing femininity and charm, hinting that being seen as attractive and graceful boosts the odds of finding a good partner.
Most guys have no idea he is being selected or seduced. Once the girl has him in her clutches, he will become hers. The well-trained girls will be able to retain complete control of their relationship while allowing the husband or boyfriend to believe he's in control and head of the household. It's an art form, and when done correctly, the man becomes a tool for his woman.
Boys to Men:
Dads rarely advise their boys about women and relationships and let them find out on their own. When they were a child, their dads let them fall or hurt themselves to learn 'The hard way.' Men are simple beings. They are attracted to certain women, usually pretty girls who act a certain way for their liking. They don't know the girls are smarter and more manipulating and when he becomes their target, they will give him what he wants and allow him to think he was the one who caught her.
The boy usually needs the physical connection created which comes from his need for sex. When the girl finally gives him what he needs, his desire for her grows. The more she satisfies his needs and desires, the more he falls in love.
When the woman has her needs met and knows her future is secure, she will give her man what he needs. She will respect him, give him all the love he needs, and live a happy life. For that, the man will work hard to be successful, keep her safe, help raise their children, treat her like a queen, and maintain a strong family unit. He will be happy giving most of his control over to his wife and working like a dog to keep her happy, with the only repayment being her loyalty, respect, and whatever sex she allows him.
20-30 years later:
After so many years of marriage, the wife often becomes bored and feels she needs more. Perhaps it's empty nest syndrome or just plain boredom and depression. Talking to friends and reading magazines or online articles, she starts to believe that she's entitled to being happy and to find something that makes her happy, including a male friend. After all, she raised the kids, cleaned the house, and was a good wife, wasn't she? And her husband doesn't appreciate her like he used to and isn't the same guy she married so many years ago.
Her boredom might lead to a job or volunteer work for want of something to do. Still attractive and in good shape in her late 40's, she is now starting to feel better about herself because she's getting attention from the men she is now engaged with daily. Of course, there's no guilt or thought of her husband because she's entitled to these new feelings or anything she wants. She deserves to be happy and fulfilled.
In the meantime, Hubby has been working 60 hours a week for the last 30 years to support the family, make her feel safe, pay the bills, and give her everything she asks for. Sure, their relationship had become familiar and stale, but nothing unusual for a couple after 30 years of marriage. And yes, he's carrying a few extra pounds, a little less hair, now gray, but he still loves her, appreciates her dearly, and would marry her again in a second. He never complained about the hard work, spoiling her, or all the extras she just had to have over the years. He was happy and content with his life.
Matt and Penny's Story
Penny loves her husband Matt, even though he's not as sexy as he once was. He's out of shape and doesn't excite her as much as he used to. On the other hand, Penny hits the gym three times a week, and keeps her figure and after hours at the salon and spa, is still a beautiful proud woman and often embarrassed of her aging husband when they are out together.
At her job, Penny finds her new boss, Sean, sexy and powerful. She allows him to flirt a little and loves the attention. She becomes playful and flirts back and the game escalates.
Then one day, she calls her sister and tells her about her new sexy boss. After Janet listens to her sister talk about her new boss Sean, she tries to bring her back to her senses.
"Penny, be careful. Remember what mom said about cheating on your husband: never do that or you will mess up everything you've worked for. Matt's an amazing husband. Yeah, he's put on some weight and isn't as handsome as he was 30 years ago, but he's given you everything and worships you. Don't throw that away for a little fun. If he finds out, you will break his heart and things will never be the same."
"I know Janet, you're right. Matt's been a great husband, and I love him dearly. But things haven't been really hot in the bedroom for years. Look, after thirty years of being the perfect wife, I think I deserve to feel sexy and get a good fucking just once. Matt will never know and I'll make it up to him. Sean and I have had several lunches together and last week, I confessed to Sean that my sex life has been stale. He offered to help me out if I was interested. I remember how I hesitated as I looked down at my wedding ring but then I looked into his sexy eyes and admitted that I was interested.
He told me to wear something sexy tomorrow and he would rock my world. He plans to take me to my house and fuck me like a woman should be fucked. Deb, I felt my kitty tingle and knew it was dripping wet. I also felt my face getting red and flushed from his words and I knew I wanted that as well. I said "OK", I'm going to do this tomorrow, it's only going to be the one time and Matt will never know. I'm just gushing and feel like a schoolgirl again. I had to tell someone, and you're the only person I can trust."
"Penny, listen carefully. You're playing a dangerous game. Are you willing to risk everything for one fuck with some young guy that doesn't give a crap about you? Are you that dumb? Do you know what mom would be doing right now? You would be sent to your room and get a good talking to. After all she taught you, you're willing to take a chance of throwing it all away?"
"Janet, first of all, times have changed since we were little girls and mom's not around any longer. Look, I deserve this, and want to feel special again. After all I've done for Matt and the family, I deserve this. It's just going to be one time, a quickie, and then I'll be the same old wonderful wife for Matt. I'll be his perfect little housewife once again, and he'll never know."
"Look, I need to get home for Jake. What you're doing is wrong. You know how strongly Matt feels about infidelity and you know that if he finds out, it's over...no second chances. He's made that clear several times. Don't abuse his trust because in the end, you'll be the loser. If you do this, please don't call me or tell me anything. I don't want to hear about it, because if I do, and Matt ever asks me, I won't lie for you. Keep this to yourself. Don't do this Penny. Bye Sis."
Penny's big day:
That night, after my conversation with my sister, I tried to remove my guilt by being extra loving to Matt. I even gave him a rare blow job before I allowed him to make love to me. He was so gentle, loving, and kind, and for a moment, I was starting to reconsider my actions for the next day. We slept in each other's arms all night and I was reconsidering my plan.
Matt left for work before I woke up and once again, I felt the loneliness I grew to hate. It was then I decided to give myself just one day to enjoy a one-off and a good fuck with Sean's big dick. Hubby never needs to know. I convinced myself that I deserved this day and would keep it my secret forever. No harm, no foul — right?