Let me get this straight up front. Almost every weekend, I play Fantasy Games with my husband. I do it because I want to, not because he has manipulated me or coerced me. I do it by my own choice, for my own pleasure. My husband does his part for his own pleasure. In playing our roles and crafting the situations, we keep both our individual libidos and our marital libidos in a proper state.
Please understand that we have never involved another person - directly, at least - in our game playing. It's just the two of us, playing roles. It's difficult and it's awkward and it's embarrassing at times, but it keeps the excitement in our marriage and it satisfies our respective sex drives, which are strong.
In a lot of ways, it's just the same type of pretend games we played so well as children, revisited in an adult format. Then, it was Cowboy and Indian; now, it's kidnapped settler housewife and domineering warrior. Once upon a time, it might have been June and Ward Cleaver playing perfect house; now, in fantasy play, June and Ward join a neighborhood swap club. It's fun, it's play, and it's just between me and my husband.....or the characters we play.
Now understand that my husband and I have done just about every real life, real person fantasy available. I have insisted on that. He has cooked and served me dinner and champagne whilst I languished in a candle-surrounded bubble bath and then taken his dessert from between my legs. I have greeted his return from work dressed only in spike heels, served him a martini, then given him head while he read the paper and watched the evening news. We have tied each other up, masturbated each other to climax in a {somewhat} public place and eaten all sorts of food from various body parts of each other. I have gone out braless and hard-nippled in public so his friends could ogle me. I make him masturbate in front of me. He returns the favor.
Acting and experiencing these face to face, real person fantasies has been great. We play our roles well. The sex afterwards has always been fulfilling and sometimes quite extraordinary. For some reason, though, my fantasies started getting, shall we say, a bit more risque. Perhaps it is because my husband and I had exhausted all the wonderful, romantic "massage and woo" aspects. Perhaps it was because of the bodice-ripper books I was reading at the time or because of some childhood experience forgotten except in my sub-conscious.
But I had a fantasy, and I don't know where it came from, but it wouldn't go away and I was masturbating myself to death over the scene.
I wanted to be blackmailed or something like that by Tony Donovan. A guy that I can't stand. I wanted to be in a situation where I had no choice and he had control over me and could do with me as he wanted. Tony Donovan. A guy that I can't stand.
I know exactly where the fantasy started. The office Christmas party, December 18,2000. We were all partying, and I had imbibed a bit more than my limit. My husband did not attend the party. Tony Donovan came up and asked me to dance. I was surprised, because Tony and I are bitter rivals within the company and we clash on most every issue. With less alcohol in my system, I would have declined Tony's offer to dance. Instead, I accepted and I was wicked. Tony came on to me strongly, and he was charming. I did not rebuff his advances. I flirted with Tony. I led him on. I acted like I wanted him. He was getting cocky. When the dance ended, Tony led me off the dance floor to a private area. He put one arm around me, bent to kiss me and put his hand on my breast. I jumped back from him and said, "What the hell are you doing, you jerk! Who do you think you are? You're never going to touch me like that." Tony was humiliated. I was triumphant.
Ever since that night, I've wanted Tony Donovan to pay me back. Call it Catholic guilt or whatever. I don't know why it happened, but my hand goes to my clit and my mind goes to Tony Donovan having his way with me in a situation where I have no choice. He makes me strip. He touches my nipples and smirks, "I thought I was never going to get to touch you like that." He has his way with me and enjoys every moment. He humiliates and dominates me. Dear God, how often that fantasy led me to incredible climax while masturbating!
Of course, in real life, I would never live that scene with Tony Donovan. We're bitter rivals. I despise him. But I wanted to experience the fantasy. I wanted to live the scene. I turned to my husband.
It's neat, but my husband and I can talk about sex. We talk about our fantasies and share honestly and openly, without fear of ridicule or anger. It's wonderful. Of course, we do it in the dark in bed while touching each other and after abusing one or more substances. Still, we do it. Sharing our true innermost fantasies was embarrassing at first, but we quickly learned that the pleasure derived outweighed the problems. I told my husband the Tony Donovan story. I told him the fantasy. I told him I wanted to live it out, in role-playing with him.