I am happy that I learned that my husband, Mike, enjoys the fact that before we met, I was quite a promiscuous slut.
I didnât meet Mike until a couple years after I graduated from college. He was one of my clients. Ignoring the policies about getting romantically involved with clients, we started dating and fell in love.
Mike was a kind, gentle man who would do anything to make me happy. When we were in public, he always treated me with respect and dignity, yet I knew he thought I was a very beautiful, attractive woman.
In contrast to my previous experiences, when I went to bed with Mike, he made me feel so complete. I was a person, a woman, who he treated very special. I wasnât just a lay or a blow-job. He didnât stare at my rather nice boobs or try to cop a feel when ever he thought he could get away with it.
He was passionate and intense. But I always knew that our acts of love were so much more than just physical pleasure. He encouraged me to âcoachâ him and tell him when I particularly like what he is doing or how he can do it better. At first, I wasnât really interested in doing this because I thought it would take something away from the whole experience. But, when I tried it, I discovered the pleasurable benefits of moving his tongue 1/4" over or adjusting the pressure or angle of his touches. Believe me, ladies, its worth the effort! When something feels good but you think it could feel better, youâll never know how much better until you help him out. Now, I rarely have to coach him at all, because he remembers my hints very well and he knows how to give me pleasure the way I like it.
We got married almost 2 years after we met. About 5 years later, I gave birth to my 2nd daughter.
Although our love only grew stronger over time, our sex life seemed to slow down after our youngest was born. I knew that Mike was always ready and willing whenever I was in the mood, but the demands on my time distracted me enough to drop lovemaking down a few notches on my list of priorities.
It was about then that we started using marital aids (my favorites are my rabbit and my Venus butterfly). After that, Mike started reading stories and letters from adult magazines while I warmed up.
Sometimes, after he read a story and we had sex, he would ask questions about the story. What did I like about it? How could it be better? Did it compare with a previous experiences of mine? I wanted to be honest, but I held back. I had heard so much about the âfragile male ego,â and did not want to hurt him. But, the more I told him, the more I became confident that he could handle it and he was actually enjoying it! His attention would lock onto me when I would tell him about a past lover, or what we did or where we did it. When I was in college, there were so many times that I seduced a man or he picked me up. Usually, these just lead to one-nighters. I never really had a steady boyfriend, but I usually had a stable of men that were willing partners whenever the time was right. I had quickie sex breaks while studying. I went on dates (dinner, movies, etc.) and always ended up fucking my date in the car, at his place or at mine. Often, I would just get drunk at a party and leave with a guy to have wild sex.
Mike enjoyed my stories and never judged my behavior, although he didnât argue with me when I said I was a slut or I called my behavior promiscuous. He freely asked many questions and I openly answered them. I feel this brought us closer.
Then, one day, he asked a question that made me think. âOf all the guys you had sex with, could you pick out one that you would say was the best?â
There were so many men. It was fun scanning my memory, trying to compare them. After a moment, I honestly answered, âI guess that would have to be you, honey.â Mike didnât readily accept my selection until I sincerely described how his loving, unselfish attitude made him such a wonderful lover.
âOk, other than me,...â he started but reworded his question, âIs there one guy or one time that was special in any way that particularly stands out in your mind?â
I had more thinking to do. At the moment, I couldnât come up with just one guy or one time. Oh, there were several candidates, but I couldnât just pick one. I promised Mike that I would think about it and we could talk about it the next night. That satisfied him for the moment.
That next night, I was ready. I described a guy, Ted, from my comparative lit class. We were having coffee at the snack bar and discussing the various works we had read. The snack bar was closing, so we decided to move our studies to his apartment, just 2 blocks off-campus. Keep in mind that when I went to a guyâs place, I usually ended up fucking him. Ted never did anything to show a desire to have sex with me, but that was just my slutty frame of mind.