My lovely Ruth is sitting on the sofa wearing only a short top and a small skirt. The legs are slightly spread apart. I can make out a white panty under the hem of the skirt. The nipples strain against the thin fabric. She takes some deep breaths. Nervous. The full, soft breasts dove faintly in time with the breath. I asked her to drop her bra after the shower. She is full of anticipation. Excited, a little shy, but a bit horny already, I'm guessing.
After setting up and starting the GoPro, I walk over and tie the scarf over her eyes. She has tried a few different ones and found one that is both comfortable to wear and completely opaque. Then we wait eagerly for the doorbell to sound. We have invited John to an exciting experience.
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We are a couple in our twenties who have been together for several years already. My name is Carl and Ruth is my girlfriend. Our sex life is delicious and varied, and we occasionally share fantasies with each other. It turns us on and makes us extra horny. The sex becomes juicier and fiercer that way. But for a long time, the fantasies were limited to things we could only do with each other, just the two of us.
We are completely ordinary people. Decent appearance. Maybe a few pounds more than we'd like, but not many. But who hasn't those extra pounds these days? Still childless, but hopefully not forever. Good jobs and a good life in every way. We have some sexual experiences with others before we met. But not terribly much. Maybe I some more than Ruth. She was a bit shy and reticent to express herself in that area before we became a couple. Most of the times it was just kissing and cuddling with those she fell for. Although, she was no virgin. With me she is hot and hungry. Loves cuddling and lots of sex.
Like so many other men, I have fantasized about Ruth having sex with someone other than me. Not in a way that humiliates me. Not at all. But in a way that gives her heavenly pleasure and satisfaction.
Preferably the other man and I caresses and satisfies her together. Or I watch while he massages, caresses, kisses, teases and stirs her up. Brings her to orgasm with his tongue, penetrates her. She rides him and moans with pleasure. Kissing him deep and wet. Whimpers wildly as the orgasms rip through her body. I love to see her enjoying herself. But so far it had only been with me. I don't feel the slightest hint of jealousy either from such fantasies or when she occasionally mentions something from her past experiences.
I had often wondered in my quiet mind why I experienced such a total lack of jealousy in relation to such fantasies. The fact that only warm, good feelings welled up in me at the thought that Ruth experienced something good in her life. This was by no means limited to the erotic and sexual. No, it applied in all areas of life. But the fact that it was also like this when she was successful at work, for example, and received positive feedback there, is not so surprising. But I thought it was strange that it was the same in areas where others talk about jealousy and bad feelings.
Eventually I came across something called "compersion". A relatively new term that accurately described what I experienced. A happiness and compassion that occurs when a person experiences joy in their lover's joy, happiness and pleasure together with other people, not just oneself. And doing so completely regardless of which area of life it is connected to. Even in the sexual area, this emotional phenomenon can occur and give intense feelings of joy and sexual co-arousal. Erotic arousal from the partner being aroused. Even when another person is the source of the partner's pleasure at the moment.
It took some time before I dared mention such fantasies to her. Although eventually I had a scientific name for this experience. I was afraid she would think I was a pervert or something. When I finally plucked up the courage, she was silent for a long time before asking if I really meant it. Wouldn't I be terribly jealous? Won't you be afraid that I will like it so much that I will leave you and rather be with this other fellow? That feelings will arise between him and me. That it destroys something between us.
"No, I'm pretty sure that won't happen. It's you and me. Our love is so much deeper than just sex can ever be. I don't think something like this would threaten the relationship, even if we were serious about it. Emotions are not dangerous in themselves. Perhaps necessary to a certain extent to really enjoy sex and lovemaking. But it's a long step from there to the deepest love. After all, we both had someone else before we met. And it was often just for fun, nothing more than a crush at most. And we can try to proceed carefully and stop at any time if one of us notices any problematic feelings."
Then I told her what I had found out about compersion. Eventually she understood how I felt and that these were genuine feelings and wishes.
She thought about it a bit and asked me to talk more about my fantasies. Tell her what another man could do to her. Run a little role-playing game where I was the other, while I, the boyfriend, sat next to her and watched her and this other man. Or maybe even participated. This quickly became our favorite game. Not always when we had sex, but occasionally. At first, she just closed her eyes to be able to surrender herself to this "stranger" more easily. But eventually it became a regular routine that I tied a scarf over her eyes. That way she could more easily focus on her own pleasure that this fantasy man gave her. And maybe don't confuse this imaginary man with me... For maximum focus only on her own pleasure. If I came home one day and she had this scarf dangling around her neck, I knew what I could look forward to that night.
After some time with this game of ours, I suggested that maybe we should try it out in real life. Surprisingly quickly it came from Ruth: "Yes, we can if you still think you can handle it. But then I will still wear the scarf. At least in the beginning. And we must find someone who can't be a future boyfriend candidate. Not because I think I might be tempted, but so that you will be 100% confident in me. You may find someone. The most important thing is that it's someone you can trust in every possible way. And he must be someone you understand that I will like too. Even if this is just for our mutual sexual enjoyment and I'm wearing my scarf. This little game of ours has brought up something new and exciting. The feeling that I am desired by "another man", not "only you". It has intensified and increased the desire and urge for sex. But you MUST be close. You, my love, must be there with me."
I was a little blown away by her quick and clear response. This was probably something that had matured in her over time. She had only been waiting for me to make the proposal. Fantastic! I was bubbling and boiling inside with anticipation. The sex that night was our hottest in years.
To make a long story short, I tried to do some research online. How do one find a safe man who does not threaten the relationship in any way? Then I posted a couple of ads and was inundated with responses. But those I thought would be suitable for us, was few and far between. There were no shortage of self-proclaimed extreme super lovers, macho men, alpha males and monster penises. And a lot of intimate pictures that only brought out disgust. When even I felt that way, I had no doubt what Ruth would think of them.
Eventually I managed to get through the pile and found one that seemed OK. He was quite a bit older than us. Seemed like a reasonable and thoughtful man. Lived in an open relationship, without being hyperactive on that front. His partner was even less active. He had tested himself for illnesses after the previous adventures, which was quite a while back in time. He also had some experience with threesomes with two men and one woman. Sometimes with his own partner, other times where he was the extra man. He was relatively slim and in good shape. No hanging belly or butt. Of course, some photos were exchanged eventually. Below the waist, he was well equipped, somewhat above average, especially in terms of thickness. But not an abnormal size, fortunately. I told him that Ruth wanted to wear a blindfold and why. Also, that we wanted to have a GoPro camera running to be able to have some fun afterwards. At least I did. Ruth wasn't too sure if she needed any recording but was all for it anyway. He seemed a little concerned about this, but suggested he could wear a face mask if that was okay with us. Of course it was.
I met him IRL before he was invited to meet us. The chemistry between him and me was good. I was sure that this was the right man for us. This guy met our requirements, both mine and Ruth's. She would like him too. I then described these role plays of ours in further detail and suggested that we could start like that. I could be the voice that described, suggested and told what would happen, just like I used to. He could try to follow my story and at the same time be aware of what Ruth herself initiated and follow up on that. Stop and pause words were agreed upon in case one of the three of us didn't want to go any further. Either with the whole thing, or just what was going on then and there.