I am Shirley.
I met Roger when he was a mature university student and I was a naive 20 year old. He was exciting and different from all my male friends. He used long words and talked about how we would spend our time in romantic places.
We experimented with different positions and had sex in different places, including sex in woods in a public park and by a riverside footpath. The only thing I denied Roger was the use of my bum with his fingers or his cock. He used his tongue to rim me, which is sensational, and to go into my anus. But no more than that.
We slept together on my 21st birthday. He was my first. I moved in to his flat a year later. Sex was great but it wasn't the be-all of our relationship. He encouraged me to study for Uni. When I was accepted for entrance he told me "Uni is the time to learn to grow intellectually and sexually. Its a time to sow your wild oats. Don't be afraid to experiment. Consider your time at Uni as us having an open relationship. But I don't want to hear the details."
I was shocked. I had heard of open relationships but never thought that I would be in one.
I said "Let me get this straight. You are saying that you are happy for me to have sex with other men and you to have sex with other women?"
Roger said "Yes. It lets you be free of any guilt. After Uni we can go mono a mono."
I said "I don't want you to have sex with other people. I want you to be faithful."
He agreed.
ROGER'S BRAGS
After our agreement Roger bragged to the other students about how I was "sex mad and liked having 3somes and group sex". There wasn't an ounce of truth in his brags. But people believed his wild stories of him liking to watch me "fuck 2 or more other men". He fabricated how I loved cock up my arse. I had never allowed Roger to put his finger up my rear yet alone his cock.
Because of Roger I was labelled a slut even before I arrived at Uni. But he never told me about his brags. The initial week of Uni is called "Fuck A Fresher week". I had a head start in attracting a man. I slept with 3 men that first week.
Because of Roger and Freshers Week I continued to be extremely popular with the male students. Then I discovered why I was so popular. People believed the lies about me. They thought that I wanted kinky group sex and "craved cock". It suited me to not dispel this myth. I was getting offers of meals from lots of male students. I had the pick of the men.
A few led to one night stands. I always insisted that they used condoms even though I was on the pill. I know the dangers of Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
ROGER IMPREGNATES RUTH
But Roger never kept to his promise. He convinced Ruth (an older woman) that he was single, in love with her and wanted to be married to her. While I was having safe sex, they only had unprotected sex because "it feels better without that flimsy film". Of course he got her pregnant. They continued to have sex even though their child was growing in her womb.
When their son was born, Roger made excuses about why he couldn't marry Ruth. They continued fucking while she weaned their child. She still expected they would get wed.
He kept their relationship and their son a secret from me.
I was having meaningless sex with lots of students, But Ruth was having (what she thought was) a spiritual and emotional sex with my partner. I thought that I was having a spiritual and emotional relationship with Roger.
Roger kept up his double sex life for a full year. But I found out. I was furious. I said "I want to know everything about it. I want to hear you tell me the full details in chronological order and no lies or half truths."
Even more distressing was that Roger told me that Ruth allowed him to fuck her up the arse. He told me that she really liked the feeling of him being up her rear almost as much as him being up her vaginal canal. He told me that he loved having his cock up her bum hole more than in her mouth or cunt.
He had even managed to have sex with Ruth and me on the same day. He said that sometimes she was better in bed than I was but often I was more fun, because we had sex in places other than a bed.
ULTIMATUMS
I said "Is it her or me?"
Roger said "It could only be you. I have been stupid. Ruth was so clingy. I wanted to tell her that it was a mistake but I just couldn't. But anyway you were fucking lots of men."