l decided to put this story in 'Loving wives'
I suppose it could go into 'fetish' but also 'reluctance/ non consent', or even 'mature' because of our ages, or 'first time' see my point? Any body with a problem about that, can kiss my fetish!
I am in bed, beside my sleeping wife.
I hardly slept at all, as the sky begins to brighten, my cock is straining again.
But the chrome metal cage it is encased in, prevents it from getting erect, hard, bigger.
This is my life now, and I love it.
Rewind a month.
My wife again complained that I have to control my masterbating, I wake her up of a morning. Most mornings really.
That's when I am horny, and it's the only way I am allowed to enjoy sex, by myself, with myself.
Being married for 30 years has taken it's toll on our relationship.
My wife Wendy has lost the urge, energy, and is just not interested in sex, at all.
One rare morning that she was up early while I was still in bed, wanking, she strode in and sat on the bed beside me.
"Could you stop that please? I have something I need to tell you!" She commanded, with a look of disgust on her face as she looked at my cock in my fist.
"I don't want to have sex with you any more, and you need to stop doing that!" she stated, with that, she got up and walked out.
That softened my cock so fast that I gave up on what I had been enjoying.
I lay there thinking as the blood returned to my brain.
I began to get angry, in fact I think every emotion possible ran through my head. What has happened to our relationship that a wife no longer wanted to share her body with the man that loved her?
That one short statement rocked my whole life. Floored me.
How dare she? I'm her husband, she can't do that to me!
Why? Is this a divorce coming, is she having an affair? What?
I was dumbfounded.
I got breakfast, but we kept away from each other.
I really did not trust myself near her, violence was brewing, I felt it in my whole being, I wanted to lash out, In 40 years I had never touched my wife in aggression, but I wanted to that day.
I felt belittled, angry ashamed, insulted but mostly sad, sad that after so many years of happy marriage with the woman I loved, it had come to this. A total waste of our lives together. I kept remembering all the wild sex we enjoyed together. What happened?
The wild sex, her willingness to give herself to me was one of the things that made me ask her to marry me.
Any woman that allowed, and enjoyed what we did to each other, I needed to hang on to.
I wondered if maybe there was another, but no! We were too close, we did everything together, everything, shopping socialising, we rarely were apart, even though 2 of our male neighbours once admitted to me that they would fuck her given the opportunity, but that was years ago when we were young, and pretty active socially.
We never actually did IT with the neighbours but we did fool around a bit, as you do when there's booze and a pool, but that's another story.
Any way, time went on, and eventually I calmed down a little, after a few weeks I realised that my sex life with her was indeed over, and after admitting, that we all have the right to decide what is appropriate for our own bodies, I grudgingly had to admit that she does have that right to refuse me.
But I also have the right to enjoy sex if I wish, and she does not have any right to stop me. So divorce and look for another? No. not what I want. A secret affair? No.
Masterbating? Yep. The only option that suited me, but I still am angry at her trying to stop me experiencing sex. We're a long time dead, so I want as much as I can get to tide me over, also with arthritis setting in, orgasms are a good way to forget about the constant pain, so I continued abusing my cock each morning. I told her she can put up with it or join me. She put up with it, ignoring my self abuse!
We settled down after a while, accepted each other as we are, she began to understand my needs and came to tolerate my masterbation, and I accepted her decision for celibacy.
But I was missing the intimacy of my wife, the holding hands, sitting together while watching TV, the things couples do. Eventually I exploded in a rant, telling her that I understood her wishes but I'm getting older and want to enjoy my life as much and as long as I could before I die, and including intimacy, cuddling, sex of some description with her.
Again we stopped talking to each other, so I messaged her so she could read and re-read it as much as she liked, as follows.
I know you don't like talking about personal stuff specially sex. But I need relief so I am forced to masterbate, a lot, the pump has increased my size but already I am shrinking back to normal which happens if I stop using it.
But it seems to be keeping my prostate healthy, and relieve the stress of not having sex.
But I can feel your disapproval as you totally ignore me, even not looking at my cock any more. though you know what I'm doing.
Men need release.
I have decided to try a chastity cage, it will stop me from molesting you, by not allowing me to get hard!
I know you are not interested in having sex any more.
It has taken a long time to accept it, but if that is what you want then I have to accept that I will never experience that with you again in my life, and I still love you very much, but I still feel angry that you have taken away my right to have sex with my wife.
But I still need sex in some form. Masterbating relieves that urgency and keeps things working healthy.
I keep thinking of Tony, our neighbour, I do not want to end up with prostate cancer like him, I don't think I could live like that! And I don't want to!
So... I want to try wearing a cage, apparently a lot of husbands do. And their wives hold the key.
You would be in control of-my ability to get hard, in doing so I willingly give control of my cock to you.
It seems strange but by agreeing to do this one thing l feel like you do care!
I want us to try it, you have complete control of when I am allowed free and when I can masterbate.
I would have to ask you to release me for any reason and you can refuse if you wish.
It is actually a form of showing how much I love you by giving myself to you.
From what I have read, it gives me something to look forward to, because at the moment i am very bored with my life, I miss having sex with you, and this is something you may enjoy, control over my pleasure! I will.
usually once a week the wife teases the man to get him stiff, it is supposed to feel good but show that the wife decides completely what happens, and women seem to like having that power over their husband.
To remove the cage and allow me to have whatever relief you wish before putting the cage back on.
It seems like years that I have waited to make love to you, and only now have I come to accept that you no longer want me to show my love in that way ever again.
I love you but I need sexual release in some form, so I give the key to you hoping that you can do this for me.
I want you to control when i am relieved.
The idea certainly gives me a thrill, and i believe this will bring us back closer.
As far as I am concerned the key is yours to do what you wish, and so am I.
I hope you will tease me with it. I really miss you touching me
You can use this as punishment or for my pleasure, up to you, even to get your way over things.
It is what I hope for, I need it.
I need something to show that you love me because
I love you.
Please try this I beg you.
It took a few days, but she did decide to talk.
"I've been thinking, yes I'll try it, you're right it hasn't been fair on you, but this cage thing, you'll have to explain some more, I'm not sure I understand why you would do this." She started.
"Look, we both get something out of this."
I get some form of sex and affection from you, that's all I wanted, and I should eventually stop being so angry at you.
You get an attentive husband, and complete control over me, sort of a lifestyle game, you basically control me and my body, you can use that control for pleasure or punishment, to tease or taunt me." I explained.
"Ok but why the cage? Doesn't that stop you from enjoying yourself?" She asked.
"Yes, that's the point, I get so worked up that eventually when you let me out, the orgasm it so intense it's unbearable, and it plays on my mind that you are the one that controls it, not me, and by continual teasing me, strains my cock in the cage making me beg for release, which you decide whether to, or not, sort of cock teasing." I continued.
"Mmmmm I like that idea, you may regret this you know!" She replied.
"Ok what do we do" she added.
"I've done some googling, you can decide which one you want for me, here." I said as I showed her the various designs, my cock swelling in anticipation.
"Yes, there's plenty to choose from, there this one, it looks like it's too small for you, that should keep you under control"
She said showing me a really short cage, that only allows the glans to be exposed, and in stainless steel.
My cock began to throb at the sight of it and the expression on her face.
Over the next few days we chatted as we waited for it to arrive, my wife had already begun to tease me, she was getting into it, but I wasn't entirely sure it was for the right reason. One morning while I was stiff she remarked. " I think you need to shave down there, completely, all of it. Then show me!"
I did, and returned to her, still in bed sporting a hairless rigid seven inch hard-on.
When the cage did arrive, she commanded me to strip naked as she opened the box and turned it over in her hands.
When she looked up at me standing there naked with a full 7 inch erection, she laughed, holding it up beside my raging hardon.
"Wow, I'm no expert but, seven into one, won't go dear. But it's going to be funny trying." She giggled.
"Are you sure? Once it's on, it stays on!" She threatened.
I nodded. "Yes"
My wife grasped my cock and fitted the base over my balls but no matter how we tried my cock was too stiff to push through the ring.