There comes a point in a man's life when the hard decisions have to be made. Do you fight or throw in the towel? I believed that there wasn't anything that could make my wife do what she did to me. I had been married to her for 25 years and we have three kids. Macy is my baby girl and she is 18. Mike is 20 years old and in the Navy. Jason is 24, married with my 3 grandkids. I haven't worked this hard and provided for my family to just walk away. It isn't that she cheated, it's the way she cheated. I guess after 27 years together she had been getting bored and made the decision to spice up her own life. I'm quite sure that she thought I was clueless and would never think she was capable of cheating. I understood how she felt, it's just I would never have hurt her in that way. Maybe I'm just a fool in love or maybe I'm stupid and believed in the wrong person.
My name is Wallace Banks and my wife is Marion. We're both 45 years old. I would say we're middle age but I don't feel that way. I run three miles a day, eat right and love my family. Isn't that what a man is surposed to do, take care of his family. Marion has been my rock for 25 years of marriage and she laid the foundation in the two years we dated. Marion had always been the one that holds our family together. She has been there for weddings, hospital visits and deaths. Through out it all she was steady as a rock. So why am I sitting alone in our family home awaiting the kids' return? Here's why!
Over the last year Marion had been somewhat distant. She didn't go out as much and she always seemed to be in deep thought. Whenever I asked what was wrong she said "nothing". Over the last three months, I wouldn't let her end it at that. I told her time and time again that we're husband and wife. We have always been there for each other and nothing would ever change that. For the first time in a long while, she smiled. It melted my heart and I started thinking we would be okay.
Marion asked me to sit down and no to say anything till she finished. I nodded and sat. Marion spent the next hour telling me how she was feeling. A lot of it was news to me but I truly listened. She felt that she was losing her idenity in our marriage. She needed to get back to being her. She wanted to live alone for a while and find herself. Marion let me know she had been feeling this way for the last few years. Now that Macy was leaving for college, it was time for her to live her life. Marion told me that she had found an apartment and would move out the day after Macy left for school.
I don't remember Marion leaving the room. The next time I was aware of anything was when Macy asked me what was wrong. It was 2 am and she had just got back from a date. Macy looked at me and said, "Mom told you didn't she?"
I asked when had she found out. Macy said that Marion had told all of them about 3 months ago that she planned to leave. I looked at Macy and asked why hadn't she told me before now that she knew what her mom had planned. Macy said that her mom made her promise not to say any thing. Now I was feeling not only had my wife thrown away my love but now I felt my kids betrayed me also. They knew and just didn't tell me. Later on, I found out everyone also knew something else but they weren't telling me. But I had a feeling it was coming to a head soon .
I found out later on that Marion had been having an affair for 3 years and she was in love with the other man. James was 33 and she felt that this was some thing she had to do. I decided not to fight the divorce. If she wanted to walk away I would let her, but there would be a price to pay. Marion's price would be the house and my retirement. She wants to go, so be it but I'm not giving up the house I paid for because she wants to move on with her life. I also refused to pay for her cheating on me. She cheats, chooses to leave and I have to pay you for messing me over. Never gonna happen.
With the stroke of a pen, a 25 year marriage is over. She walked away with everything that belonged to her or things that where left to her. That final day in court, I wished her well and left. I was moving on with my life. It would be seven years before I laid eyes on Marion again. The first thing I did after I was granted my freedom, was to go deep sea fishing. It was one of the best choices I have ever made. I loved it so much that I sold the house and got a boat. I put in my retirement papers and cashed in my 401k and planned my next move. I had $450,000 in the bank and I would recieve a check for $2,500 monthly for the rest of my life. I purchased a 25 foot cabin cruiser. I planned to sail around til I died or at least met a sexy mermaid. A man can dream can't he? A life on the sea was the one for me, isn't that how the saying goes. Life moves pretty fast. I've been a free man for about 7 years now.
I had just finshed a three month cruise when I recieved a call from Macy. Macy asked how I was doing and where I was. I asked her why and what was up because it sounded like she was fishing for info. Macy then told me that Marion needed my help. I asked Macy why would her mom need my help? Macy asked if I knew her mom had given birth to a little girl. I told her no. Then Macy asked if I would sit down and talk with her mother. I said no to that question too. Macy then asked how I could be so heartless. I asked her what do you call a family that knows their mom is leaving her husband for two months but never tells their father. Then I hung up. The phone began ringing off the hook for the next ten minutes. I couldn't take it anymore so I turned it off. The next morning I changed my number and planned my next cruise. I would head for St. Thomas and then head for Berumda. After that I would come up with some new place to travel to. The day I got ready to leave, my two sons showed up. Mike and Jason looked like they were scared to talk first so I invited them on the boat and offered them a beer.
Jason was the first to speak. "Dad, we know we were wrong for not telling you what mom had planned, but in all fairness we didn't think you would hurt that long. I'm mean you spent all of your time at work," said Jason.
Mike then said "Mom was lonely and made a mistake. Now she needs your help and you're turning your back on her."
I just sat there looking at them.
Jason asked, "Are you going to say anything?"
I wanted to make sure that they understood my point before I sat sail. "I don't understand you guys. Your mom cheated, left, we have been divorced for years now and she has now had a baby with another man. So exactly what does this have to do with me? Remember I'm the guy that you helped blindside. All three of you knew what you mom had planned and you said nothing. Now, she's down and out and I'm the bad guy. I'm surprised you found me, I mean I haven't heard from either of you in seven years. I did see a picture of the three of you with your mom and her new husband in the paper. You guys where having a cook out celebrating their new wing at the hospital. It called the group of you the happiest family in town. So once again, why are you here now?"
They both sat there just looking at each other not knowing what to say. Jason cleared his throat and said, "Karen needs a kidney and she needs you to be tested."
I asked, "Why would I need to be tested, Marion's child isn't related to me, so once again why are you here?
Then Jason and Mike completed my betrayal. "Dad, Karen is yours, Mom was pregnant before she left."
To say I was shell shocked was an understatement. "How old is the child?
Jason said, "She is 7 years old. I asked, "When did you find out?"
Mike said, "Mom told us at the same time she told us about her plans for divorce."
I couldn't believe that I raised them to be men like this. I had always taught them to do what is right and they turned out like this crap. I got up, walked to the door and opened it. I stood there looking at them till they got the point. They both left. I was preparing to leave when Marion showed up. I had pulled anchor and I was floating away from the pier when she ran and jumped aboard. The boat was about 7 feet from the pier when I turned off the engines. I was about to toss her ass over board when a little girl walked up to the pier. She was yelling for her mom.