We've been married a while - we've had our tenth anniversary but not our fifteenth. My husband says it just keeps getting better. I think it's been great but that it has been same-ish for a while. Great, no complaints, or, almost none. We just keep making it up as we go along.
For instance, we make up rules and try to stick to them - garbage, dishwasher, stuff like that. Doesn't everybody do that?
My favorite rules are about sex. Rule eleven is that neither of us can deny the other twice in a row. The first time, you have a choice. If you don't want to, you don't have to.
But.
That wonderful 'but'. I think we love rule eleven. Either of us can create a wonderful sexual tension either by asking when you know the answer is 'No', or by answering, "No" when the other thinks you're going to say "Yes".
Of course, both of us have agreed to sex the first time just to avoid invoking rule eleven. Sometimes it's simpler just to go ahead. It's a lot easier with me, since I can make him come really quick when I want to - men are so easy, aren't they? He has a lot harder time since I'm more of a challenge. I don't hold back as that would be unfair, but he has to get me in the mood if he's going to put me over the edge.
Getting me in the mood can take a while or some effort, depending on how I feel when he starts.
Oh, I see that I forgot to explain the subtext of rule eleven. When you ask for sex, if you get your wish, you have to take the other to orgasm. All the way. Over the top. The little death. Okay.
Anyway, last night I was watching TV. I don't have that many programs but this one was one of my favorites and I forgot to set the DVR and I was right in the middle, so I'm focused, okay?
"Hey, baby, I need you."
"What?" I wasn't really paying attention. There was some bomb and the heroine had just decided she really did love....
"I need you. Right now." He's standing by the door to the hallway to the bedroom, his arousal quite obvious given all he was wearing was his pajama bottoms. I love the little bit of hair on his chest - it's so dark and mysterious.
"I don't think so - I'm right in the middle of this. Did you feed the bird?"
"Yes, but I want to kiss you, right now, on the lips and ..."
"GO AWAY. Not now, okay, I'm concentrating..."
He's shifting from foot to foot, impatiently, his tent pole wiggling the pjs, his biceps all manly and his shoulders so broad. His butt's a little big, but that just gives me something to hold on to when he's on top. He really is a wonderful lover, most of the time, and I've taught him exactly how I like him to kiss me and, thank God, he doesn't always do it like I like, and my favorite is when he....
"Oh, OK, but you just invoked rule eleven!" He stomps off, smiling.
That bastard (the one I love)! Is this what he wanted? I go back to my program. She put the bomb in the evil twins' car trunk and managed to kiss the one she might be in love with and to let the one she really loved see her ass as she bent over to retrieve her gun and, you know, it'll be on next week, anyway.
Teach me to remember to set the DVR. Damned TV.
So I get up and go to finish cleaning the kitchen but he's already put everything away. I'll never find anything but it was sweet since it was my turn to clean up. He cooked and it was wonderful and I think about how easy he is to live with in some ways (not every way, though.) There was laundry to finish and I had to finish my email and next thing I know, it's time for bed.
I forgot all about rule eleven.
He was asleep when I passed through the bedroom to the bathroom. I paused just a second to look at him. They look like little boys when they're asleep, don't they? He's so cute when he's not trying to be anything. Just himself. I took him in, all of him, and shivered, just a little, then went into the bathroom.
I pulled off my top and threw it in the hamper. I washed my face, noticing a few lines that weren't there last time I looked, and put some special super-duper cream on to make them go away. I pinned my hair back, looking for any gray peeking through, and quit looking soon enough to be sure I didn't find any.
I unfastened my bra and let my breasts free. Damn, that feels good. They don't sag too much, yet, anyway and still look almost like when I was twenty (forget sixteen - I just don't' think about it anymore, unless I'm drunk). I rely on him to keep my morale up, there - he is totally infatuated with 'the Ladies' as he calls them. He will fondle them as long as I let him, and kiss them, starting on my chest just above, loving the edge where they start, then licking and sucking all over, licking the underside and the crease where they stop, slurping me all slobbery and finally sucking my nipple in, first the one, then the other. I'm not coaching him or anything, the man loves his breasts and I've learned to appreciate his reptilian brain when it lets loose. I surrender to the pure sensation and throw my arms over my head and let him play.
It puts me in the mood.
They're not big enough for me to kiss, so I pat them lovingly and add a little moisturizer to put help them sleep. I remain topless and drop my pants.